How do preschool teachers regulate their emotions?

Introduction: Kindergarten teachers’ emotions directly affect children’s mental health. The "Outline" clearly stipulates that health education should be given top priority in kindergartens, and cultivating children with a sound personality has become the purpose of our education. But looking at the recent early childhood education in China, we often see teachers beating children and corporally punishing children with almost abnormal emotional expressions, which makes us amazed. What caused it? The reason is that the teacher did not manage his emotions well and allowed his anger to be expressed to the maximum extent. How preschool teachers regulate their emotions

Stress and negative emotions

Thirty-year-old Jiang Han (pseudonym) is a daycare teacher in a private kindergarten. From 8 a.m. to 4:30 p.m., she, together with another deputy head teacher and life teacher, have to take care of the eating, drinking, eating, drinking, and playing games of 25 children aged 2 to 3 years old. ?It wasn’t until the last child was picked up safely that my heart was completely relieved. ?

Director Yao Lixin of the Hangzhou Mental Health Education Research Center told reporters that 13% of primary and secondary school teachers in Hangzhou have various psychological problems, while kindergarten teachers have many problems due to factors such as establishment, professional title, income, and social status. There is even more psychological pressure. At the same time, the young age of the service targets, the huge workload, the personal safety of the children, and the poor communication between teachers and children can easily trigger negative emotions among preschool teachers.

Preschool teachers should learn to manage their emotions

However, when faced with children who are also difficult to discipline, some teachers will be more gentle, while others will take drastic actions.

Luo Hong, a doctor of psychology and associate professor of Zhejiang Science and Technology University, believes that everyone in life has pressure, and the wrong way of coping exposes his own psychological problems. He said that in industries that serve people, practitioners will have "empathy", that is, they will transfer their emotions towards important people to the service recipients. A female teacher who is ignored by her husband at home is more likely to become angry with her children? In fact, it is a transfer of her husband's anger.

Relevant research shows that stress comes from the imbalance between work and life, which is particularly obvious for women. Luo Hong believes that in the kindergarten teacher industry where women are the mainstay, in addition to formulating and observing strict professional ethics, emotional management should become a required course for them.

?The service targets are children who are not yet able to protect themselves. If practitioners cannot manage their emotions correctly, it will undoubtedly increase the chance of harming the children. ?he said.

Mental health should become the most basic entry threshold for the teaching profession

Shu Man, a national second-level psychological counselor, is often invited to schools to provide psychological counseling to students. She said with deep understanding that many schools pay attention to the mental health of students but ignore the psychological counseling of teachers. When teachers’ negative emotions cannot find an outlet, children may become the most direct victims.

?When some formal large companies recruit employees, they will conduct corresponding psychological assessments and personality tests on the applicants. Unfortunately, the vast majority of schools may ignore this item, resulting in psychological People with lower fitness levels enter the teaching force. Shu Man said that entering school is the first step for young children to break away from their parents and come into contact with society. If they encounter a teacher who does not know how to deal with emotions, has no self-control, and has a defective personality, then what will happen to them? The psychological damage to children is lifelong. ?

?In this sense, mental health and personality should become the most basic entry threshold for the teaching profession. ?Shu Man said.

Case 1

Cheng Lei, 24 years old, a public kindergarten teacher, 2 years of experience

Continuously learn and improve yourself

Interview On that day, Cheng Leigang had just completed the training on "Teachers' Effective Response in Group Teaching Activities" organized by the Jianggan District Education Bureau. Just last week, she took the national psychological counselor exam.

With the emphasis on early childhood education, society, parents and teachers themselves have increasingly higher requirements for this industry. Two years ago, after Cheng Lei graduated from Hangzhou Preschool Education Major, she continued her studies in various skills training and lectures inside and outside the kindergarten.

The lesson that impressed her the most was from Ying Caiyun, a famous early childhood education expert in Shanghai.

Teacher Ying said that if you love life, you will have an open mind and enough wisdom to handle various relationships, such as the relationship with your boyfriend and your parents; only then will you have enough enthusiasm and patience to love your work and your children. .

School is the best support system for teachers

Cheng Lei said that her love for this job and her love for the children here have a lot to do with her own reasons and the kindergarten where she works.

She is from Shaoxing, but she never felt like a foreigner in the kindergarten. This is due to the fact that they have a team that cares for and understands each other.

The kindergarten leaders will try to get as many training opportunities for them as possible, and will gossip about their love process, which makes the teachers feel very warm.

Under the initiative of the teachers, various societies have been established in the park, such as mountain climbing clubs, book clubs, and fitness dances. Teachers choose to participate according to their own interests and hobbies. Cheng Lei participated in a fitness dance. A dance not only drove away fatigue, but also made her physically and mentally happy.

When children are unreasonable, calm down first.

Should children be punished if they are naughty? In Cheng Lei’s view, 100 children have 100 languages. It is natural for children to be naughty. She Are you more willing to discover the appeal behind it through the behavior itself? What does the child want to get through the naughty behavior? To attract everyone's attention, or to get a favorite toy?

The time when she feels she is most helpless is when she is a newborn. The school started? The classroom was filled with cries one after another. Sometimes it is difficult to calm down, but as soon as one child starts crying, the other children will immediately start crying. But at this time, "I am not irritable, but distressed," Cheng Lei said, "I will calm myself down first, and then find a way to deal with it. I will distract their attention by playing games, telling stories, and playing with toys." . ?

What if it still doesn’t work? Then I will refer it to a teacher with rich experience, and maybe it will be OK! Cheng Lei, who has studied psychological counselor courses, said.

Case 2

Teacher Zhang, a head teacher of a primary school in Hangzhou, 42 years old, with 22 years of teaching experience

In order to save "problem students", she used her spare time to visit homes one by one

There was a child who had poor grades and was always making trouble. He made so much noise in class that others could not listen to the class. As a result, parents unanimously demanded that this "black sheep" be kicked out of their children's classes.

Faced with such a request, what should teachers do? A year ago, Teacher Zhang faced such a situation. After she took over, she faced a dilemma, thought for a long time, and decided not to abandon the child. She visited each family one by one and asked the parents to give the child a chance to correct himself.

Her sincerity impressed the parents. Regarding the child that others cannot accept, Teacher Zhang knows that only by truly liking and accepting him can he change. So, she mobilized the whole class to help him. When she found something good, she recognized him; when she made a little progress, she praised him. Later, the child integrated into the group, made great progress, and achieved good results in the areas he liked. The class also formed a united and progressive atmosphere.

Teacher Zhang, who has been teaching for 22 years, said with confidence, "I love every student, and every child is an angel in my eyes."

Loving children is the most basic professional quality of a teacher

? I am just an ordinary teacher who only knows how to educate. As long as you love your work, love your students, and have a sense of responsibility from the bottom of your heart, no matter how bad the teacher is, you won't be that bad. ?

In Teacher Zhang’s view, any profession, no matter how enthusiastic you are at the beginning, will lead to burnout as time goes by, not to mention such trivial teaching work. She also experienced career burnout, but what sustained her was her innate love for children. In the beginning, it was precisely because of this love that she chose to teach and educate people.

? Today’s children are very hard-working and have no time to enjoy a happy childhood. A caring and powerful teacher may be the sunshine in their lives, while an unloving or even twisted teacher will It becomes a nightmare for children, said Teacher Zhang. Therefore, when making a career choice, everyone should think carefully about whether they love this job enough and whether they love their children enough. ?

When emotions arise, it is important to think from someone else's perspective

In the past 22 years, the only thing that can make Teacher Zhang lose control of his emotions is when students make actions that endanger their personal safety. Personal safety is a high-voltage line in every school, and children are young and have weak safety awareness. At this time, Teacher Zhang will severely criticize, but will explain to the parents afterwards and ask them to cooperate to strengthen their children's safety education. What makes Teacher Zhang happy is that parents trust her very much, support her and understand her. This is also a big boost to the success of her educational work.

Teacher Zhang admitted that there are many things in life that cannot be dealt with, and he also has many emotions, but he will never bring his emotions to work. When encountering children who make mistakes, Teacher Zhang’s way of dealing with them is as follows:

1. Think from others’ perspective and deal with them with tolerance. There is no child who does not make mistakes. If a child knows that he has made a mistake, just admit it and correct it. After all, the purpose of punishment is to let children know where they went wrong and correct them.

2. Expand your field of vision and change your position. Life never goes as planned, and everyone has troubles. It is necessary to find suitable outlets for the emotions in life and not bring them into work.

3. Pause processing and adjust your emotions. If you encounter a situation that is difficult to handle, calm down first and deal with it later when you feel better.