How to create a good image of college students

1. Pay attention to the language. Language is the basic tool for human communication. People exchange ideas, transmit information and express their feelings by language. Civilized language sets up the image of human civilization, eloquent language sets up the image of human eloquence, humorous language sets up the image of human humor, and hypocritical language sets up the image of human hypocrisy. 2. Pay attention to manners. Manner refers to a person's style, appearance, manner and attitude, and also refers to the explicit expression of a person's spirit, temperament and character. Therefore, demeanor actually includes mental state, appearance etiquette, behavior attitude and speech. It actually reflects a person's morality, character, temperament, knowledge, attitude and so on. Some people say, "elegant manners are an unimpeded passport to a friend's heart." This is a "passport" that every college student friend who is eager to succeed in choosing a career deserves. 3. Pay attention to the instrument. Instrument is an important aspect of college students' self-image. Appearance image mainly refers to a person's appearance and figure. It is an intuitive external image composed of individual physiological characteristics and clothing. The beauty of appearance is the natural beauty of human beings. People with the beauty of appearance have won their first chance to succeed, because people in modern society are used to watching, evaluating and choosing people with the standard of beauty. 4. Pay attention to specific behaviors. When recruiting, how the job-seeking image of college students seems to be subjective, is the subjective impression of recruiters, and is actually objective, which is the effect of college students' behavior. From the physiological point of view, behavior is the actions made by various parts of the body, including the face, which can be conscious or unconscious. People's gestures and smiles will give people a lasting impression and produce unexpected effects. People's behavior and actions cannot be taken lightly. Perfect image can make people fight in the torrent of society, and healthy posture can make you soar in the vast sky. The times have given us college students a new mission, and the new mission requires new quality and new image. Believe in yourself and overcome everything. Let's shape ourselves in perfection and succeed in self-confidence. First, be full of energy and look natural. Maintaining vigorous energy, full enthusiasm and generous and natural expression in social communication is the primary factor to optimize personal image. When interacting with people, you are energetic, energetic and confident, which can stimulate their enthusiasm and activate the communication atmosphere. If you are depressed and listless, you will appear perfunctory and indifferent, which will make the other party feel boring and even unhappy. A person who is full of energy and looks natural will often give people the impression of self-confidence, optimism, enterprising and enthusiasm for life. A person who looks tired, distracted or shows nervous limitations and is at a loss will give people the impression of lack of social experience, immaturity, inattention and contempt for others. Therefore, in social communication, we should always pay attention to each other with great enthusiasm, be interested in what he is interested in, and respond naturally and appropriately with each other's manners. That is to say, if you want others to like you, you must like others first, and if you want to attract each other's attention, you must pay attention to each other first. Second, the instrument is neat and well dressed. John Locke, an English philosopher, said: "The purpose and function of etiquette make the original stubbornness soft, make people's temperament gentle, and make him respect others and get along with others." Clothing can reflect a person's aesthetic taste and self-cultivation. If a person's clothing can be consistent with his own temperament and occupation, with his own body and age, and with the atmosphere and occasions at that time, it will make him look more chic and attractive. Third, talk humorously and speak elegantly. Speech can directly reflect whether a person is knowledgeable or ignorant, well-educated or shallow. A poor talker. A taciturn person can hardly attract others' attention. Being able to talk about Kan Kan in social communication, using elegant and appropriate words, having substance in words, having profound insights into problems, being quick-witted and responding freely, and being able to express one's thoughts and feelings concisely, accurately, vividly and vividly, shows his extraordinary temperament and demeanor. When the writer Yu Lingsi talked with Mr. Lu Xun, he said: "Mr. Lu Xun's speech is profound, rigorous, powerful and lively, and every sentence attracts us." As the conversation went on, it emitted sincere enthusiasm more and more strongly, and there was a severe and powerful power that was transmitted from her thin face. " It makes people fascinated and has the feeling that "listening to your words is better than reading a book for a year". However, elegant speech cannot be disguised. Showing off gorgeous words will only appear shallow and grandiose; If you are too literal, it will make people feel sour. Don't talk about people behind their backs, pay attention to discretion when speaking, praise people behind their backs, talk more about their advantages, criticize people face to face and correct their shortcomings. Especially don't be glib and don't swear. Fourth, be generous. Simple and generous, gentle behavior habits, steady behavior, decent civilization, correct and elegant posture of sitting, standing and walking, can correctly show a person's good education and leave a sense of maturity and trust. Vulgar and indecent behavior is boring. Proper communication distance makes each other feel comfortable and calm psychologically, while excessive intimacy and cold talk are easy to cause misunderstanding. A person's behavior can be natural, free and easy, and informal, which is mainly based on his self-confidence besides his social experience. Only those who have confidence in themselves and believe in themselves and their abilities can be natural and generous in social interaction. A person's natural and unrestrained behavior also comes from his usual self-cultivation. This line is fine, and it's time to stop. It's time to sit down. Speaking of it, it's time to be steady and weighty, warm and measured, polite and informal. Xu Longli: Strictly speaking, optimizing personal image is a non-standard and non-format social art, which requires each of us to carefully ponder and experience, constantly sum up experience and form our own unique style and charm. (1) leave a deep impression on others. Everyone wants to leave a deep impression on others in social occasions, so that the other party or people around you can remember you as soon as possible. To do this, you must stand out. Professor Danilu, School of Psychiatry, Hawaii Medical University, USA. Pence once said, "Being conspicuous means not only making others pay attention to you, but also making others remember you." He believes that as long as you follow the following establishment, you can leave a deep and good impression. (1) wear colorful clothes. If you are a man, you might as well wear a bright red tie with gray eyes. If you are a woman, you should wear a bright turquoise scarf and a black background dress. Choose a special perfume that you often use. People almost always subconsciously react to aroma. People's sense of smell is amazing, and a little foreign fragrance will leave a lasting impression. (3) wear an interesting and different decorations. For example, if you are a lady, you can choose a hand-made ear defect with a unique style. Netizen: The display of the image doesn't have to be anything, it suits you, and it is best to stand out. Xu Longli: This is originally for your reference when optimizing your personal image. 4 spirit is uplifting. Professor Pence said: "Many people are often depressed. In contrast, people tend to remember energetic gestures." Standing upright generally does not produce listless burnout, on the contrary, it will appear energetic. ⑤ Create a slightly mysterious atmosphere. You can make hints based on your personality or some interesting things you have experienced in the past, causing suspense. Don't tell the whole story too early. For example, if you are a chef, you may lead the topic to cooking, but never claim that you are a chef. If you don't tell everything immediately, you can stop others from getting to the bottom of it and pay more attention to you. ⑥ Cultivate an interesting hobby, or master the knowledge of some strange things. For example, if you know a lot about a certain period in history or a person's "unofficial history", or can repair cars, people will be interested in you. ⑦ Speak clearly and directly. Especially in the workplace, don't beat around the bush, be vague, and don't add "Do you understand?" after every sentence. These are all impressions. (2) How to make others like you How can you make a good impression and make others like you? An American expert once suggested the following: ① Give full play to your strengths. If you give full play to your strengths, others will like being with you and cooperate with you easily. A person should first know himself and grasp his own characteristics, such as appearance, energy and speaking speed. The level and tone of voice, movements, gestures, facial expressions and other abilities to attract others' attention, etc. You know, it is according to these characteristics that others form their impressions of you. Therefore, when dealing with people, you should be confident and give full play to your strengths as much as possible. Looking back, how much do you know about yourself, have you played your strengths in your work and life, and how much can you give yourself? Those who keep their true colors and know how to communicate with others will never change their character because of different occasions. Keeping your true self and your best self is the secret to leaving a good impression. Whether you are talking with people intimately or making a speech, you should keep your true colors unchanged. Don't give people the feeling of dishonesty. ③ Be good at using eyes and eyes. Whether talking to one person or 1 people, you must remember to look at each other with your eyes. Some people look at you at first, but after only a few words, their eyes move elsewhere. When you enter a room full of people, you should naturally look around, take care of all the people with a smile, and don't avoid everyone's eyes. This will make you look relaxed. Xu Longli: Let's go back to what I said just now, mainly about how to make others like you. Let's go on. (3) How to make each other happy? Without happiness in life, the atmosphere is as monotonous as a desert. And if a person can generously promote happiness to others in communication, make others live happily and interestingly, and create a harmonious atmosphere in their own life and environment, then he will be a popular person and be invincible in social interaction. So how do you sell your happiness? (1) inspire others with self-confident personality strength. Self-confidence is a great virtue in life and a magic weapon to defeat the enemy. In social interaction, with a confident person, you will feel relaxed and happy, even if you encounter difficulties and setbacks, you will overcome them with an optimistic and confident attitude. This strength of personality itself is also an inspiration to others. 2 infect others with a charming smile. Everyone wants others to love and value themselves. Smiling can shorten the distance between people, melt the contradictions between people and relieve hostility. No one in life refuses to smile as a "bribe". Make each other happy at all costs. Netizen: No one in life refuses the "bribe" of smiling! Ok! ! Xu Longli: Who doesn't want to be happy? If you are a person who can bring happiness to each other, you will also be a popular person. In order to make the other person happy, you should find more ways to make people happy. Sometimes, you can do whatever it takes to make others happy. ④ Let humor trigger laughter in embarrassing scenes. Humor is the lever of happiness, the source of happiness in life and the lubricant of social interaction. Humor is often the most magical weapon to deal with the most nerve-racking embarrassing situation in daily life. Humorous language often brings happiness to people. If you want to sell your happiness, the best advertisement is humor. This is how to make each other happy. What can we do? Think for yourself. Xu Longli: Let's talk about how to shape a true self. In interpersonal communication, we always hope to leave a good impression on others and make them like and trust themselves. To do this, we often have to change our manners, speaking habits, hobbies and so on, in order to meet the needs of social interaction and make the other side feel good about themselves. However, this conscious self-change does not mean that you should become another person, an "actor" who imitates or caters to other people's tastes, or even deliberately hide your true feelings, or cover up your true colors, completely give up your inner temperament and turn yourself into a mask in the social arena. In fact, this practice is not desirable, it not only makes you lose your true colors, but also makes you counterproductive once others see through your practice. Some people force themselves to strut in the crowd, imposing, shaking hands with others too hard, staring at each other when talking with others, and laughing exaggeratedly to show their sense of humor ... If you really pose like this, it will produce a sense of humor, make others feel annoying, and even feel uncomfortable. In fact, the best way is to keep your original personality and characteristics and shape a true self. Inner temperament is the most precious. A person who really knows how to get along with others will never give up his inner characteristics because of the change of occasions or objects, blindly cater to and follow others. You should appear as yourself, not as anything else. We often find some people who always feel that they are not as good as others, so they constantly change themselves with the changes of environment and objects, and the result is beyond recognition. Being a true self does not mean being different from others or being original, or even being stubborn when you know that you are wrong or have some bad habits. To remain true to yourself is to maintain your unique and healthy personality which is different from others. Those who have personality may have certain charm.