Rudong, Jiangsu, Juegang Town, how to send wedding gifts

After the marriage relationship is clear, the man selects an auspicious day and asks a matchmaker to send Nian Geng to the woman's home to determine the wedding date. This is the "asking period", which Rudong people call "sending day".

In Rudong, in addition to sending dates, there is also the custom of exchanging posts, that is, both men and women change the posts of the year.

When it comes to a man's request for a date, the woman often rejects it repeatedly and makes up various reasons to "prevaricate". She has to wait for the man to ask for a date three times and four times before the woman "reluctantly" agrees. Otherwise, she has to "reluctantly" agree. They are laughed at. Soon after the date of marriage, the man will ask a fortune teller to predict the auspicious date for the wedding. This day is usually in the second year after the engagement. It is the custom of Rudong people not to have two weddings in a year, even if the engagement falls in the twelfth lunar month. , it doesn’t matter if the marriage is in the first month of the following year, but it cannot be in the same year.