When the "home" route deviates from the track

Reading: Seven Habits of Efficient Families

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Russian writer Lev? Tolstoy said: All happy families are similar, but each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.

There is some truth in this sentence, but Stephen Covey told me that a harmonious family, even a model family, is off track 90% of the time. It's just that they know where the track is, so they can come back to the track again and again

Since happy families are like this, we don't have to make a fuss about the infidelity events in our lives. We can treat them with a normal heart.

But how can we get back on track from the off-track direction? How do those happy families do it? I summed up three points from the preface of the book, hoping to inspire you.

We often say that leading a team requires a clear goal and a vision. As everyone knows, this is more needed when running a family.

Many people don't know what their vision is after marriage, or even why they got married. If you get married for the sake of marriage, there will be many problems and conflicts will easily arise after marriage.

In fact, the so-called goal needs to be agreed with the family. What do you expect from this family and what kind of family do you want it to be? You need to know the thoughts of every family member, because if this goal vision is just the thoughts of one family member, then others will not move towards the goal.

Take my own story as an example:

My husband and I are both models of happiness in the eyes of many people, but we used to quarrel a lot, and cheating was common. For example, he is very busy at work and often makes an appointment to have dinner together, but the result is that I eat alone. You don't think I'll be angry?

However, my husband and I have one advantage, that is, frequent communication. We have set the same goal and vision-we will be happy to death and our family will be happy forever. So when arguing, jump out and think calmly. Since we want to grow old together, why bother about this little thing and understand each other?

So, no matter what happens, don't forget the goal of progress, especially running a family.

Let's take dinner as an example:

If I always eat alone, I always endure, how wronged, how can I be happy? Therefore, the second secret of a happy family is to adjust in time according to feedback.

My husband runs a shop. He is the main operator. In order to spare more time and spend more time with me and my children, he hired another employee. In this way, after the rush hour, he has more free time. By doing so, he told me that he loved me.

A good relationship is often not that one party is trying to adjust, but that both parties understand and care about each other and are willing to make adjustments for each other.

In the first four years, only small buds can be seen in bamboo, but in these four years, the growth occurred in large numbers underground. By the fifth year, bamboo will suddenly grow to eight feet high.

This tells us that the change of family atmosphere is not achieved overnight, and quantitative change will form qualitative change. So no matter what efforts you make to your family, remember: your efforts are definitely worth it!

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