How should I introduce myself?

How should I introduce myself? I don't know how many times I will be asked or need to introduce myself in my life. Maybe it's a friend we met for the first time, maybe it's an interviewer, maybe it's a new classroom, a strange party. Let me introduce myself.

How should I introduce myself? 1 Some people introduce themselves simply. My name is XXX; Some people are complicated, with many titles and mixed lesbians. Some people like to show their personality (what kind of person I am); Some people pay more attention to the external evaluation (I have won so-and-so honor or affirmation). Some people will prepare various self-introduction speeches on various occasions; Some people stick to the same story everywhere.

The process of self-introduction is actually a process of finding self and self-identity, or just describing one's ideal person.

I saw a big boy named Mianba the other day. In half a year, he participated in 23 interviews, but in the end he didn't do his job well. During the consultation, I suggested that he do a role-playing exercise. I play the interviewer, who introduces himself in the interview in the most routine way.

Listen to our conversation at that time—

Xiao Wang: "First of all, thank the leaders for taking time out of their busy schedules to give me this opportunity. My name is Xiao Wang, and I am a fresh graduate of XX University. I am very interested in this job in your office. My personality is positive, optimistic, practical and full of team spirit. If you can give me this opportunity, I will definitely work hard and give you a surprise! "

Interviewer: "Anything else? Let's talk about it. "

Xiao Wang: "I am a hard worker. During my school years, I won a scholarship from the department, two first prizes and one second prize. " My interpersonal relationship has always been good. I am the person in charge of our dormitory, and I have a very harmonious relationship with my classmates ... "

Interviewer: "Can you tell me what you can do for the company if I hire you?"

Xiao Wang: "I have a strong learning ability. As long as it's not that kind of business work, in other positions, let me follow a teacher for a period of time, I will definitely learn what I should do ... "

Interviewer: "The expected salary on your resume is 2500 yuan. Why do you want to set it like this? "

Xiao Wang: "This is my first job. I came here mainly to study and gain work experience. It doesn't matter if the salary is lower, as long as it is enough for me to maintain a normal life. "

Say what you want to say or what others want to hear.

Introducing yourself is a very interesting thing to analyze. It not only involves a person's superficial social skills and expressive skills, but also reflects many deeper and more complicated contents in the introducer's mind. For example, narcissism, such as evaluation criteria, such as the ability to test reality.

Let's take a look at Xiao Wang's example. His self-introduction with a strong student atmosphere does not violate the premise of "outstanding advantages" in general interview guidance. The core of his question is "What is an advantage?" Xiao Wang told me that the reason why he introduced me like this was to give the other party a good impression of being "active, enthusiastic, studious, loyal to his duties and working hard after taking office", but what he lacked to consider was-are these impressions really "good" in the other party's view? Or the most important good impression?

The most basic criterion for enterprises to recruit employees is "being able to work" and being able to complete tasks with good quality and quantity within the specified time. This simple truth is usually subdivided into three abilities by interview counseling professionals: problem-solving ability, conflict-solving ability and team cooperation ability. To put it bluntly, at ordinary times, you can do it well when someone makes trouble and needs help from others.

Compared with these, the excellent quality of "being open-minded and eager to learn" in the student days should temporarily take a back seat. After all, the company is not a student association, it has no obligation to help you grow, and it will not provide opportunities for learning in vain-unless you show your potential and convince them that it is worthwhile.

Therefore, opening remarks like "Thank you for giving me this opportunity" are actually unnecessary. On the contrary, it will only expose your lack of confidence and make the other party wonder, "Are you not worthy?" Let's start with a humble "good afternoon", and then give a concrete example of your "work ability". Here is a short cut, which is to classify the requirements in the recruitment notice and be targeted.

Pay attention to whether the cited examples are too "naive", and never use "returning to school smoothly after getting lost in Tiananmen Square" to prove your good "problem-solving ability". Don't laugh, this is the brave words of a lovely doctoral student in an interview with a foreign company. In addition, it is not the best policy to actively reduce salary requirements. The reward paid to a person by an enterprise is commensurate with his ability. You deliberately want less, which will make the other party have less suspicion.

What are your core values?

Besides job interviews, self-introduction in life is more interesting. Last month I went on a blind date with my girlfriend and had dinner with three men. By the way, I heard about a self-introduction contest, which was as wonderful as Xiaogang Feng's screenplay.

The first man who speaks looks like a rich man, focusing on the size and assets of his company. Although modest words are frequently used in the language, the whole feeling is like a male peacock eager to open the screen.

The next speaker, whose self-esteem was obviously threatened, turned to introduce his rapid development in the past few years after graduation. The subtext is "Although my present situation is average, I am a standard potential stock, and my future is limitless".

As for the last item, he evaded the financial topic lightly, and elegantly emphasized his elegant taste of "having a wide range of hobbies and feeling between mountains and rivers", which sounded like a romantic genius who went to the wrong door at the financial summit.

In fact, no matter what the specific content of the three introductions is, psychologically speaking, they are all showing their comparative advantages. Contact other occasions that don't emphasize competition so much, such as homecoming, meetings, dinners with fellow villagers, meetings with netizens, etc. Everyone's self-introduction is actually based on his inner recognition and value judgment.

I like to emphasize wealth, because wealth is absolutely important to him. Without the wealth he is attached to, he may feel useless. It is always a torment for him to highlight his personality, because his inner pursuit is different and ignored by the people around him. And those who always give their names when it's their turn to mess around are probably used to being treated as passers-by. When the green leaves have experience, whoever kindly gives him the place of red flowers will feel uncomfortable all over.

Therefore, after listening to a person's simple self-introduction, if we pay a little attention, we can not only understand the specific information he/she wants to convey, but also roughly guess the frame of reference when he/she evaluates people, ourselves and the world.

Another kind of self-introduction is to face yourself.

All the above self-introduction is for others to see, and it is also a self-introduction to face yourself.

"Who am I" is an ancient and eternal topic in philosophy, and not many people can give a satisfactory answer. In the process of treatment, I often make visitors think about this question and let him tell what he really looks like in his eyes-who is he? Is he cute? Will you love him?

Usually visitors' own answers contain the key to breaking through the predicament, but unfortunately they can't hear it every time. In my opinion, a successful man who can definitely be classified as "successful in his career"-he owns a mansion of 150 square meters in Beijing's Third Ring Road-has been holding back for a long time, and the final answer is only a short sentence: "I am a very diligent person." When I asked, "Why don't you talk about your various identities in your career and life?" He even said, "Compared with many successful people, I am not successful in other aspects, and only' diligence' is an advantage."

Oh, my God! It seems that in his world, people can only be divided into "diligence" and "laziness", or "winners" and "losers". So it is not difficult for everyone to understand why this "diligent baby" is hospitalized every winter because of the onset of depression-our flesh and blood is not the legendary perpetual motion machine, and it is impossible to be as diligent as clockwork forever. If you don't know how to rest, symptoms will try to make you rest.

Contrary to young talents who are thinking hard about their own advantages, there is another kind of visitors who especially like to list a train full of shortcomings when doing this exercise. For example, a little beauty who is always trapped in emotion sums herself up as "nothing worth liking". No matter her temper, ability, talent, economic ability and family background, she can't get anything, so she deserves bad luck and can't find anyone. Therefore, whenever she hears an admirer's praise, she will never believe that the other person is sincere, but "deliberately said it to make me happy."

Of course, her self-mockery has actually brought her many potential benefits-when we decide that we are a bad and unlovable person, we can give up the efforts we have to make in intimate relationships by the way, or we don't have to seriously consider what we have actually done wrong when various conflicts and contradictions occur. After all, it is much easier to be a victim of fate than to face the challenge directly.

Write an "epitaph" for yourself

I forget who said that "great philosophers only ask questions, but they are never responsible for giving answers". This is probably because there is no final answer to any question about the soul, so don't ask me "what is the best self-introduction". And what I can share with you is more about finding a direction. I believe that in every seemingly unsatisfactory answer, there is a mysterious revelation that helps us move towards our ideals.

Looking back five years ago, I just gave birth and left school. No matter in a professional meeting or a private gathering, as long as I introduce myself, I will confidently say, "I am a stay-at-home mother, and I will write and consult when I have time." For a long time, I was satisfied with this self-orientation. Until one day, I suddenly had doubts about this and couldn't help asking myself-are you satisfied with your definition? Are you going to use this introduction all your life?

The answer is of course not.

So I found a blank sheet of paper and listed an ideal self-introduction in my mind. As a result, I found that my love for the three roles of "mother, writer and consultant" is the same, and no one is willing to give up easily. In this case, I need to adjust my lifestyle and leave more time and energy to the latter two roles, instead of just expressing empty feelings.

Friends who want to try this exercise may wish to list your "ideal self-introduction", the more detailed the better, and then compare your answers and think about what practical actions you can take for this. If this exercise doesn't touch you enough, try an upgraded version of it-writing an epitaph for yourself.

Owen Yalong, the master of existentialism, concluded: People who are really alive are not afraid of death. Unfortunately, many people only seriously consider how they want to live and what they think is the most meaningful when they hear death knocking at the door (such as the death of a loved one or their illness). The epitaph game can help us finish this thinking ahead of time.

Just like the diligent person mentioned in the last paragraph, when I reminded him, "How do you want people to mention you that day?" Like your son? "He didn't give an answer on the spot. So I suggested he go home and ask his 7-year-old son. His answer has never been told to me, but far more important than that, his change is said to be visible to people around him.

How should I introduce myself? First, let's take a look at what workplace experience is. Basically, career experience is an experience that combines all your previous work experiences or career transformation experiences, rather than an experience that sounds like fraud or disorder.

From this experience, others can see that you have a clear plan for your career, know where to start and use all kinds of resources. Even if it seems that these may make you take a detour, you always focus on a clear goal and show that you are getting closer to the ultimate success goal. Or maybe you can accurately identify opportunities and devote yourself to exciting and challenging events, but still lose the ultimate goal and direction. This is the real meaning of introducing workplace experience.

Knowing this, you can introduce your past professional experience into ideas in the interview, so that the interviewer can get to know you faster and more effectively and find out your value advantage.

Workplace experience is generally stated in the interview. If the past work experience is not obviously related to it, it may confuse the interviewer. At this time, an excellent workplace experience statement will play a role and even bring your interview score back to life! A good presentation can help you satisfy the other person's questions about you and even attract their attention, instead of wandering too much when you make a lengthy and disorganized statement about your professional experience.

Concise and to the point, highlighting the most advantageous features.

Grasp the time of the demonstration. Don't spend too long making your presentation. If it is too long, the interviewer may think that your speech is not focused, and it is very likely that the interviewer will be ready to interrupt your speech before you introduce your own characteristics. In the presentation, we should pay attention to several characteristics that are most conducive to winning job opportunities, such as being good at solving problems, being creative, being cautious, getting along well with people, being gregarious and being organized. You can choose three key points, but remember, don't repeat what has been mentioned in your resume.

Prepare successful work items in advance.

Not all interviews will ask you to give examples of your success at work, but it is necessary to prepare what you want to say in advance before the interview. When expounding, you should avoid exaggerating your personal achievements, just explain what you are responsible for, the precise work rules, and what the project has achieved in the end. In fact, most employers are more concerned about the experience you have than how well you do it.

Don't judge your former employer.

When stating your professional experience, you should try to avoid making subjective comments on your former employer. In fact, whether you praise or criticize your former employer is not good for you to attend the interview for a new job. Some people like to talk about how good their previous (or current) jobs were, which can easily put you in an awkward position. "Since your previous (or current) job was so good, why did you change your job?" No matter what your answer is, in fact, you may be considered an unstable person (even doubt that you can't get along)! More people like to criticize their former (or present) employers to show that they are striving for better job development. In fact, no employer likes to be criticized by employees, including the employer who is interviewing you.

Don't discuss the relationship between the budget (or expenditure) involved in the work project and your own work.

This is also a mistake that many people are prone to make. For example, you left your previous (or present) job because the company lacked budget (funds), or a project you handled was unsuccessful because of budget (or funds). This is a sensitive issue. Even if the job you are interviewing for is a company much bigger than your previous work unit, it doesn't mean that every job has enough budget and funds. If you talk about this problem in your professional experience, you will be mistaken for a person who can only do things with sufficient budget and funds.

Make your presentation more vivid, so as to keep the interviewer's attention. The content of your career experience must interest the interviewer. If it is too boring, it will only make the other person sleepy and uninterested.

Statements are more convincing than emphasis. Try to prove your advantages with examples.

It is unwise to talk about your own advantages blindly. You can also show your personality with an experience of how to get out of setbacks. To name the most important and directly related achievement awards, remember to clearly express your important achievements or awards in your previous work, but if you win too many awards, choose the most important one that can best prove that you are suitable for the position.

Humorous self-mockery can get you a good impression.

Try to sell your strengths in your presentation, but don't mention your weaknesses. If possible, try to speak in a humorous way, which will make the interviewer give you extra points!

Race against time, don't digress, don't waste your time on irrelevant people or things, and try not to mention things unrelated to your professional experience, such as how you won love for yourself or how you treated your pets well. Remember, there are more important things to do in these short minutes!

Self-confidence is the most indispensable weapon for customs clearance. You must speak in a natural tone. Don't recite the manuscript. Your nervousness and lack of confidence will be exposed to the interviewer at once. Maintain self-confidence, and firm the decision passed by the interviewer with a natural and graceful smile and decent manners!