How to write a biography for yourself from the perspective of others?

Different angles will make you see different things.

Learn to solve difficult problems from different angles

Reflections on the way of thinking hindering the transformation of angles

Everyone has his own point of view.

To change the perspective of seeing things is to change the way of doing things.

Another angle will make success easier.

Think from multiple angles.

Put yourself in another's shoes.

well-known saying

A Dream of Red Mansions ... Scholars look at the Book of Changes, Taoists look at lewdness, talented people look at lingering, revolutionaries look at rows, and gossips look at the secrets of the palace. -Lu Xun

Looking at Lushan Mountain from the front and side of peaks and valleys, from far, near, high and low places, Lushan Mountain presents various faces. -Su Shi

Sometimes you need to leave the usual avenue and dive into the forest. You will definitely find something you have never seen before. -Bell

If matches burn in your pocket, you should be happy, because your pocket is not a powder keg. If you have a thorn on your finger, you should be happy, because the thorn didn't go into your eye. If your wife changes her mind about you, you should be happy because she betrayed you, not your country. -Chekhov

With a position, our specific attitudes towards various specific things have emerged. Like praise or exposure? This is the attitude problem. Mao Zedong

There are a thousand hamlets in the eyes of a thousand audiences. -belinsky

Although the pessimist is still alive, the optimist is always young. -English proverb

Optimists see hope in disasters, while pessimists see disasters in hope. -English proverb

Shorter feet and longer inches. -Proverbs

A river has two sides. Everything has two sides. -Proverbs

Classic material

Happiness of the bearer

(Don't judge others from your own point of view)

Russell, the most influential British thinker in the 20th century, came to Sichuan, China on 1924. At that time, China was divided by warlords, and the people were in dire straits. It was summer and it was very sultry. Russell and several people accompanying him went to Emei Mountain in the kind of bamboo sedan chair carried by two people. The mountain road was steep and steep, and several porters were so tired that they were sweating. This situation makes Russell not in the mood to see the scenery, but to think about the mood of several bearers.

He thought, the bearers must hate their sedan chairs, and they have to carry them up the mountain in such hot weather. Even they may be thinking, why are they sedan chair people and not sedan chair people?

Arriving at a small platform halfway up the mountain, Russell got off the bamboo sedan chair and carefully observed the expression of the sedan chair bearer. He saw the bearers sitting in a row, taking out their pipes, talking and laughing, and didn't mean to blame the weather or the people in the sedan chair. They also told Russell jokes about their hometown with great interest, asked Russell some foreign things curiously, and laughed happily from time to time during the conversation.

Russell told this story in his article The Character of China People. And he came to the conclusion that it is wrong to look at other people's happiness with self-righteous eyes.

Hawking's fate

(optimistic view)

When I think of Hawking, I see the eternal deep eyes and quiet smile of this outstanding master of science. The world admires Hawking not only because he is a hero of wisdom, but also because he is a fighter of life.

Once, at the end of the academic report, a young female reporter jumped onto the podium, deeply admired the great scientist who had lived in a wheelchair for more than 30 years, and asked without mercy, "Mr. Hawking, Luger's disease has fixed you in a wheelchair forever." Don't you think fate has cost you too much? "

This question is obviously abrupt and sharp, and the lecture hall suddenly becomes silent.

Hawking's face is still full of quiet smile. He tapped the keyboard with his fingers that were still moving. Then, with the standard London cavity issued by the synthesizer, the huge projection screen slowly and conspicuously shows the following passage:

My fingers are still moving,

My brain can still think;

I have an ideal that I have pursued all my life.

I love and love my relatives and friends;

By the way, I still have a grateful heart. ...

After the inner tremor, the applause thundered. People flocked to the stage and gathered around this extraordinary scientist to pay sincere respect to him.

Jump out of a dead end

(Change the usual thinking angle)

Albert, a famous mental arithmetic expert? Camilo has never miscalculated.

On this day, he was performing, and someone came to the stage and gave him a question: "A train with 283 passengers entered the station, 87 people got off and 65 people got on; At the next stop, 49 people will go down and 1 12 people will come up; At the next stop, 37 people go down and 96 people come up; At the next stop, 74 people went down and 69 people came up; Next stop, 17 people go down and 23 people come up ... "

No sooner had the man finished than the mental arithmetic master replied disdainfully, "Pediatrics! Tell you, there is a * * * and-"on the train.

"No," the man stopped him and said, "I asked you to count how many stops the train stopped." Abbott? Camilo was stunned, and this group of simple addition and subtraction became his "Waterloo".

Napoleon, the real loser of Waterloo, also has a story. After Napoleon was exiled to St. Helena, one of his smooth close friends secretly brought him a chess set made of ivory and nephrite. Napoleon couldn't put it down. From then on, he silently played chess, killing lonely and painful time. The chess was erased and his life came to an end.

After Napoleon's death, this chess set was auctioned many times. Later, a master accidentally found that the bottom of a chess piece could be opened, which contained a detailed plan on how to escape from St. Helena!

Two stories, two regrets.

In fact, all their failures are in their mentality. Mental arithmetic only thinks of stale figures, while military strategists only think of entertainment. They ignored counting and chess. It can be seen that a genius can't walk out of a dead end if he spins around in his own mindset.

Paintings by two masters

(Different angles mean different right and wrong)

Grand Duke of Florence, Italy, entrusted painter Da? Finch and Michelangelo each painted a picture showing the scene of the ancient Florence war. After painting, both paintings caused great repercussions. Michelangelo's paintings show the brave and tenacious fighting spirit of Florence soldiers and the heroic spirit of standing up to defend the motherland, which has won unanimous praise. Da? The Florence soldiers in Finch's paintings are all crazy, and their faces are deformed. These soldiers seem to be in fear and despair. This painting has aroused people's disappointment and even dissatisfaction. Some people think this is an insult to the glorious Florentine. It was not until later that an art critic asserted that this was Da? Finch "failed once in his life". In fact, this is a wrong judgment. Michelangelo's painting is The Battle of cassina, which depicts the historical facts of ancient Florence's victory over the barbarian invader Babylon. The Battle of Anjali painted by Finch is a war between nobles in 1400. Da? Finch called it "animal madness" in disgust, and his paintings wanted to reveal the cruelty and evil of this war.

Last week's grain

(Changing thinking angle to solve difficult problems)

In ancient Greece, there were often brutal wars between city-states. In one of the wars, the Athenian city-states were besieged by rival city-states for half a year. At this time, the Athens Supreme Chief ordered the officials in charge of rations to carefully calculate how much food they had left and how long Athens could last. Before long, the officials panicked and reported that our food was only enough for a week. After a week, the whole city would starve to death.

Some officials who first heard the news were also panicked, and they advised the chief executive that instead of being besieged and starved to death, it was better to surrender in Kaesong and save the lives of a city's people.

At this time, the officer stood up, his face full of confidence and optimism. He said, we still have a week's food to support, which is great. Can't we make use of this week's breakthrough? Will the enemy's rations last for a week? Can't we think of a better way in a week?

Yes, there is still one week, one week, maybe the enemy can't hold on, and we won without fighting.

As the chief predicted, when their food could last for three days, the besieged enemy began to retreat, because their military food had been exhausted, and Athens defeated the enemy with confidence and hope.

Many times, there are two diametrically opposed views on the same issue. From one point of view, this is a dead end, from another point of view, this is a hopeful sunshine avenue.

The use of pencils

(Divergent thinking from multiple angles)

There is a school for the poor in Richmond, new york. 1983 A Czech doctor of law named Pujerov found that the criminal record of students in this school in new york police station was the lowest in the past 50 years.

Przherov launched a long investigation on this. Q: A saint? What did Beinert College teach you? In the past six years, he received 3756 answers. Of these answers, 74% replied that they knew how many uses a pencil could have. He first visited the owner of the largest fur shop in new york, and the owner said, "Yes, Pastor Beinert taught us how many uses a pencil can have. The first composition we entered school was on this topic. At first, I thought that pencils had only one purpose, and that was writing. Who knows that pencils can be used not only to write, but also to make rulers and draw lines when necessary, and also as gifts to express friendship; Can make a profit when selling goods; Pencil lead can be used as lubricating powder after being ground into powder; It can also be temporarily used for makeup during performances; Wood chips can be made into decorative paintings; A pencil can be sawed into several parts, made into a chess set, and used as the wheel of a toy; When there is danger in the wild, the pencil can be used as a straw to drink the water in the crevices; When encountering bad people, sharpened pencils can also be used as self-defense weapons ... in short, a pencil has countless uses. Pastor Beinert made us poor children understand that people with eyes, noses, ears, brains, hands and feet have countless uses, and any use is enough for us to survive. "

Preeg rove later interviewed some st? Students who graduated from Beinert University found that no matter their status is high or low, they all have a job and they all live a very optimistic life. Besides, they can all name at least 20 uses of pencils.

Listen to people's voices.

(think and act from the other side's point of view)

Joe, the king of American car sales? Gillard has a deep understanding. Once, a celebrity came to him to buy a car, and he recommended the best model to him. The man was satisfied with the car and took out $65,438+00,000 in cash. It was almost a deal, and the other party suddenly changed its mind and left.

Joe has been worried about this all afternoon and can't figure it out. At night 1 1, he couldn't help calling the man: "Hello! I'm Joe? Gillard, I introduced you to a new car this afternoon. You were about to buy it, and suddenly you left. "

"Hey, do you know what time it is?"

"I'm very sorry, I know it's already 1 1 o'clock in the evening, but I can't think of anything wrong after reviewing it all afternoon, so I'm calling you for advice."

"Really?"

"heartfelt words."

"Very well! Are you listening to me attentively? "

"It's very hard."

"But you didn't listen to me this afternoon. Just before signing the contract, I mentioned that my dog Jimmy was going to study medicine at the University of Michigan. I also mentioned my dog's academic performance, athletic ability and his future ambition. I am proud of him, but you have no response. "

Joe doesn't remember the other person saying these words because he didn't pay attention at all. Joe thinks the deal has been settled. Not only is he not interested in listening to what the other party is saying, but he is also listening to another salesman telling jokes in the office.

That's why Joe failed: that man needs to praise an excellent son besides buying a car.

Joe? Gillard just didn't "think and act from each other's standpoint." He just took it for granted that it was a deal. Everyone knows that "thinking and acting from each other's standpoint" is a golden saying, but it is really difficult to do it. This is what successful salespeople do.

Teach you a lesson with praise

(It would be better to look at it from another angle)

Among the Babumba people in Africa, there is still an ancient life ceremony. When someone in the clan makes a mistake because of improper behavior, the patriarch will let the person who made the mistake stand in the middle of the village and make a public appearance as a punishment. At this time, the whole tribe will put down their work and come from all directions to "teach" the wrong person with praise.

The besieged people will automatically separate the old and the young, and then start with the oldest person and tell the wrong people in turn what good things he has done for the whole tribe in his life. Every nation must describe the merits and good deeds of the perpetrators in sincere language. You can neither exaggerate the facts, nor swear words, nor repeat compliments that others have already said. The whole ceremony of praise should last until all the people have finished their positive comments.

Babumba people are very smart. Their attitude towards people who make mistakes is "Although you have made mistakes and shortcomings, we still love you, care about you and accept you." . Since you have done so many good deeds and good deeds for the whole tribe and have so many advantages, please seriously reflect on it and sincerely correct your mistakes. Our whole tribe firmly believes that you must have the confidence and ability to become better. "

Yilin story

Will gold coins melt?

In chemistry class, the teacher took out a gold coin, pointed to the solution in the glassware and asked the students, "I have talked about the nature of this solution just now." Now, I throw this gold coin in. " Do you think the gold coins will melt? "Son, you look at me, I look at you, no one can answer.

Suddenly, Holt, sitting in the first row, stood up and said loudly, "Of course not."

"You answered very well," the teacher said approvingly, touching little Holt's head. "You must have understood today's lesson."

"I don't know anything." Little Holt looked down and said.

"Then why do you know that gold coins will not be melted?"

Little Holt quickly replied, "If this solution can dissolve gold coins, how can you put it in?"

A scrap of copper

A father and son saw a piece of copper scrap on the road. The father asked his son how much the copper scrap was worth, and the son said it was worth 3.5 cents. Father said no, it's worth $3.50. Can be made into copper door handles for sale. He also said that others think that 1+ 1 = 2, but in many cases 1+ 1 > 2. Later, my son started the copper processing industry with this idea of 1+ 1 >: 2. Once, after the renovation of the Statue of Liberty, a lot of rubbish was left behind. The city government offered a reward of tens of thousands of yuan, but no one wanted to hire someone to clean it. My son, who is engaged in the copper processing industry, volunteered to clean up the site for free. He classified all kinds of metals, including copper powder, made small tourist souvenirs such as the Statue of Liberty for sale, and even sold dust to flower shops. As a result, he made millions of dollars.

Look at waste, waste or waste with the conventional thinking of 1+ 1 = 2. Think about waste with 1+ 1 > 2 from different angles. Waste can be turned into wealth.

The other side of the map

One Saturday morning, a priest planned to prepare his nagging sermon under very difficult conditions. His wife is out shopping. It was raining that day, and his little son was noisy and annoyed. Finally, in disappointment, the priest picked up an old magazine and turned it page by page until he found a big color picture-a map of the world.

He tore this page from the magazine, tore it into pieces, threw it on the floor between the living rooms and said:

"Little John, if you can put these together, I'll give you 25 cents."

The priest thought it would take little John all morning. But within 10 minutes, someone knocked on his door. This is his son. The priest was surprised to find that John spelled out a map of the world so quickly.

"Son, how did you get it done so quickly?" Asked the priest.

"Ah," said little John, "it's easy. There is a picture of a man on the back of the map. I'll put the picture of this man together. Then turn it over. I think if this person is right, then the world is right. "

The priest smiled and gave his son a quarter. "You also prepared a sermon for me tomorrow." He said, "If a person is right, his world will be right."

Well and sky

A China student studying in the United States talked with his friends about the change of his vision.

Because of his excellent grades in primary school, he was admitted to the middle school in the county. He found that he could no longer hold the first prize as he did in elementary school, so he became jealous: all the students who were better than himself had six-edged pencils, but he didn't. This is unfair in heaven! After several years of hard work, he actually became the first in the county middle school. And he thinks: people are still unequal, why don't you have a good pen?

After graduating from high school, he was admitted to a university in Beijing, but the good times did not last long, and his academic performance could not even be maintained at the middle level.

See the classmates in the city are piles of good pencils and pens, cakes and milk in the morning, fragrant tea and fruits in the evening, think about yourself. I still can't bear to eat a steamed bun in the morning, and I have to leave half at night. "Reasonable" and where to start? ……

Five years later, he studied in the United States and saw the colorful western world with his own eyes, but all his jealousy, inferiority and resentment were suddenly swept away. The comparison standard I choose has changed. What I see is no longer my classmates, colleagues and neighbors, but the whole world.

Some people fight on the snail's horn, while others walk hand in hand in space. There is only one result in the struggle of standing by, and that is standing still. When you look at problems from different angles, you may find a whole new world.

The secret of not being angry

In ancient times, there was a man named Aidiba. As soon as he got angry, he ran home and ran around his house and the ground three times. Later, his house became bigger and bigger, and more and more land was available. When he is angry, he still has to run around the house three times and land three times, even though he is panting and sweating.

Grandson asked, "Grandpa! When you are angry, you run around the house and the land. What's the secret? "

Aidiba said to her grandson, "When I was young, when I quarreled, quarreled and got angry with others, I ran around my house and land three times. As I ran, I thought-my house is so small and there is so little land, how can I have time and energy to be angry with others? When I think about it, my anger disappears, and I have more time and energy to work and study. "

The grandson asked again, "Grandpa! Why do you run around the house and land as soon as you get rich? "

Aidiba said with a smile, "I thought as I ran-my house is so big and there is so much land, so why bother others?" When I think about it, my anger disappears. "

Alcohol experiment

One day, a doctor called a group of drunks who were addicted to alcohol, and he did an experiment in front of them:

The doctor put two cups on the table, one filled with water and the other with alcohol. He first threw a caterpillar into a glass full of clear water, and everyone watched the caterpillar swim around in the clear water, and then slowly climbed out. Then, the doctor caught the caterpillar again and threw it into a cup full of alcohol. The bug struggled in alcohol for a few times and then died.

After watching the experiment, the drunkards looked at each other and there was a long silence in the room. Just as the doctor was about to explain to them that alcohol is harmful to human health, a voice came from the last row of the room: "Doctor, I understand, as long as you drink more, there will never be bugs in your stomach!" " "

Even if it is a correct concept, there are always people who understand it from a negative perspective. For these people, too much persuasion is useless. Don't waste time on "useless work".

Solve the problem from another angle

When a company recruits employees, there is a test question like this:

On a stormy night, you drive past a station and find three people waiting for the bus: the first one is an old woman who looks dying; The second is the doctor who once saved your life; The third is the girl of your dreams. But your car can only accommodate one more passenger. Who would you choose?

This is a personality test. Everyone's answer has his reason: maybe you will choose the old woman, because she is going to die, and we have to save her life; Maybe you will choose a doctor, because he once saved your life, and now is your best chance to repay him (but maybe you can repay him continuously in the future); Maybe you will choose the girl of your dreams and miss this opportunity. Maybe you will never find her (him). ...

What is the final answer of 200 candidates?

"I gave the doctor my car keys and told him to take the old woman to the hospital quickly, while I accompanied my beloved and waited for the bus to come ..."

Sometimes, we can get more without the help of the inherent thinking mode.

The story of the new stupid old man and the smart old man

Gong Yu's family has lived here for generations, and the two mountains at the entrance, King Wu and Taihang, blocked the way. Life is pathetic! It seems isolated from the world. What is new in the city has long been "old news". This life really needs to change. The foolish old man thought, I have to find a way to move Taihang Mountain and Wu Wang.

On this day, Gong Yu found his old friend Zhizuo and told him that he wanted to move mountains. Zhisou smiled, touched his beard and thought about it. You know, Gong Yu, even if your son has grandchildren, what's the use of children and grandchildren moving together? A mountain is a mountain after all. How many years will it take to move out? Human and material resources have been invested, what about the benefits? No way! Zhisou is firmly opposed. The foolish old man thought, the mountain can't be moved, so what should I do? Zhisou is really a Zhisou. Soon he came up with an idea and told it to Gong Yu. As soon as Yu Gong heard that he was good, he went back.

When he got home, Yu Gong called his family for a meeting. At the meeting, he put forward a wise old method. The whole family thought it was wonderful after listening to it, and they split up the next day. It turned out that Zhisou suggested using these two mountains to develop resources and introduce funds, which not only saved manpower, but also produced economic benefits. Isn't this a good way to kill two birds with one stone? No wonder home is called Miao.

In the next few years, Gong Yu personally went up the mountain to explore resources and found many rare animals and plants on the mountain. So Zhisou went to the town to apply for establishing a nature reserve. Gong Yu's son came to town again and invited an engineering team to build a road leading to the mountain. Everything is ready, you should know that they are going to open a nature park. Finally, I have to give it a name. Zhisou thinks that Gong Yu has a high reputation, so it is better to call it "Stupid Garden", and the name is settled. Finally, Zhisou asked the advertising company to help him advertise. After so long, the "Idiot Park" finally opened. This time, Zhisou really contributed.

People in the city were surprised to hear that Gong Yu had used the palace and Taihang Mountain to open up a park. They all want to see it. When they get there, it's really extraordinary, towering green hills, birds and animals, so that you can approach them at will. Gong Yu and Zhizuo personally greeted the tourists and took photos with them. The mountains are no longer as quiet as they used to be, and cities and mountains are linked together. Gong Yu couldn't help sighing: Actually, it's good not to move mountains. What are you afraid of with such roads and "stupid parks"?

Gong Yu moved mountains and rivers, which really showed his perseverance, but things should be considered from many angles. Just like Gong Yu in our story, didn't he achieve his goal by not moving mountains?

Application and innovation

It will be beautiful from another angle.

Hot sun, desert. Two thirsty and tired travelers took out their only kettle and shook it. A traveler said, "Oh, too bad, we only have half a pot of water left!" " "Another traveler said happily," really? Luckily, we still have half a pot of water! "In fact, many things in life are like that half pot of water. From another angle, different moods lead to different answers.

Edison made 1000 experiments to find suitable materials for filament. When someone laughed at his failure, he proudly said, "I found that a thousand materials are not suitable for filament!" " "This kind of mind, this kind of tolerance, this kind of wisdom, is really amazing. And all this, isn't it because of Edison's unique thinking angle?

From another point of view, we should have the courage and clever wisdom to overthrow old ideas. An ordinary apple, everyone obediently cut vertically, but a five-year-old girl stubbornly cut horizontally, so her shining eyes found the "stars" in the apple! It is because of children's "ignorance" that they have a unique vision and the courage and enthusiasm to explore the world. So children can be awesome sometimes.

The world is so big, let's open our eyes, feel this colorful world with a simple and sentimental heart and a quiet and peaceful atmosphere. Open the prism of observing the world with childlike enthusiasm and curiosity. The beauty from many angles will definitely surprise us: the green leaves washed by the annoying rain will be so fresh; Gray clouds will also penetrate several rays of exceptionally golden sunlight; The nameless and tasteless wildflowers and weeds also have their own ordinary vitality and beauty; Stinging setbacks in life can also become nutrients for people to grow up; Failure can also be a striking coordinate in the journey of life. ...

From another angle, life will present another kind of beauty. "Life is not lack of beauty, but lack of discovery." Rodin's words are always so intriguing.

Think about history from different angles

In 202 BC, Xiang Yu was defeated and committed suicide in Wujiang River. History is like this.

More than 1000 years later, Du Mu's poem said: Winning or losing is an unexpected plan of a military strategist. There are many talented children in Jiangdong. Whether they will make a comeback is still unknown. Cherish it.

Hundreds of years later, Wang Anshi said: A strong man broke his wrist. It is difficult to recover from the defeat of the Central Plains. Although the children of Jiangdong are here today, are they willing to make a comeback for the king? Demote it.

Decades later, Li Qingzhao said: Life is a hero, and death is a ghost. Today, people still miss Xiang Yu because he refused to live and returned to the East. Praise it.

Why do the same thing have three different evaluations?

As we know, Du Mu's career was bumpy all his life, and his "comeback" was somewhat boastful, while Wang Anshi regarded it as the inevitability of the change of historical dynasties from a politician's point of view, but he also advised you not to "break the wrist of a strong man and never tire of a hundred battles", while the layman in Yi 'an witnessed the nomadic people's March forward, and the Song Dynasty crossed safely, but lamented that Xiang Yu "refused to be a hero and died as a ghost"

This is the case when commenting on historical facts, and so is everything else in life. As long as your angle is different, the answers will be colorful.

The last question is wrong.

A primary school teacher wrote five questions on the blackboard, and a student came up to do it-

3×9=27 4×9=36 5×9=45 6×9=54 7×9=62

When the students finished writing 62, most of the students in the audience shouted, "Teacher, he was wrong, and the last question was wrong ..."

The teacher said, "The last question is wrong, but why do you just say that he is wrong instead of saying that he did the first four things right?" It seems how easy it is for us to find other people's mistakes and ignore others' correctness ... "

Isn't it? When we face a thing, do we see more dark sides or more bright sides?

When we face a person, do we pay more attention to his shortcomings or strengths?

When we face difficulties, do we see failure or more hope?

When we were at the bottom, did we see more losses or less?

Many facts show that it is often not the difficulty and complexity of the matter itself that determines the result, but our attitude towards it.

Look at winter from another angle

In winter, a scene of decline, the dry branches and the full shade in summer form a huge contrast; Dull and withered, in stark contrast to the birds and flowers in summer. All these are pessimists' perceptions of winter. Optimists, on the other hand, wear a lens to understand the vitality that winter shows us and the unknown vitality.

Under the thick leaves and cold soil, the dense roots are still alive, trying to collect energy from all directions and store energy to the maximum extent. The hay above is its most loyal umbrella, resisting the attack of cold and snow.

Withered petals and fallen branches seep their last energy into the soil and transfer it to the roots, dedicating their lives in this world to the colorful coming year. As the saying goes, "falling red is not a heartless thing, but turning into spring mud protects flowers more."

Ice and snow covered the whole earth and there was silence. Snowflakes give up their diversity and turn into snow water, sending the most precious gifts in winter to every inch of thirsty land. The children's laughter broke the tranquility of the snow, and colorful cotton-padded clothes were the most beautiful scenery in winter.

The underground activities are so wonderful that all these energy transfer and life extension are going on fiercely underground; And people only saw its superficial decline. Looking at winter from another angle, it is no longer dormant but breeds new life; Not dull but silent vitality; This is not the end but a new beginning, an underground continuation of life.

Don't you need this kind of thinking transformation in your life and treat things around you in different ways?

Just like a clear spring in the desert, a ray of sunshine in winter and a ray of light at night will give you more surprises. If winter comes, can spring be far behind?