How to deal with being squeezed out by the unit?

The workplace is like a battlefield, and there is inevitably smoke and intrigue. It is common for young people to be excluded. The key is to be strong, while the iron is hot, you need to be hard.

You know, no unit is a pool of stagnant water, all of which are blue waves and even choppy. Almost every unit has people who don't respect the old and rely on the old to sell the old. He usually likes to sow discord and suppress the younger generation. He likes to talk about everything, vent his dissatisfaction loudly, and even ignore the leader. In such an environment, even if young people do well, they will inevitably make irresponsible remarks. If anything goes against their wishes, they will be scolded.

We can't confront such people head-on. Since they can run amok in the unit for so long, they must have their capital. If they head-on conflict before fully understanding the situation, they will suffer big losses and even affect their future. But we can't always be patient. To adjust your mentality, you should not only use your intelligence, but also use strategies and tactics to train yourself like a sponge, with endurance and toughness at any time.

Young people are often young and love to be the first bird. In the workplace, unless you have absolute background and strength, it is safer to keep a low profile.

Zeng Guofan said that "all the talents in the world, ancient and modern, were defeated by a proud word." That's what you say when you're low-key and high-profile. It is good for young people to be eager to make achievements and show themselves, but if they make enemies everywhere because they are too high-profile, it will not be worth the candle. Low-key is not low-key, not short, low-key is an attitude, reflecting a person's modesty and a person's upbringing. Anyone who is low-key enough will not let himself become a thorn in the side and a thorn in the flesh of the "smooth operator" in the workplace. I believe that gold always shines. As long as I have the ability, I don't have to worry about not having a chance. I am high-profile, and naturally I can be high-profile.

Many people should have real friends. They are generous and unrestrained. We are all willing to get along with such people because they are comfortable and not tired. However, the depth of the workplace is bottomless, relying only on passion and lofty sentiments, talking mindlessly, looking masculine and upright, in fact, dying faster than anyone else, and I don't know how to die when I die. And often we think that people who only kiss up to others climb very fast.

It is a necessary skill in the workplace and a necessity for survival. If you want to gain a foothold among various leading colleagues, you must find out who is a good person, who is a bad person, who can help yourself and who may hurt yourself. You should have different communication strategies for different people and try to blend into their circle. The more friends you have, the fewer enemies you have, and the less resistance you have to develop.

This is not to encourage everyone to flatter, flattery and sense motive are two different things. Although they are all ways to survive, we should take their essence and discard their dross.

Confucius said, "When you see a sage, you think about how you feel. When you don't see a sage, you reflect." . At work, many people like to complain about unsatisfactory things, but few people are willing to find problems from themselves. It's easy to see other people's problems, but it's hard to see your own.

Being good at introspection can help you reflect on your performance over a period of time and help you better discover your strengths and weaknesses. No one knows everything at work. They always have their own shortcomings and advantages. They always expose their shortcomings in front of leaders and colleagues. Others will definitely think that you are not good, but you will always expose your strengths to leaders and colleagues. People will definitely think you are excellent.

Being good at introspection can also help you correct your mistakes and improve yourself. It is impossible for young people not to make mistakes. The more they do, the more mistakes they make. Some people are afraid that others will know their mistakes. In order not to lose face, they will cover up the original mistakes with new ones, which will only make matters worse. Timely introspection can help them correct their mistakes and avoid going further and further.

In short, the workplace will not be smooth sailing, but the strong are not afraid of any difficulties. Anytime and anywhere, they can only win the respect of others if they are strong enough. Being excluded is not terrible, but it is terrible if you give up on yourself because of it.

The unit is similar to the animal world, and bullying can be seen from time to time. Big fish, small fish and shrimp often happen. It's still the same in another unit. There is no good way to avoid it. Only by being strong can we suffer less. But remember, when you are in power, don't bully others. It's not easy to get out.

Those who crowd out others are incompetent people. Since you have the ability, there is no need to be afraid of them. The more uneasy you are about their exclusion, the easier it is for them to succeed. So, why be ambitious and ruin your future? Doing the following well will help to alleviate or even get rid of the status quo.

When you encounter anything, you must first control the scene yourself. Don't let yourself get lost because of a little thing. This will only put yourself in a more unfavorable environment.

You know, slander and exclusion are common phenomena in the workplace. If everyone flinches because of this situation, then this is definitely not the case in the workplace. Since others can spend this time well, why can't you?

Therefore, correct your attitude first and let yourself face this situation calmly and stably. Don't panic, calm down, in order to think better and find a solution to the problem.

To say the least, if you fail in this matter, you are likely to encounter the same problem in the future. Because your ability is there, there must be someone worse than you. So what would you do?

Know yourself and yourself. After adjusting your mentality and taking this problem seriously, you should know what kind of people these rumors are.

Generally speaking, a person who maliciously excludes others is not very capable. It is because I am inferior to others that I express my dissatisfaction through irony. People often have nothing, and the easier it is to show something. This is the reason for crowding out.

If he is strong enough, he can convince you through the competition of ability, but he can't, so he has to use such a villain to hit you. At this point, you win. As long as you don't show rejection to them, they will be in a mess. It may collapse then.

In addition to this, you should also know their background and abilities. They must have their own strengths and weaknesses. Therefore, you can praise their advantages generously and criticize their shortcomings gently at the same time. This is to tell them that I know you well and I can do the same thing, but I don't care to do it.

Of course, some people don't buy it. Mainly because they regard your goodness as a compromise and even crowd you out.

In that case, you don't have to mention it. Find the right time and make them realize that you are not easy to mess with through deep blows. This kind of blow is not to hit people, but to let them know that you have the ability to face this situation in some form, and you can fight back. As long as you can retreat, defend and attack, the other side will naturally flinch.

For evil forces, we must first show our attitude, and if we have a bad attitude, we must give appropriate counterattacks. A boaster always likes to pick soft persimmons. As long as they know that you are not, they have nothing to do.

While giving them a blow, I also want to do my job well. Lest they "worry that rabbits will bite." As long as you settle down in the rear area, you will naturally not leave them with loopholes for use and attack.

You can also use your superiors to form a kind of oppression and make them realize that it is no good to oppose you. Flexibility in the workplace is the fundamental rule of long-term survival.

This situation mentioned by the subject should not be a column in the workplace. Being excluded, that's why you make others envy and hate. This just shows that you are an excellent employee, so you make those mediocre people envy, envy, and finally become annoying. It's not your fault. Who makes them so mediocre and so enterprising? Who can stop the leaders from paying attention to you and promoting you?

You are promoted because you have achieved good work performance through your usual hard work and study, and no one will casually get the appreciation of the leaders and succeed.

Work hard, improve your performance, let your own strength speak, and let those who watch you admire you.

Even if they want to crowd you out, it's because they don't recognize you. Children who have only been here for two years come to tell them what to do. They are unwilling and unconvinced. There are so many old employees that it's not your turn to line up. Therefore, if they refuse to accept it, they can only crowd you out and give you a hard time, making your future work difficult. In this case, you should talk less and do more, especially do some beautiful and influential things, so that they will know your ability and your working method is really better than theirs, and they will admire you from the heart, be convinced and obey your command.

Use your emotional intelligence, play emotional cards and capture the hearts of old employees, so that no one will crowd you out.

In normal work and life, we should pay attention to the work and physical changes of old employees, help solve those that can be solved, and give comfort and care to those that cannot be solved. This not only shows your concern and care for them, but also enhances your prestige in their hearts, which will change their attitude towards you and win their good opinion of you.

Give them kindness and close their emotional distance.

After they have a good impression on you, they can invite everyone to drink at night. Stimulated by alcohol, they will tell the real factors that exclude you and get back together with you.

In fact, people just can't stand your kindness to them. As long as you really want to be nice to them, they will accept you. They will accept you as long as the way is right.

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Being rejected by colleagues is actually because they feel unbalanced in their hearts, so they will reject you. If you conquer them with your absolute strength, talent and charm, they will bow their heads and obey your command. As long as you are better than them, they will obey you.

Good luck with your work!

In every unit, there are a handful of people, no matter good or not, who just don't like others. As long as others are better than them and get more than them, all kinds of rumors will come. Faced with the grievances and indignation of old colleagues, we can neither accommodate others nor wronged ourselves.

First, don't care too much about other people's eyes. It is not colleagues but leaders who play a decisive role in you.

In fact, in the workplace, many people, many words, we don't have to care, because they will not pose any threat to you except making you uncomfortable at that time. On the one hand, your promotion and salary increase show that you are good enough and have been recognized by the leaders. On the other hand, you may have connections and be valued by leaders. Whatever the reason, your leaders always attach great importance to it. Even if colleagues say your face, it won't play a decisive role. If you really don't care, it's normal and self-defeating.

Second, strive to make themselves better, match their income with their abilities, and let them have nothing to say, so that they can go further.

If you are promoted because of your Excellence, then continue to be yourself and let your Excellence prove that you are worth it. If you are promoted because of your relationship, you should work harder to become excellent. Although you temporarily get more things than others, what really makes you go further with external factors is your own inner cultivation. Even if you are developing faster than others now because of a high starting point, if one day the relationship you rely on no longer exists, your own road will get narrower and narrower, and there may be no way out in the end.

Third, curb your sharpness and try not to stab others.

As long as there are people, it is a miniature small society. We should know our own environment and live in harmony with it. In the face of old colleagues, although the ability, level or relationship are 18 blocks away from them, we should be modest, low-key and restrained, and don't flaunt our personality too much, so as not to make too many enemies and become the target of public criticism.

Now people are bad-hearted, and they are all in have it both ways. After the villain succeeds, he will never let you feel better. Learn to die a fair death and get rid of traitors. Don't spoil the villain. You will feel better after the villain succeeds! What's more, if you pay 1,000 yuan, you let him pay 800 yuan. Even if you die, do you take him as a cushion?

Entering social work, no matter where you are, you have no right to ask others to be warm and concerned about you, which is different from at home. First of all, make it clear that you are here to work. You are not a special person. Why do you want to make your colleagues who have never met understand you? If you want to integrate into this work group, you have to pay first to get the approval of your colleagues. Only when people accept you will you feel alienated and close in interpersonal relationships. Then you will know who you can be friends with and who you can be wary of. To tell the truth, if you continue to hold this mentality, even if you change to a new unit, you will feel that your colleagues are crowding you out. Remember, at work, no one owes you.

Patience is a virtue. Many people will quarrel with their colleagues because of trivial matters, and even in fierce times, other family members have to "say hello" together. In fact, it is such a trivial matter. People don't put their books back after use, and they don't take the initiative to change water after pouring water. Quarrel will only make their literacy plummet. Learn to be patient, give others more tolerance, and you will get more tolerance.

No matter how experienced or talented you are, you can't go overboard in the office. Being kind to others is the first key. Never let your colleagues think that you are a militant in the office. Try not to talk about the "pain points" of colleagues, so as not to put yourself in a position of making enemies on all sides.

Let colleagues know more about your good. How can a person who speaks kindly and considerate be excluded? If your first impression of your colleagues conveys unfriendly information, you should correct it in time, greet your colleagues warmly at work, invite them to dinner and go shopping after work, and send them a cup of hot water when they are unwell ... As long as you are willing to work hard, you will definitely become an "angel" in the office.

Don't be weak Although we can't be tough in improving our working ability, we should not be weak enough to give up our rights and learn the art of using the word "no". As long as you use the right method, your colleagues will think that you are a principled person and will respect you more. If you really don't know how to spend your rest time, then pay more attention to your work and increase your ability. When you make remarkable progress, your colleagues around you will look at you with new eyes!

A person pushes you out, maybe that person has a problem; Two people crowd you out, maybe you should think about whether you have a problem; If you feel excluded from the company, it must be your problem. You should reflect on what went wrong with yourself and correct it.

Working hard in the workplace for decades, spanning multiple departments, ups and downs, ups and downs. Seeing your little brother get promoted and raised after only one year's work doesn't mean that your colleagues who have worked for decades are dissatisfied with their ideas. Let's just trust them. Even the old man couldn't wait to run to the kitchen and poured a big bottle of mysterious original Xiangxi balsamic vinegar. He almost sighed: It's terrible to be born late! The afterlife is awesome! Jiangshan has talented people! This is a joke, of course I know it's a natural law, what's more, I'm also a guy who loves talent like life. In view of the trouble of the subject, I, a veteran in the workplace, give you the following prescription:

Take my unit as an example. Xiao Zhang has been working in the office for about half a year. There are more than 20 people in this trip to promote a young man. I strongly recommend Xiao Zhang. He and I don't have any old friends or relatives, not a hair. The reason for recommendation is not how high the professional level and excellent work the child has, but his character! To tell the truth, except the director, everyone else in the office is just a match, as long as they can work hard.

For more than half a year, the child has been smiling and calling everyone. No matter to whom, leaders or peers, he showed high affinity and was extremely polite. Moreover, he gives the impression that he is kind and easy-going, warm as spring, and there is no trace of deliberately pretending to be a grandson. It's been half a year, and everything goes with the flow. No one objected to his promotion.

Therefore, treating people with a smile and courtesy is wealth, the way to get rich, the way to get promoted, and there is no cost.

Many people are dissatisfied with your promotion and salary increase, and even call you a boy. Especially after seeing your salary slip, the old comrades who have worked for decades are even more upset. That's understandable. If you think about it from another angle, I'm sure you're a little confused. This shows that you have no prestige in their minds, and you don't think you should be promoted and raised, or you are not worth the price your boss offered you. Therefore, you should be familiar with the business, keep learning, and strive to enhance your own value, not only to gain the trust of your boss, but also to gain the recognition of your colleagues and be worthy of your boss's cultivation and salary.

Here's a little story. At that time, Wu Chaoqing, Ali's cloud payment security officer, came to Ali's recruitment office to apply for a job before graduating from Class Three of Xi Jiaotong University. Interviewer asked: How do you prove yourself? Wu Chaoqing came to the interviewer without saying a word, pushed the interviewer away, punched his finger on the computer keyboard, and then sent the computer keyboard to the interviewer, saying: Now your internal system in Ali is completely interrupted. When the interviewer tried, he was really shocked and told Ma Yun that Ma Yun came as soon as he heard the news: Don't go, I will give you an annual salary of 5 million.

Imagine: Who in Ali dared to look down on this young man who had no long hair on his mouth and was under twenty years old? Who dares to be dissatisfied with his 5 million salary?

It's normal to get a promotion and a raise in the workplace. Talking about it is the most normal thing. Who doesn't talk behind people's backs? Who doesn't? Look at those boring artists. If they don't see their names in the media for three days, they can't wait to ask the paparazzi to make up some tidbits in the middle of the night to make themselves famous.

It's not a bad thing to be said. First of all, you should keep your mind steady. Don't be confused in your heart, and don't be led by others to show the true colors of the strong. No matter how vicious others say, you should be calm and calm, even if you endure it. Don't be impulsive blindly, be strong inside. No one can help you.

Since ancient times, Deng Xiaoping, the chief architect of our reform and opening up, has done the best in this respect. Three ups and downs, the clouds are light and the wind is light, and there are hills and valleys in the chest. When the order was confirmed, it revealed the true face of the king, drew the blueprint of China's reform, and created today's great and prosperous China.

Because you have just been employed for a year or so, and you are still inexperienced in dealing with people, it is inevitable that there are immature places. This is also reasonable. No one is born, but you keep groping and accumulating experience in practice before you keep moving forward. You should admit that you have some shortcomings. In order to make up for it, you should learn from your colleagues with an open mind, ask your leaders for more instructions and reports, and ask them for more guidance. Please ask them to support you as much as possible. Let your colleagues think that your relationship with the leader is extraordinary. To look down on you is to look down on the leader, and to oppose you is to oppose the leader, so as to improve your prestige. This is also Zhuge Liang's clever use of borrowing power, which is equally practical now.

The above prescription is for reference only, whether it is useful or not, I still hope everyone can distinguish it.

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