Yi Shu: Who is the truth? A woman with spiritual sustenance can't marry badly anyway. what do you think?

At the weekend, my best friend called and said she had something to say to me. In fact, she didn't explain it on the phone, and I probably know why she came to me. Unlike previous conflicts with colleagues, this time she was caught up in family affairs.

My best friend's father died when she was in middle school, and her mother raised her and her brother alone. Although she lived through so many years of hardship, she finally finished college and went home to teach in a middle school after graduation.

Although my brother didn't go to college, he learned a trade with the help of his relatives. Now I work as a locksmith in a factory, and my salary is not lower than my best friend.

Three years ago, my best friend's brother got married, and her sister's family was from other places. She got married here alone. The little girl is very clever. At first glance, she is a living woman.

It stands to reason that it is good that their family can live like this now, but their girlfriends are always troubled by family matters. She thinks her brother and sister-in-law are too hard on her mother. They never know how to love her mother. When the child was born, they gave it to her mother. They still live a leisurely world of two people, and their mother is old. While helping their brother and sister-in-law to take care of their children, they have to work hard. She felt sorry for her mother.

So she went back to her mother once a week, and often the trunk was full of food, fearing that her mother would be wronged in front of her younger brothers and sisters.

Once, in front of her younger brothers and sisters, she deliberately hung her newly bought gold necklace around her mother's neck. She just wants to tell her younger brothers and sisters to honor their mother unconditionally.

But instead of solving the contradiction between mother and sister-in-law, she deepened the contradiction. Later, because of her mother's old house, the family was in trouble. My brother and sister thought she was thinking about her mother's property, but she thought these two were too fucking like children.

I heard her talk about her family affairs more than once or twice. I asked her if she wanted to give her half of the house, and she said no. I asked her again, since I don't care about the house at all, why should I follow suit? Isn't it obvious to create contradictions?

She said doubtfully that it was her mother's house, so no one would think about it as long as her mother had a breath. I asked her who she would give the house to if her mother died. She said that if her mother wanted to give the house to her brother, she had nothing to say.

I was amused by her words. In fact, whether she participated or not, there was only one result, and the mother's house was to be left to her brother after all. Since the result must be like this, isn't this tangled process redundant?

But she was still disgusted, saying that her brother and sister-in-law were too ignorant. And because of these things, she always has a headache, can't do her job well, and is always in a bad mood. Every day, she is very upset.

Seeing her so entangled, she suddenly remembered a sentence: people should not punish themselves with other people's mistakes, let alone punish themselves with their own mistakes.

Brothers and sisters may have really done something wrong, but after all, they live with their mothers. The quality of life is their own business. She really has nothing to do with her married daughter. She is prejudiced against her younger brothers and sisters, even against her mother. She felt that the two young people were sorry for the old man, and the old man was too partial to her brother and sister, so he held a grudge against her brother and sister.

These bad things have plunged her into a whirlpool, which often means that she is bored and struggling. I told her that I could try to divert my attention and do something I like. As for my family, it has nothing to do with her, but she says she doesn't know what she likes to do.

It suddenly dawned on me that I got into a family dispute because she was too idle to interfere in other people's affairs. Moreover, her spiritual world is empty, and people who have no spiritual sustenance will waste time and energy on these trifles.

A woman without spirit is bored and tangled in her heart, because she doesn't know where her direction is, and she will only struggle when she encounters difficulties, instead of taking a long-term view, and live a full and clear life.

Yi Shu wrote in Rosemary: "Every morning when you get up, you know where to go and what to do. This is the best spiritual sustenance. "

A woman with spiritual sustenance won't let herself get stuck in boring trifles, because she has a direction in her heart, and it's time for her to walk on the road to her destination, not the disputes around her.

When I was still working in Qingdao in my early years, I entered the company as an intern. There is also a little girl in the northeast. She has a college degree. It is really difficult to find this job, so she works harder than anyone else for fear of failing in her internship.

But during the internship, we learned that the leader only wanted to leave one person in the planning department, the rest should be placed in the sales department below, and some of them should be transferred directly to the store as shop assistants. But the recruitment information at that time did not say so. We all complain privately about this company.

But the little girl is as quiet and diligent as before. Unfortunately, she was later transferred to the store, from sitting in the office to the station counter. This gap is unacceptable to most people. As a result, many people quit after redistributing their jobs.

But the little girl went to the store, stood at the counter for three months, and was transferred back to the planning department, because during these three months, she not only learned to plan, but also did a lot of market research and knew the company's products and competitors very well. Three months later, she wrote a research report and planning scheme to the leader, so she was transferred back by the leader.

Didn't you complain when I asked her to transfer? She said that she just wanted to sit in front of the spacious French window and be a white-collar worker. She wants to know how to get back and has no time to complain.

In the three months that she stood in front of the counter, the first thing she did when she got up every day was to think about what to learn today. How to face customers? How to deal with interpersonal relationships?

My mind is full of these questions, so she is always the most enthusiastic and considerate one in the shop. Although he was "demoted" by the leader, his performance in recent months was the best.

I think, at that time, because she always had a goal and a direction in her heart, she was never confused, and because she always worked hard, she believed that she would get everything she wanted. When others complain and are lazy, she still treats everyone around her with sunshine.

Work, career, feelings, those goals that can make you work hard are all spiritual sustenance. People should always know what they want and what they should do, always have a goal to move forward, and work hard so as not to be affected by the noise around them.

If a woman wants to have a sense of existence and value, she must find her own spiritual sustenance instead of being trapped in a mess of her parents. As Yi Shu said: Why do good people like me run into other people's lives as an episode?

Yes, you know, a woman with real spiritual sustenance will never marry badly, because she can illuminate herself without relying on the light of others.