How to make the boss trust himself more?

It should be like this: the process of starting a business always accumulates resources and experience from working, and then it is possible to start a business. Only when funds are accumulated to a certain extent can we finally achieve the goal of starting a business. It can be seen that working is the only way for a self-made entrepreneur. It is particularly important to successfully complete the part-time job, so that you can quickly accumulate experience and wealth and properly handle the relationship with your boss. Only in a favorable climate can you wait for your full feathers to show your talents. When you first started out, you were like a newborn tiger and needed to be taken care of by others. Only when the teeth come out can you become the king of animals. Dealing with the boss is to give yourself an umbrella, get a kind of shelter and security in the company, and let yourself develop and grow quietly, otherwise you will be stifled on the road to success, or you will never escape from this link.

When we went to work in a company, the first contact was the boss. The boss is the medium between the company and us. It can be a tool for the company to manage us, or it can be a close comrade-in-arms who asks for benefits from the company. Is the key to dealing with corporate relations. It takes skill to communicate with the boss. A good method can win your trust and help on the premise of being respected. On the contrary, even if you get help, it is only based on a pity mentality. This kind of charity care will only make you feel sick. To win the trust and help of leaders successfully, the following points are very important:

1, report more

More reporting is the only way to close the distance. Communication between people begins with language communication. Without language communication, the two sides can't understand each other. Only good communication can create a platform of trust. One is not to be afraid of your boss. Although the boss is a manager at work and an employee of the company, he is just a migrant worker with a higher status, and there is no substantive difference with us. His posturing is nothing more than to cover up the essential performance of his migrant workers, just as in the boss's view, firing a manager is no different from firing a salesman. Therefore, don't feel sorry for yourself, don't be afraid of the leader, think how tall he is, and change from that kind of head-shaped concept. The reason why the boss becomes a manager at work is only because of the different division of labor, not the different grades. When you understand this essentially equal relationship with your boss, you can face him calmly. Moreover, I said that reporting is based on an equal attitude, not to please or beg for mercy, but to explain the situation to your boss for work reasons. This is a responsible behavior. The second is to find more opportunities to report. The feelings between people always need to be generated in frequent communication, and the communication with the boss is based on work, so the way to close the distance should first start with the work report. The more times you report, the deeper your impression will be. Often find some opportunities to report, which can make your boss feel a strong sense of respect, make him feel a strong sense of power and honor, and thus have a good impression on you. Some seemingly trivial things are actually very useful, because only from these small things can your boss see your loyalty and trust, so that he can consciously accept you and subconsciously trust you. In this way, when you can do something radical, you can block the pressure of the company and let you do it with confidence, and when you need help, you will unconsciously give you care and support. This effect comes from the usual accumulation report. The third is integrity reporting. Reporting is a clever act. A dull and single report will make people feel disgusted. Therefore, to be targeted is to find a suitable excuse to report the work. The report should be concise and easy to understand, and it should not give the leaders problems, but should be carried out in a friendly manner. The purpose of the report itself is to convey a kind of respect, which is the basis for maintaining the relationship between superiors and subordinates. For example, for a mature salesman, how to do the work is very clear, but it is still necessary to report. This is because what the boss often wants to hear is not what you report, but how you feel when you report. Only after confirming that you have enough respect will he give you care and help.

Only by reporting, the relationship between superiors and subordinates in the work can break the situation of strangeness and suspicion, quickly break the obstacles brought by distance, and achieve mutual understanding and support.

Step 2 do more things

Doing more is an important way to get the boss's attention. The relationship between superiors and subordinates is based on the division of work, so making achievements in the work and sharing worries for the leaders is an important way to attract the attention of the leaders, and it is also the basis for making the reporting work reasonable and meaningful. A person who knows how to do things and report is like a duck to water in any environment. First, work enthusiasm. A proactive attitude is popular everywhere, and no one wants to work with a person who is not enterprising and sad. The purpose of recruiting employees is to give full play to their role and create wealth for the company. For this purpose, the company has always hoped that employees have enthusiasm for work, and take it as a standard to measure the advantages and disadvantages of employees. Only when they are active, willing and enthusiastic in their work can they really enter the work role and finally make achievements. Good mentality is the premise of doing all the work well, and it is also the touchstone for leaders to identify employees. Therefore, to attract the attention of leaders, we must be enthusiastic and actively carry out our work. For example, we have to do some work, and we can also analyze what will be arranged for us to do. At this time, if you take the initiative to volunteer, the effect will be better, so that even if the work is not perfect, this way of working will deeply touch the psychology of leaders. The second is to start from small things. Great things are always made up of countless little things. If you don't do every little thing well, you can't do great things in the end. In daily work, some trivial things often determine the success or failure of the result, which is the most popular "details determine success or failure" When the boss evaluates his subordinates, he always consciously assigns some simple jobs, and then comprehensively evaluates the recent personnel through these jobs. This evaluation will become the boss's first impression, and it will also determine your future and hope in the company. Some people perfunctory when they see that the work is simple, and feel that they have wasted their talents. This is childish, because our work content is always linked by small links. When each link is completed, the work will be successfully completed. If a link is not done well, the result may be wasted. Therefore, doing everything well can make the boss feel mature and independent and attract the attention of the leaders. The third is to make achievements as soon as possible. In the company's view, salesmen who have never made achievements or made achievements independently will always be novices, so making achievements as soon as possible and letting them speak for themselves is the key to gaining respect and attention in the company. Many people, especially the students who have just started their career, have low eyes and talk about ideals and success. They talk about the management of the company, and the methods of talking about work are well-founded and varied, but they are really at a loss in their work. This kind of boasting and doing nothing is quite taboo in their work. Many seemingly reasonable remarks are only out of one's own subjective imagination, which is not consistent with reality. With a simple impression of society and a little knowledge of management theory, they have to tell their bosses what to do at work, which is nothing more than making them feel flashy and like empty talk. The reason why this kind of performance has no effect is because it has not been confirmed by practice and has no credibility. It's like a salesman who hasn't made any achievements. He can't teach others how to run his business. If he insists on doing that, it will only make people feel ridiculous. The fourth is to obey the leadership. Work is inseparable from leadership, and every link of work should be known to the boss and subject to unified command and leadership. Only when the work is arranged and valued by the boss can the work itself be meaningful, and it can only be affirmed and praised after the achievements are made. It's like a secretary sweeping the floor or doing other things unrelated to work without writing good materials. It doesn't make any sense. Therefore, the work must obey the leadership's command and respond to the call of superiors, so as to get the affirmation and attention of the leadership, and only obedient people can be reused and appreciated, otherwise the best talents can't serve the focus of the work, and they are not real talents, but will always be appreciated and trusted.

3, cater to the boss's psychology

Leaders need to adapt. Everyone has his own personality, and he wants others to adapt to him, so does dealing with the relationship between superiors and subordinates. Only by mastering the leader's personality and psychology can we cater to his preferences and finally gain his trust and support. Of course, this kind of love is out of kindness, in order to facilitate the adaptation work. One is to satisfy vanity and reflect the value of power. Everyone who is in power is not born in power, but always becomes a person in power through hard work. This kind of hard work is more or less hard, so anyone who becomes a ruler must make others succumb to himself in order to achieve psychological balance and satisfy the vanity of hard work. Conversely, respecting and obeying superiors is the most direct embodiment of the value of power and the purpose of pursuing power. In order to properly handle the relationship between superiors and subordinates and grasp this vanity, we should obey the arrangement of leaders in our work, especially in public, even if it is a wrong arrangement, we should do it in an unfamiliar contact stage. The second is to satisfy the sense of accomplishment and let the leaders have the impulse to care. All achievements belong to the leadership, so all work can be carried out under the correct leadership. Without the unified command of the boss, individual combat is useless. In a department-based group, individual achievements are integrated into collective achievements. Regardless of whether this achievement is cooperative or not, the result is subordinate to the group, and the representative of the group is the boss. So whether you like it or not, you owe your work to the leader, even if he didn't participate at all. This is a way of working, a way of doing things. From some historical events in ancient times, we can see precedents. People who take credit for themselves will come to no good end, and they are just annoying leaders. Satisfied with the leader's sense of accomplishment, let him appreciate you not only because of your work, but also because you invisibly make him have more face. In the future work, he will take the initiative to clear the way for you and help you, because in his view, all your achievements are tied to him. Third, it is conducive to work and to solving problems. Companies need independent talents, and bosses also need people who are loyal to themselves and have the ability to do a good job. If they can't do a good job and solve practical problems, they won't dare to reuse you, even though you are loyal enough. Therefore, when the boss evaluates you, it is very important to see whether your work ability is beneficial to your work. Therefore, for an excellent talent, the first thing you need is to take the initiative to play a role and give the platform the ability. To cultivate your ability to handle things independently, dare to let go, and let people feel at ease to do it, you need to be serious and responsible in your usual work and be loyal to your duties. In the work, we should not aim too high and do things around some empty goals, but be down-to-earth and constantly do a good job in basic work, so that quantitative change to a certain extent will inevitably lead to qualitative change. That is what we usually call "nature". The fourth is to put yourself in the boss's shoes. As a professional, analyzing people's psychology is a basic skill. Trying to figure out the leader's character is the main means of attacking the heart. Psychological analysis of superior leaders is conducive to grasping the work scale, making them adapt to the leadership and carry out their work, without playing the devil's advocate, and can share worries and solve problems in their work. We saw the leader standing at the foot of the mountain and looking halfway up the mountain, and the boss saw that we were standing at the foot of the mountain with different heights. For example, business people talk about the first order, full of joy, regardless of profit level or feasibility, just want to do it, while managers have to consider whether the production plan, production cost and production of other salesmen conflict, so they often look at the problem from the boss's point of view and can't do things according to their own wishes, which will only. Even if you want your boss to accept your own ideas, you should stand in the perspective of others and take a gentle drizzle to deal with the problem. This will make you reasonable and considerate, and such people are easily valued by leaders. Fifth, consciously safeguard the boss and maintain departmental harmony. When dealing with departmental relations, we should pay attention to the differences inside and outside. This department can have opinions when talking about the boss, but it should pay attention to the scale between departments. The position of department head in the company determines the position and activity ability of department personnel in the company, so it is very necessary to maintain leadership in foreign situations. Some people like to talk about the boss's shortcomings and reduce the boss's image in the company to vent their dissatisfaction. They think it will make people feel that he is inferior in this department and his ability is far better than that of his boss. Therefore, in order to gain the trust of leaders, we must have a sense of the overall situation. This is the truth of sharing weal and woe.

4. Do what you want.

The boss is not a god who doesn't eat fireworks, but also a person who eats fireworks. He is a flesh-and-blood person. Only people have feelings and selfishness, and it is impossible to be truly fair and just. Therefore, to gain the trust of leaders, we should not only work hard at work, but also learn to care about the spring breeze in life, so that they can feel close to you and trust you. To put it bluntly, it is to treat you as "one of our own" and "close friend", which comes from the care in life.

To be a person who is really cared for and helped by the boss, we must try to figure out the boss's psychology and learn to be aggressive: first of all, we must learn to be caring and attentive. The higher the status, the easier it is for people to feel lonely and lonely at the top. Because others are afraid of him and dare not approach him, the more he needs the care of others, and he is most easily moved by care, which is precisely the weakness of human nature. When dealing with the boss relationship, don't be stingy with a few words of concern, and don't be ashamed of such flattering words. Second, do what you want to do. Everyone has a vulnerable side. As long as you find this, you can open a person's mind. Once the mind is opened, he will become a docile sheep and be led by you. Talking about literature with people who like sports will only make people feel like lovers, not strangers, so we need to find out each other's hobbies, find resonance points and produce like-minded effects. Third, learn to serve tea and water. Why do people who wander around the leaders always get promoted faster than those outside? This is because people often rely on feelings when dealing with employment problems, and feelings themselves are an abstract concept, that is, they can't say when or what, and they are not limited to what time, but a cumulative process. People who pour tea around the leader every day unconsciously let the boss feel your hard work and think that you are working for the boss, which will be more partial to you out of selfishness; People who work outside may be sweating, but they are not seen. Even if they are, they are not seen every day, so it is not so easy to be heard when they are promoted. On the other hand, serving tea seems inferior, but it can make your boss feel your concern and sincerity. This personal concern for him can easily induce him to repay you selfishly. Sometimes when you see that there is no water in the cup in the leadership office, you need to add some water. Although it is easy to do such a small thing, it can produce wonderful results, which has been tried.

5. Three principles

The above points are very important when dealing with the relationship between superiors and subordinates, but they can only be effective if they are used flexibly. This flexibility comes from the accumulation of long-term practical experience and deep understanding of human nature. To use the above methods correctly, we should also pay attention to three principles. One is ambition. You should have your own ambitions and goals. Work without goals is blind work. Dealing with the boss is a process to achieve your goals, not an end, and you will eventually leave this environment to start a business. Therefore, you should handle your relationship with this idea, so that it can be used to achieve my goals at all stages and create a favorable working atmosphere for me. But you can't let yourself indulge in it, which will kill your fighting spirit and ruin your future. The second is to have festivals. To be neither humble nor supercilious, all kinds of relations should be carried out on the premise of mutual respect. Cooperation does not mean inferiority, and management is not a personal affiliation. The purpose of getting along with superiors is to get help and care. This kind request stems from respect for each other, and when this kind of help is a manifestation of charity, then we would rather refuse. I have always believed that the relationship between people is based on respect. Once the basis of mutual respect is lost, friends are no longer friends, and any relationship will break down. The third is moderation. Mastering the correct scale is the key to deal with the relationship with the boss. Although the method is effective, it is not too much. It is annoying to go too far to the left, and it is despised to go too far to the right. Just like a service job, if it is too superficial, it will be denounced as an apple polisher, looked down upon by others, too formal, and make the leader uncomfortable. This is one of them. The second is the handling relationship between leapfrog leaders and direct supervisors. I think the closer the relationship with the leaders above the level, the better the relationship with the direct supervisor, but the two cannot conflict. This is a matter of degree. For the line boss, he only has the ability to supervise your management, and once he is offended, he will be out of luck immediately, so he should keep close contact, but not too close, because he is also a manager in turn, and will teach you a lesson with a straight face when he knows that you are wrong, so he should be close in scale and cannot promote you himself. Even if you have a good relationship with him, he will only say yes or not to speak ill of you when he promotes you. It is very important for leaders above the level to master your promotion and destiny, but if you get too close, it will obviously cause your line boss's dissatisfaction, and if you don't get too close, you will miss the opportunity, so if you work hard in this direction according to your own situation, you will definitely find the right opportunity to make yourself successful at one fell swoop.

The edge of the sword comes from sharpening, and the fragrance of plum blossoms comes from bitter cold. Only by going deep into the lowest level of society and experiencing the truest and most direct side of human nature can we truly grasp the essence of human nature and truly realize ourselves. We always think that learning from other people's experience can make us mature and perfect. In fact, you can't learn from other people's experience. Only with rich social experience can we be inspired by others' experience, which is equivalent to taking a road with others, summing up our own experience and lessons and benefiting ourselves. Without this profound social experience, this kind of learning is like an armchair strategist and meaningless. We should not only be brave enough to seek and sum up experience from the society, but also be brave enough to learn from the successful experience of others, properly handle various social relations and realize our goals as soon as possible.