Whose life is not confused?

I attended a new book sharing meeting the other day. In the reader's questioning session, a girl stood up and asked the author-I have lost interest in anything recently, and I feel that I can't love all aspects of my life. My life is empty and confused. What should I do?

the author smiled, adjusted her glasses and said, isn't it an interest that you come to my new book sharing meeting? Doesn't that mean you still have love for life? Young people always like to talk about confusion, thinking that confusion is a stumbling block on the road of life, and they can't go down until they are eradicated. As everyone knows, everyone is confused sometimes, just like me, who is forty years old, and still has many problems. Like loneliness, confusion is the normal state of life. Don't fight against confusion, learn to adapt to it and get along with it.

after listening to this passage, I was caught in the crowd, and suddenly felt relaxed for no reason, even slightly happy. It turns out that in this world, you and I are the same, confused and growing.

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I met an associate professor when I was in college. In my senior year, I was faced with the dilemma of taking the postgraduate entrance examination and finding a job. Like most students, I was confused and helpless. I seemed to find no way out except wasting the rest of my time. On the way to the canteen, I met him coming with a smile. Sitting face to face at the dinner table, talking to me about that year.

He said that in his third year of research, he also had a period of confusion in the face of taking a PhD exam and looking for a job. At that time, he took part in the recruitment examination of a magazine, and the written test and interview went well, but his salary was meager. In a big city like Shanghai, it was a problem to support himself. Between interest and livelihood, he had to choose a livelihood, took a PhD exam, graduated from a doctor, and taught in colleges and universities smoothly. Through my own efforts, I was promoted from a lecturer to an associate professor.

He said that the feeling of confusion has never disappeared over the years. Many times when he wakes up in the middle of the night, he will ask himself, what if he had entered the magazine society? Will life be different? You don't need to write another headache paper, you don't need to rack your brains to prepare lessons, you just need to review the manuscript submitted by the author, and the rest of the time can be used for reading and writing? Did you choose the wrong path from the beginning?

After asking many questions, I gradually understand that there is no standard answer in life, and there is a haze behind every glamorous life. Everyone who understands the world will be accompanied by confusion. It is against the laws of nature to eliminate the confused life. As he spoke, he couldn't help laughing.

years later, I will still think of that night, his soft voice, the dim lights in the canteen and the heavy night road outside. Every time I think about it, I feel that the heavy life has been diluted, and even the surrounding air seems to be light.

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Xiao Hai is one of my readers. Two months ago, he sent a private letter saying that he was tired of his current job, and he kept repeating mechanically day after day, working from nine to five, and after work, he was either chasing drama or playing games. Such a day seemed to come to an end at once. He said that he wanted to quit his job, live in go to dali for a while and get his old self back.

There are probably many people like Xiaohai. Living in a city and living in a fast-paced and efficient life for a long time, it is very easy to feel confused. If you live, you don't know why you live. In your mind, you subconsciously start a game between money and yourself, struggling between material life and spiritual life and falling into a dilemma.

such confusion is the normal state of life. In fact, everyone is looking for a balance in life, especially young people. I told Xiaohai that go to dali can quit his job, but it is unnecessary. It is better to take an annual leave and go out to relax. I have been to a distant place, and perhaps I found the most beautiful one beside me.

Xiaohai took my advice, took a vacation and embarked on a journey to Dali alone. During that time, I often received photos from Xiaohai in private letters. On the streets of the ancient city, I was fascinated by the songs of wandering singers, and the small sea in the sunset gently narrowed my eyes; On the edge of butterfly spring, Xiaohaitou wore a beautiful wreath, opened his arms, opened his mouth and smiled unscrupulously; On the shore of Erhai Lake, Xiaohai quietly looked at the calm lake, and a yellow cat dozed off beside him. At that moment, the whole world seemed to be quiet.

After the holiday, Xiaohai returned to her original city and resumed her previous job. He told me calmly that, in fact, when you go to Dali, you will be confused, especially in the middle of the night when all is silent. When you are in a foreign land, you will feel that your life is suddenly lost. Sometimes awake, sometimes confused, this may be life.

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Who's not lost in life? Confusion is the normal state of life. Many times, the reason why you are stuck in a confused mood may be because you take confusion too seriously and exaggerate its weight.

In our long life, confusion is really an insignificant part. Everyone will encounter their own confusion period more or less, and everyone will find their way sometimes. At this moment, don't be afraid, stop, close your eyes and take a nap, and then move on, your sight may be clearer.

please believe that confusion has never been the background color of life. It's just a dark cloud over your head. The dark cloud will gather and dissipate. Just walk over and you can see the clear Wan Li.