The child suspected of autism didn't speak until he was four and a half years old. How did I finish the counterattack?

My son was born in June 16. He used to rent a house. The landlord's grandson is four days younger than my son. /kloc-After 0 years old, my wife started to work normally. /kloc-stopped breastfeeding for two months in June of 0/6, and was taken care of by grandparents. Due to language problems, grandparents all speak their hometown dialect, and we speak Mandarin with our children. From the beginning, my son accepted it.

Until we were over 2 years old, we didn't care that he couldn't speak to learn a language. When we saw that the landlord's grandson had begun to talk a lot, we realized that our son had not talked to his parents, and he didn't say a word, so we began to worry. So we began to buy books online, and came back from work at night to consciously teach him the language, but it didn't change until we were 3 years old. We thought about whether to put it in kindergarten and get in touch with peers, so the language environment will be better. As a result, I changed three kindergartens, and I haven't changed since I was 4 years old. Going back to my hometown and going out to play, we are all afraid of being told that I am 4 years old and can't speak yet. We all console ourselves that it is difficult for a noble person to speak. Actually, we really panicked at that time. We even went to a doctor introduced by my grandmother and asked him to cut the tendon under the tongue, which didn't bring any effect.

So, in the summer of 18, we went to the municipal women and children's hospital. The examination results showed that the initial diagnosis showed that the intellectual development did not match the age, the language development degree was 0, and autism was suspected. We don't want to believe this result. We were puzzled at the time. The doctor said that according to this situation, we have to do rehabilitation treatment, which is expected to take seven and a half years, more than three years, and it is expected to be 15 days per month. Each course of treatment costs about 4,000 yuan at its own expense, and it costs about 50,000 yuan a year. It needs special care. I calculated that it would take more than three years to solve this problem, and I was very worried. A week later, we went to Guangzhou Children's Hospital and made an appointment to queue up. The doctor gave us a description and his brief observation, and also wrote a preliminary diagnosis: autism? I started the investigation of two projects, the first one was done immediately, and the second one had to be rescheduled, which would take about half a year. I paid more than 2000 yuan without hesitation.

After waiting in line for the first project inspection, three people went downstairs and looked at the bustling crowd. Their eyes are scattered and blank. My son took my mother to play outside, and my wife looked at me. I was expressionless, and suddenly I felt that scene was unforgettable in my life. That sense of helplessness filled my whole body. My wife took my son for a ride outside. I smoked a few cigarettes, went to discuss with my wife and went home! Because I've made up my mind!

When I got home, my wife and I talked in detail several times. In the worst case, this baby really can't talk! We also recognize it! But we must also try our best to make our son speak normally! We thought of several countermeasures.

First, when my son 1.5 years old, he was hospitalized for the first time with bronchopneumonia. I had an injection in the People's Hospital for 7 days. Later, I got pneumonia when I was over 2 years old, and I got pneumonia when I was over 3.5 years old. I can't remember the number of colds and fevers during this period. His physique couldn't be worse. Before that, we always wanted to know why he was soaked to sleep at night. In fact, his health has collapsed. I'm over five years old now, and I'm still at night. Later, a friend introduced us to a doctor who resigned from the People's Hospital. After adjusting with him for half a year, my son's physical condition gradually improved. /kloc-at the end of 0/8, we moved into our own house, and with exercise space, physical exercise became a compulsory course for my son and me. In summer evenings, we take him out for a run, and in cold weather, we play games and wrestle at home, so as to make sure that he is less sick.

Second, my wife and I are shopping in the supermarket, but the departments are different; Supermarkets are open all year round. On holidays, I throw my children into the trusteeship center, or occasionally let my parents take care of them. After a trip to Guangzhou, we made a decision, because in the same company, my wife and I go to work at the same frequency, and there is no so-called peak shift. So I advised my wife to resign and go home to look after the baby full-time. There are many rumors about her resignation. At that time, the leaders above had just taken office. Some people think it is because she refused to accept the resignation of the new leader, while others say that my wife was fired. We are too lazy to explain.

Third, because of frequent illness, we can't remember the number of times our son took medicine and injections. Every time is a kind of torture, and every time makes me deeply understand what it means to be a mother and a parent. It is precisely because of frequent injections and medicine that my son has a particularly bad temper and is irritable. This is his first time as a parent, and we all accommodate him. Every time he takes medicine at a discount, he will make a scene. Until later, we transferred him to the present kindergarten. Fortunately, we met a kindergarten that conforms to our philosophy. Before accepting my son into the park, the director interviewed my wife and me. Her point of view is that before they accept it, we must agree with their educational methods. She also learned about our education methods and the current situation of my son, and then we were scolded. At the same time, she also said that a child is a seed. If you take good care of him, he will grow into what we want. Don't label your child easily, think that he has a bad temper and personality, and don't arbitrarily characterize your child. He said that after more than an hour of observation, he felt that my son was an optimistic, confident and smiling sunshine boy! It's really the director's opinion. My wife and I have also strengthened our ideas. My son is definitely not an autistic child, so we have never been to the hospital for rehabilitation.

Fourth, around1August, my wife is amazing. She can always attract unexpected friends easily. Somehow, she found our children's rehabilitation center, and there was only one place left. We also meet the requirements of state subsidies, and successfully applied for a one-year disabled persons' Federation subsidy, and then she only needed to pay more than 3,000 yuan. Later, my daily life was like this. After work, I rushed to buy food. My wife went to the kindergarten to pick up the baby, ate her meal in a hurry and sent her to the rehabilitation center at 7: 30. The main contents of rehabilitation include oral muscle training, tongue training, sensory training, pronunciation training, etc.

Fifth; I have been insisting on rehabilitation training for almost a year. I can't remember the day in the summer of 19. One weekend morning, I took my son and my brother next door for a walk. The two children were fighting all the way. Suddenly, my son ran back and shouted "Mom". My wife burst into tears in an instant. He shouted again, and the son understood and kept calling mom, mom. That summer was short and happy, which also made me happy. But embarrassing things also come with it. After my son called his mother, he actually called his mother at the back, not to mention anything else, which lasted for almost half a year. My wife and I summed it up First of all, you can't rush to teach word by word.

Sixth, in the winter of 20 years, the COVID-19 epidemic swept the earth. On the second day of the lunar new year, my brother was recalled by the unit, and our family had to end their vacation early and return to the city from their hometown. Later, four more cases were infected in our city. All industries and vegetable markets in the city are closed except supermarkets, which are open for business to protect people's livelihood. I work in the supermarket every day and I have to rest until the supermarket opens in April and a half. It was also during the epidemic that I went to the kindergarten to open a garden. It took about three and a half months. My wife and son have never been apart for almost a moment. Maybe it's because of the security brought by such company. We made unremitting efforts to guide and grow up healthily, and our son finally began to understand. It's a pity that when he first called his father, I was working the night shift in the supermarket! We continue to teach him to say two to three words, four words or even a complete sentence. I also made a bet with my brother next door. I said he taught my son to call him dad, so I invited him to a big dinner!

Seventh, the summer of 20 years has come, and the epidemic situation here has basically been lifted. Half a year has passed, and the result is that my son can finally communicate with us in words, and he can also express himself completely and communicate with his classmates in kindergarten. The teacher at the rehabilitation center said that my son didn't have to go to them anymore. Mid-Autumn Festival back home, finally called out "grandparents".

Seventh, I said earlier why I agree with my son's educational philosophy in kindergarten. Let me explain here:

1. They think the child is a blank sheet of paper. Parents are the first responsible persons, and parents are the children's first teachers. We don't ask for anything, but give more guidance. That's what we mean.

2. They have morning reading in kindergarten, and parents and children are also required to have evening reading at home, reading children's stories, reading Chinese classics and so on. Their view is that you don't need to understand the meaning, but you must read it. It goes without saying that you can never get tired of reading. It is precisely because of this persistence that reading stories before going to bed every night has become a habit, and my son can tell us stories himself.

Finally, when I heard the word autism, I found many such children around me. My colleague's son is three months younger than mine, identifying moderate autism, and another colleague's baby is 4 years old and hasn't spoken yet, identifying severe autism; Why do I firmly believe that my son is not autistic? To tell the truth, I have gambling elements, but I won the bet, but I also made a lot of preparations. The hardest thing is to keep company, and the other half gives up work. The economic pressure is very great. So far, our credit card still owes more than ten W; In short, parents are just, never admit defeat, never bow their heads, and firmly believe that the dawn will come! May the children in the world not be lonely, open their hearts and welcome the sunshine!