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"Sugar sugar, I tell you, when you are looking for a man in the future, you must polish your eyes. The brighter the better. Don't get married just to get married. You must remember what I said, or you will end up like me! "

The woman who said this is Ye Zi. When I was in college, I slept with my sister in the upper bunk. She was Pisces and Libra, and there were six people in a dormitory. My relationship with her is the best.

She was the first of the six of us to get married. After graduation, she returned to the county, met her husband, got a certificate one year later, held a wedding banquet the next year, and now the child is two years old. It's a boy, a lovely little boy.

My mother always said,

"Look at people's leaves. They are as old as you. Their child is three and a half years old. You can be a good person. Now you haven't even brought me a man. When can I make a fortune and bring a man back to show your mother? I will die and close my eyes. "

Yes, the leaves in my mother's mouth are the leaves that began to tell me how painful it was.

Mr. Ye's surname is Fang. We all call him Lao Fang and call him Lao Fang. In fact, he is as old as us, only a little anxious and mature, but it is also good. At the age of twenty, he is quite disadvantaged. When everyone is thirty, his advantage will be revealed. When everyone is forty, his advantage will be more obvious, because

Laos is very kind to leaves. Whether a man treats a woman attentively or not can be reflected in some small details. For example, when eating, he will tell the leaves that they have a bad stomach and don't eat spicy food. No matter how late you come back from overtime, as long as the leaves say what you want to eat, as long as they are still selling, no matter how far away, the leaves will definitely eat in your mouth that night.

Ye Zi was the earliest among us to get married, and the only one among us who didn't rush out to squeeze the subway before dawn. She graduated and worked in a class for two years. There are few people in a small city, and it costs ten yuan to take a taxi, so you can basically go around the city. She hasn't been working for a long time, and Laos doesn't force her to work. After having children, Ye devoted himself to the family.

Take care of both the children and the husband.

It is such a happy woman who left her family without warning and came to Shanghai.

She didn't even say hello to me when she came. A person came with some clothes, and when her work was stable, she called me for the first time, so there was an opening scene.

Seeing her again, she was much thinner than during the Spring Festival. Hardly had I sat down and ordered something good, but before I could speak, she began to chatter.

"Do you know why I live a comfortable life at home, but I have to go to Shanghai to suffer this foreign crime?"

I shook my head. I really don't know, and I really want to know, what made Ye Zi, a very, very homesick woman, go to Shanghai to start from scratch.

The last thing that happened made her finally take this step.

"I fell in love with him on the 26th. I am thirty-one and five years old this year. Sugar sugar, five years, long talk, short talk. Five years has worn away the original fighting spirit of Laos. The Fang Zhihong I knew at the beginning was not like this. At first, I just thought he could give me a sense of security, and I didn't have to worry about anything. I think I can trust him with everything. I believe he can handle it, and he will definitely give me a stable life. But after only five years, everything has changed. He became a stranger to me and didn't know how to be flexible. In my work, I still stubbornly insist on it when I know that my efforts and returns are not proportional. Even if I broke my mouth, I didn't change him even a little. "

I took a tissue and handed it to her. It pains me to see the tears in her eyes fall, because as an editor of an emotional column, I know so much about leaves and things like that. I really don't want such helplessness to happen to my best friend.

But obviously, I hope I don't take life into account. What should happen will happen.

"But leaves, have you ever thought that it is not a day or two to cultivate a person's character? This is a cumulative process, which has a lot to do with his growing environment and his parents' personality. In fact, don't you think he hasn't changed, has it changed you? It is because you have become dissatisfied that you think he has changed. "

Assists froze, looked at me for a few seconds, and finally slowly bowed his head. I'm in no hurry. I know she is not angry, but she is just thinking about how to answer this sentence.

After two minutes, she slowly raised her head, took a sip of water from the cup at hand, and then said quietly.

"Yes, I have changed, I have become dissatisfied, but how can you satisfy me? I didn't feel anything before, because our life is simple and there are no children. Do you know how much it costs to raise a child? Eat, wear and use. Tao Tao is so big that it doesn't taste the best, but at least it's not the worst. As long as we can, we will give it to him. With children, you will understand that parents always want to give their children what they think is best. "

As she spoke, her eyes turned red. After a while, she continued, "Me too. After having a child, the expenses are big, the child is sick, and the youngest one is 10 thousand. Not to mention at ordinary times, a can of milk powder is over 200, which is still the most common. At the classmate's house, milk powder was mailed from South Korea, and six cans were more than 2,000, which was the price of group purchase. It's more expensive to buy it separately. After the children added complementary food, the salmon was basically unbroken. Better 100 kilograms, generally 60, 70. This fruit never goes bad in season. When these things add up, you don't need money, and there is a mortgage to follow. The list of entertainment and gifts between Lao colleagues, an August school season, almost a month's salary is gone. There are also heating fees, property fees, and money everywhere. Tell me, how can I be satisfied? How can I be satisfied? "

"That these didn't you tell him? Doesn't he know the actual situation at home? " I asked.

I don't think Laos is the kind of person who has no ideas. On the contrary, I have always felt that Laos is the kind of person who has ideas in his heart.

"Say, year after year, month after month, just say that finish can have a little idea, but it didn't take long, and become the same. Sometimes when he is impatient, he will say, what's wrong with this now? You don't lack your drink. I didn't buy you anything if you want. I have worked in the unit for five years, and now I am at least a leader. What if you are unlucky? I am also in a hurry, but is there a better way now? "

She looked at me with a self-deprecating smile. "This is basically his exact words, this is his answer. He didn't realize the crux of the problem at all. what can I say? At least a leader, hehe, a fart leader. In my aunt's words, our family is an empty shelf. It's good for outsiders to look at cars and houses. Actually, there is no deposit at all. Children are growing up every day. They will go to kindergarten in September, and there will be more places to need money in the future. If this is still the case, what money shall I give him to make up lessons and interest classes? "

Make-up fees, interest classes, to be honest, I personally disapprove of children learning these things. Our generation didn't have so many classes to make up when they were young, and they didn't have any interest in taking classes. Aren't we doing just as well now? Why do children have to learn that?

"I ask you, after going to school, the teacher in charge said that students in need can come to her for counseling after class, and all the children in the class have left. Won't you let your children go? You know everything, but which parent could be so headstrong at that time? Because of the general trend, what can the power of three or two people change? I didn't have to think about it before, because I haven't had children yet, so I don't need to think so much. Now I can't think of it. The children grow up day by day. Now I don't want to get up. When should I get up? Wait until the children come home and tell me that mom has to pay the tuition of our school? It will be late then! "

"Besides, sugar sugar, you know what kind of personality I am," Ye added. "If I don't have children, I'm not afraid to live a hard life with Laos. I have always valued feelings more than anything else, but if I could see a little hope in him, I wouldn't leave my hometown and come to Shanghai alone. If possible, any woman doesn't want to be beautiful, take care of her children, watch movies and get a manicure every day. Who wants to carry everything like a woman and always has the ability to force her to be a prostitute! "

The ability to force a good girl into prostitution! ! !

Well, I smiled shyly. Fortunately, although I am confused by anger, I am still the leaf in my bones, or the leaf that always inadvertently produces a golden sentence that is quite punctual.

"So what are you going to do now? Long-term separation between the two places is always not the way. Leaves, life will always give us all kinds of problems, and blindly escaping will only make the problems worse. I feel that when everything is irreparable, the result is not what you want. "

But unlike those who have been poor together, life is not a fairy tale. There are not so many books to make the prince and princess live happily. Life is not short, and you will always encounter all kinds of problems. Think about how to escape every time you encounter a problem?

Unrealistic and irrational.

I have never been afraid of so-called difficult problems, no matter how difficult the problem is, no matter how headache it is, as long as there is a solution, I am not afraid.

What I fear most is the unsolved problem. The whole person's state is like walking into a dead end, spinning in the same place, knowing that there is no answer, but can't bypass this circle.

I think the problem of Ye and Lao Fang is just a small problem thrown by life.

Compared with death, everything is nothing. It's like watching former junior high school students chat in full swing in a lively evening. I really hope that the boy who walked through my whole junior high school can suddenly come out and talk to me.

"Hi, long time no see, how are you?"

If that year, I know that we will meet for the last time in my life, I will never put down my chopsticks and go out to school in a hurry. I will tell him well.

"Long time no see, how are you?"

That year, I wouldn't be in the hospital, holding a bag of washing powder like a fool, watching him get hurt and leaving without even saying a complete word.

Unfortunately, there are not so many ifs. When some people leave, they really leave. Without even a chance to say goodbye, I left off guard.

The leaves looked at me and smiled. "Sugar sugar, because there are regrets, there will be beauty. If he is still here, are you sure you will think of him from time to time? " The love in junior high school is not love at all, but the ignorant period of adolescence, but there is only him in your heart, only him. Fifteen years, he has been gone for fifteen years, but you still think of him from time to time, and you can't help but say to yourself, if he is still here, are you three children like little Weijie and little Riggs? "

I lit a cigarette and smiled gently.

Maybe, who knows.

"I'm talking about your problem. Don't interrupt. What are you going to do? " I changed the subject and didn't want to dwell on this unsolved problem.

Sometimes, some people leave us only a sigh!

Ye Zi was silent for a long time before saying, "In fact, Laos and I are not just trivial things in life. I have been in Shanghai for almost three months, and we seldom make phone calls. At first, I called him every day to tell him how happy I am here. However, many times, I only talked about the excitement, and he poured a pot of cold water over there. I won't tell you yet. Either he didn't respond at all after I finished, or, uh-huh, that's it. Slowly, slowly, I can't tell him anything unhappy, because he and I are not from the same world and he doesn't understand me. "

"Sugar sugar, in marriage, if either party has a problem, it's because two people themselves have a problem. When you choose this person as your life partner, you must have the idea of getting along well at first, but why did you leave? It has nothing to do with others, but to find that the other party does not understand themselves. Women don't want much in this life, just someone who knows themselves. I can listen and understand what I want to express and have the same hobbies. A good marriage is not to compromise each other, but to see each other's existence. "

"No one is wrong, he is right, I am right, just, we are not pursuing the same. I don't want to think about the future I will leave the future to the future. I can assure you that the current road is what I have always insisted on. I can only try my best not to get lost in the colorful city. I can only tell myself, remember, what is the purpose of starting over. As for the rest, I have no time to think about it now. "

A few days have passed, and Ye has been hovering in my mind. For a time, I even wondered if it was because of my career that I would always meet people who were troubled by life, such as Ye.

But I agree with Ye Zi.

"There is something wrong with a relationship, and the appearance of others is only an inducement. The real problem is the other party. "

"I can only guarantee that the current road is what I have been insisting on. I can only try my best not to get lost in the colorful metropolis."

Well, live in the present and leave the future to time.

In this society where crisis and opportunity coexist, the only thing we can do is to be ourselves and understand what we ultimately want.

Love is not the whole of life, there are so many intoxicating scenery in this world.

The sky will not fall, and the sun will rise as usual tomorrow. Why not change your mood and go into battle lightly?

Most importantly, baby, you are the best.

Facing all kinds of challenges brought by life, face up to difficulties.

Girls!