What if you are abused by your parents?

Recently, a reader in Australia broke the news backstage today: a single mother who claimed to be Xiaoyi (a pseudonym) wanted to expose a Chinese father in Sydney!

In the self-report, Xiaoyi mentioned that her ex-husband Xiaoping (a pseudonym) was not only "lazy, but also praised and abused her!"

In the eyes of friend R, "Their married life is not happy. That man is good at talking and blowing. "

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At present, Xiaoyi rents a house in Brisbane with her children alone. She just wants to take her children back to China for vaccination.

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"I hope the Will family will leave us alone,

Let our mother and son go back to China,

I have fallen in love with them. "

The following is the self-report of Xiaoyi (a pseudonym):

I am Xiao Ping's ex-wife, Yi. I registered my marriage with Xiaoyao in Australia on May 6, 20 16, and decided to divorce on June 28, 20 17, and have officially separated since then. At this point, I want to truthfully explain the reasons for our separation and divorce.

The small bottle is a domestic violence in the devil wears Prada, who is lazy, ignores friendship, talks nonsense, does not respect human rights. I graduated from college, too young to be wet behind the ears, and my sweet promises to him led to today's divorce.

"In love, he coaxed me with sweet words."

During his love, he told me that he had a stable job and could be promoted by the leader in the near future. Besides, he boasted that he would never lose his job unless he resigned voluntarily. He told me that his parents are both high-ranking officials and reasonable people at the cultural level, and they must treat me as their lover. I believed his promise and went back to China to meet his parents at the end of 20 15 and the beginning of 20 16.

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Maybe it's because meeting for the first time gave me a good feeling. So he brought his parents to my house to propose marriage. After the parents of both sides met, they also said good things. Let my parents rest assured that I will live the happiest life and enjoy a life that others can't enjoy.

And their family promised that if I like living in Brisbane, I will definitely buy a bigger villa and give it to us as a wedding room in Brisbane. Although they bought an apartment in Sydney 10 years ago, they rented it for a long time and it has become an old house.

Therefore, even though my parents didn't want my only daughter to cross the ocean and live overseas for a long time, because of the promise of two of a kind and his parents, my parents believed his parents and agreed to our marriage.

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At the same time, his parents asked how much bride price our family needed. My parents' answer is, as long as you can fulfill your promise, as long as the bottle and his family are good to me after marriage, everything is good for both of us, and the bride price is free! Seeing my parents in vain, Pan's family even said it was great, thanking my parents again and again for training me so well!

"After marriage, the nightmare really began."

Who knows, on April 20 16 1 day, Xiao Bottle suddenly lost his job inexplicably, without giving me half an explanation or reason. I am not responsible for his sudden unemployment. I just think that as long as they share joys and sorrows, life will be fine.

After I got married, I dropped out of school because I was seriously unwell during pregnancy. But my idea is that although he is unemployed, I can find something to do, so I started the business of purchasing. I was not familiar with the product from the beginning, and then I gradually accumulated customers, all of which were maintained by me.

So the purchasing business is ok. I use all the income I earn to subsidize my family. Including birth check-up, surgery, hospitalization, all the baby products for children are paid by me! The most exasperating thing is that during my pregnancy, Little Bottle didn't do any housework. When I was cleaning, he actually said "you are poor and clean"! How hurtful is this?

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And I was pregnant for 7-8 months, and he kept me sleeping on a low mattress. It's very cold in winter in Sydney, and the belly gets bigger in the late pregnancy. Sleeping on the mattress makes me unable to bend over and my whole body aches. Under my repeated urging, it took him more than eight months to buy a bedstead, which is still a simple bedstead.

It was not until 20 1 6165438+10/that Xiao Yao found a temporary job with a monthly salary of 2668 Australian dollars. At this time, I have been facing the full-term production at any time, but I still insist on doing purchasing business and purchasing and delivering goods. Drive him to the railway station early in the morning and pick him up at night.

2016165438+1in late October, Bottle's parents came to Australia, ostensibly to take care of their daughter-in-law, but this was not the case. They never take the initiative to cook. In addition to buying food and cooking for them on a hot day, I repeatedly asked my full-term pregnant women to drive with them and buy them gifts to take home. At that time, the weather in Sydney was extremely hot.

Although I can't stand it, I still try my best to meet their demands out of filial piety. Before the baby was born, Little Bottle's mother said to me many times: "The life of a caesarean section child is bad and unlucky!" I don't know what she means. !

"During the month, he actually began to abuse me!"

On 20 16 12 17, our baby was born. I thought it brought laughter, but I never thought it was the beginning of my tragic life. After the baby was born, she became a new mother and had a lot of things at home. Xiaoping complained to me many times that his parents were simply dragging him down in Australia. He personally told me and his friends many times that his parents could not help him. He not only has to go to work, but also takes care of children and the elderly. He is as tired as a dog every day. He has also discussed with me many times to let his parents return to China as soon as possible.

Coincidentally, on February 30, 65438, his brother Pan Changchun and his girlfriend were coming to Australia, so he tried to get me to return the room I rented for his brother and girlfriend on the grounds that the rent was too high, and persuaded his parents to return to China on this ground, and also took the initiative to help his parents change their air tickets for returning home early. Before vial's parents returned to China, I did my duty and filial piety as a daughter-in-law, and let them bring back all kinds of health care products and skin care products and bird's nest that I planned to eat during confinement.

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On February 30th, 20 16, 16, vial's brother and girlfriend arrived in Australia and lived in the house we rented at that time. Fortunately, his brother is naked every day and his underwear comes in and out of my room at will. I completely ignored that I was still in the second month, and I needed to breastfeed and take care of my children's daily life. Seriously, his brother came back to my room in the middle of the night wearing only a pair of underwear. I feel extremely angry, but good manners tell me that I have to discuss this matter with Xiaoping. I hope he can remind his younger brother to pay a little attention to his behavior, and I hope he will consider that the child needs to go to bed early at night and don't go in and out at will to cause some unnecessary embarrassment.

However, what I didn't expect was that the little bottle said, "What's the matter? Isn't it normal? " And said I didn't know how to be a man. Because in the second month, I felt that my mood would affect the milk and the health of the child, so I didn't care.

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But things are not over. Because Bottle's brother and girlfriend came to Australia to take wedding photos, I gave them a set of wedding photos. Unexpectedly, Bottle lent his brother the wedding photos taken by my parents. I said, this is not good. Once you get married, you take a wedding photo once. Borrow this meaningful thing, after all, you have worn it, which is unlucky.

As soon as he spoke, the little bottle fiercely accused me of meddling and calling me stingy. Besides these, the most exasperating and serious thing happened. His brother and girlfriend approach 20,000 paces every day, but every night when they get home and get off the train, they call for a small bottle to pick them up. Small bottle, if you don't complain about how tired you are every day in front of me, you can pick it up. The key is to pick up his brother and girlfriend while shouting fatigue in front of me, and take care of nothing at home. Don't talk about housework, don't help, don't take care of children, just pick up my brother and girlfriend.

What is hateful is that he lied to me, obviously took my brother's luggage home, and told me that he didn't. In the end, I really couldn't bear it, but I didn't expect that because of my anger, he started a domestic violence against me the next month. He not only pushed me to the ground, but also repeatedly hit me, and later asked me to apologize to his brother. On a rainy night, I was forced to stay in a hotel with my children and Yue Yue. He turned a blind eye to us, but repeatedly stressed that his brother was not wrong and asked me to apologize. The next day, I had a mastitis attack, a high fever of 39 degrees, and my waist was seriously damaged, so I couldn't stand up straight. What is hateful is that he didn't say sorry from beginning to end! ! !

"Forgiveness will only bring more insults."

Later, he knew that my parents would come over during the Chinese New Year on 20 17. He was afraid that I would tell my parents about his domestic violence, so he repeatedly begged me to forgive him. Blame me me for being stupid and naive. Out of a mother's heart, I also want to give my child a complete home and choose to forgive him, thinking that he will change and will always get better.

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On the first day of the Lunar New Year in 20 17, my parents arrived in Sydney. This is their first visit to Australia. Small bottle on the grounds of busy work, deliberately don't pick up. I am a pregnant woman who has just given birth to a child for ten days, so I have to leave my child at a friend's house and go to the airport to meet my parents alone.

When my parents came, they knew that we were moving, and they were busy before. Because we didn't have time to pack things, my father got up at three o'clock in the middle of the night to help us pack things, so that we could move these things quickly when the moving company came the next day, saving time and money.

Unexpectedly, after moving back to the small bottle and his parents' so-called mansion, the air conditioner was broken, the hot water pipe was broken, the window was broken, the carpet was moldy, the master bedroom wardrobe was rotten and moldy, and the toilet lid was broken. Can such a house be called a "mansion"? On the day of more than 40 degrees, my parents helped us move, and there was no air conditioning at home. The broken window can't be opened, and there is no wind, so we adults can forget it. This hot weather gave my child a hot rash.

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After moving the furniture, the bottle began to go to work, leaving everything behind. My father and I are cleaning at home. We have been asking the bottle to contact the property quickly and fix the air conditioner, otherwise it is impossible for the child to live at home in such a hot day.

Ironically, the bottle said that the air conditioner on the middle floor of the whole building was broken before the maintenance could be arranged. Is this reason ridiculous? In desperation, my father and I went to the electronics store to buy the most expensive mobile air conditioner and electric fan, just to keep the children cool.

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My parents have been here 16 days. They have been helping us to settle down at home, buy food and cook until Xiaoping goes to work. Every day when he comes home from work, he will prepare fresh meals for him. However, Xiaoping is not grateful and only cares about himself. When he comes home from work, he just sits on the ground and plays with his mobile phone. After dinner, he will lie in bed with dirty clothes and play with his mobile phone. Just ignore my parents' kindness to him. Never do any housework regardless of children. Until my parents returned home, he didn't even go downstairs to show off, which made my parents extremely chilling and left Australia with tears in their eyes.

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As the saying goes, "A leopard cannot change his spots." Bottle's laziness, humiliation and domestic violence continued until we parted.

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From February to June, he didn't do any housework. Clothes were littered at home, shoes were littered at the door, I peed all over the floor, and I walked casually on the carpet. I repeatedly advised him to pay attention to hygiene. He said, "What's the use of marrying you if you don't clean up?" Not only that, he pointed to me many times and said, "What are you dissatisfied with living in such a good house?" "What are you without me? What can you do in Australia? " Hehe, how did I spend those 25 years without knowing you? My life will only be better without you.

He talks wildly, but he doesn't want to think about the day after marriage. When I am pregnant, I support my family and earn money to support him. I dedicate myself to this family and children. But he said so many bad things to me that insulted my personality, which drove me to the point where I couldn't stand it, and vowed to leave him and divorce him.

"After the divorce, he didn't let our mother and son go ..."

2065438+At the beginning of June 2007, he and I filed for divorce. Tell him clearly that I have given it to my lawyer to handle our divorce. He doesn't think so. In June 1 1, his mother suddenly arrived in Australia. I don't know if it's the cause. She has been sticking a plaster on her face, but she has been forcing her to hold the baby.

I can understand a grandmother's love for her grandson, but have you considered the health of her children? Holding the child close to the face, the child was seriously infected with eczema and had a large rash on his face. As the mother of the child, I don't ask you to buy a gift for your grandson as a grandmother (since the birth of the child, the parents of the little bottle have never paid a penny for the child! ), but I hope you put your child's health first! ! !

But the little bottle said, "nothing, just blushing."

When the child defecates, the mother and son watch the child feel uncomfortable and wait for me to go home and change diapers. Is this the attitude that a grandmother and a father should have towards their children?

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Nevertheless, I have fulfilled my filial piety as a daughter-in-law, preparing meals for his mother and taking care of the children by myself every morning, noon and evening. What makes me even more chilling is that when I talked to his mother about a small bottle of home beating people, his mother gave me the reply: this is not a matter of principle!

Beating people at home is not a matter of principle. Then, may I ask your mother-in-law, Professor Tao, whether your knowledge level and moral outlook have been defiled? It is because of such an unreasonable family that I am more determined to divorce. In any case, I will give my children a healthy and safe living environment.

2065438+On June 28th, 2007, I officially moved out of a so-called "mansion" in a small bottle and have been here ever since. For four months, Xiao Bottle dragged the child support agreement drafted by the lawyer without signing, refused to sign the passport for the child, refused to let our mother and son return to China, did not pay any support, showed no concern for the child, and turned a blind eye to the child's illness. I wonder, which father in the world would be so cruel to his children?

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It was only at the end of September that the little bottle came to visit the child for the first time and didn't buy a dress or a toy for the child. Just verbally showing concern, kissing and hugging for the children. It is no exaggeration to say that the vial is scum. I told him again and again that for the sake of children's good and better care, you should sign the agreement quickly, and the content of the support agreement is up to you, as long as it can reassure me and my children and better raise them.

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However, he refused the visa for a long time and shirked it for various reasons, which bound my life and my children's life in Australia. Dear friends, can you understand how difficult it is for a single mother who is only 25 years old to live in a foreign country like Australia with her children? Because I have to take care of my children, I can't go to work and have no income. I rely on subsidies from my parents.

The child was sent to the emergency department with a fever, and stood in line for 4-5 hours in the middle of the night, feeling cold and helpless. I just hope that my children and I can go back to China. Why is their home so difficult? Why can they be so cruel to their grandchildren?

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20 17 10 1, my parents feel bad that I am alone with my children in Australia. They asked for leave to fly across the ocean 15 hours to accompany me and help me with my children. To this day, I haven't officially gone through the divorce formalities with Xiaoyao. When he learned of my parents' arrival, he didn't care, nor did he show filial piety and human kindness.

To make matters worse, he even made a condition that as long as I agreed to pay me 20 thousand, I would sign the child support agreement and passport immediately, so that I could return to China smoothly. In other words, the son of a small bottle, a life is only worth 20 thousand. This kind of behavior is simply worse than animals, devoid of humanity and morality. This behavior of their family forced me to sue in the family court.

20 17 10 16, because the child will be one year old soon, Australian doctors suggest that children in China need extra vaccination (BCG and JE vaccine). However, due to the serious shortage of BCG vaccine in Australia, doctors suggested returning to China to fight.

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The next day, I told the little bottle the news, hoping that he would agree to let me take my child back to China as soon as possible to finish the vaccination, and told him the round-trip time. Unexpectedly, he, who can't even take care of himself and his personal hygiene is seriously messy, told me that he would take care of the children.

When a child is born for more than ten months, the number of diaper changes can be counted with one hand. Moreover, the child has not been weaned. Can he take care of a child who can't live without breast milk? I have told him many times that for the sake of children's health, if the vaccine is delayed, will he be responsible for all the consequences? He actually said that I don't need to worry about the child's health! ! ! ! What a scum!

My xiaoyi has a dying heart for Xiao bottle and his family, and has no human feelings for their family. I'm exhausted by my arrogance.

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This letter, I swear by my personality, is true in every sentence. Finally, I urge the people of the whole country, the Chinese social media in Australia, and all social professionals to help me find ways to get Xiao Ping and his family to release our mother and son back to China as soon as possible. I would be very grateful.

(The above remarks are self-reported by reporter Xiaoyi, and do not represent Australia's views today. )

Today's summary

Xiao Yi, who is only 25 years old, is very helpless at present. She just wants to go back to China as soon as possible to vaccinate her children. However, she wrote in her self-report that it was this simple request that the father of the child did not agree.