Run the line with virtue and the heart with love.

An excellent child must have an excellent family and parents behind him. In my family, several generations have inherited the family style of "filial piety", "respect", "diligence" and "frugality", and they are harmonious, happy and friendly.

I am an ordinary primary school math teacher. I have been engaged in moral education in primary and secondary schools for nine years and served as a class teacher for eight years. As a teacher, I know very well that it is not easy to cultivate an excellent child as a parent, and it takes a long process.

(1) Be careful what you say and do, and put virtue first.

That year, my daughter was four years old, innocent and lively, and she felt fresh when she saw anything. I took my daughter shopping in the supermarket, and she conveniently pulled out a beautiful pearl flower that was not for sale from the exhibition board, quietly put it in her pocket and took it home. My daughter was very happy to take out this beaded flower, so I slowly asked about the origin of the beaded flower and returned it with my children. The assistant aunt praised her daughter for her honesty, and I strongly praised her for returning voluntarily. She is the best child in the world. From then on, my daughter understood the true meaning of "I don't want other people's things". In the days to come, my daughter will tell me what she wants, and I will take her to realize her reasonable wish after agreeing to buy only one thing. Today's children have no sense of spending money indiscriminately. In her mind, as long as there are enough things, she will be satisfied. They never compare with others, pursue famous brands, idolize blindly and indulge in games.

After entering primary school, my daughter gradually grew into a monitor and student union cadre. But for class management and specific work, we can't do it in place, and sometimes we are not too strict with ourselves. Every day, I ask my children what are the interesting things, what are the unpleasant things and what can't be handled at school. Tell her again that lawyers should be self-disciplined first. As a monitor, he should be a teacher's right-hand man, and he should take the lead in observing the regulations of the school, distinguish right from wrong and stress principles. It is necessary to distinguish when to do what and when not to violate it. The awe of the rules and the strengthening of the sense of discipline have enabled her daughter to gradually establish a correct world outlook and learn to be cautious.

Survival ability is a person's most fundamental ability. I must let my daughter learn to do basic things and take care of herself as soon as possible. In our family, my daughter is the apple of my eye, and my grandparents won't let her do anything. However, regardless of whether my grandparents agree or not, I insist that my daughter do her own thing. Since the age of four, my daughter has taken a bath independently; In the future, learn to wash the clothes you can wash and tidy your room; When you are particularly busy, you must learn to cook. Maybe these things seem small, but for this generation of children, not many people have the opportunity to do them. Often four adults are around a child, and even six adults are well protected. Children are born with prince syndrome and princess syndrome. Parents often ignore the principles of organization, discovery and understanding naturally formed by children in the process of labor, which are irreplaceable by textbooks and teachers' explanations and demonstrations. Unfortunately, despite my hard work, I can't completely stop my grandparents' excessive protection and doting, and my daughter's growth is too smooth, which leads to her slow movement and gentle and introverted personality.

Sometimes, a daughter is satisfied with her name because it suits her very well. But after entering junior high school, the sensitive nature of adolescence made her daughter deeply worried about this name. Because whenever everyone reads the word "calm and calm", the students will turn their heads and look at her with gherardini, making her the focus of the class and making her uncomfortable. After my daughter confided several times, I wrote a paragraph to her: anyone with good health, good hair and good surname is a gift from parents to their children. There is no choice, and in this era, there is no special reason or change in state regulations, which cannot be easily changed; Moreover, "cut" is a beautiful word, one of which means carving, which is taken from "jade can't be cut", meaning that only after careful carving can it become a beautiful jade, so you need to make continuous efforts; The second is the meaning of "thinking". You need to think more about everything, seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and be a clear-headed and thoughtful person. Third, there is indeed a voice of "calm and calm", which makes you have high hopes. I hope you can cope calmly in the flashy world and not go with the flow. Since then, my daughter has no worries about the name and is no longer entangled.

(B) Academic infiltration, all-round development

It takes three generations to make a gentleman. A person's growth is slow, but his parents' company is long. It is also interesting to say that as a math teacher, I have never trained my daughter to learn math and do math problems; What I do most is to accompany my daughter to study, practice calligraphy and recite ancient poems without interruption from the age of 0. Cao Wenxuan, Shen, Ba Jin, Lao She and Bing Xin are the most popular books in the family. My daughter chewed up The Journey to the West, Romance of the Three Kingdoms and Water Margin when she was in primary school.

It is really "a book is read a hundred times, and its meaning is self-evident." After my daughter entered junior high school, she never found classical Chinese difficult to learn. Even if the study time is tight, the first thing my daughter does when she goes home every day is to pick up the extracurricular literary works that she had to read and recommend at the beginning, interact with the author's mind during reading, and experience the different life of the protagonist in the works. Reading skills practiced since childhood helped her digest better in junior high school. In the study of Chinese, my daughter didn't spend more than one minute studying, but she was the best in the whole class and even the whole grade.

My daughter has a wide range of hobbies. She won the City Painting Award, the MVP of the primary school basketball school, the piano reached Grade 7, China passed Grade 9, and the third prize of the first grade of hard pen calligraphy. At the track and field meeting, she won the bronze medal in the women's 200m in the first grade, the standing long jump in the second grade and the standing long jump in the third grade. Every semester, her daughter gets an A in the physical fitness test. The achievement of these good grades is the best gift for her daughter's growth and an important spiritual food besides reading. "Quiet as a virgin, moving as a rabbit", my daughter's self-confidence and good attitude towards life are built up from a little bit. She can bear the pain of cultural study and physical training. When she is unhappy, she can draw a small picture or play a ditty, making her study life full of color and taste no matter how hard and tired she is.

(3) Laugh at success or failure and wait for the flowers to bloom.

After entering junior high school, my daughter's academic performance was not very satisfactory at first. Although my daughter can easily win the championship in primary school and keep the first place in the grade, there are unexpected events in the sky, and people will have fortunes one day. When she arrives at the excellent middle school of Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon, her daughter feels great pressure. From two courses in primary school to seven courses in junior high school, my daughter, who has always been slow to heat up, panicked in front of many homework. She dawdles until eleven o'clock every night to barely finish all the tasks for the day. Her normal vision soon became 200-degree myopia and her height stopped growing.

As parents, anxiety and heartache come to mind. I have been anxious and persecuted, but to no avail.

In order to relieve the pressure in my heart, I try to practice calligraphy every day, sometimes for an hour or two, to suppress the powerful anger that is about to erupt and avoid confrontation with my daughter. After practice, take out a best work and carefully nail it on the sticker above my daughter's desk. After seeing it, my daughter will simply evaluate "not bad", "not bad today" and "the size of the words is inconsistent". In this process, the parent-child relationship that has gradually drifted away has slowly recovered.

When my daughter was in the second grade, she was lucky to meet an experienced, gentle, caring and patient teacher. She encouraged her children to develop themselves and cultivate their ability to manage themselves independently. In the second month of the second day of junior high school, I took the initiative to find Mr. Mi to diagnose and communicate my daughter's situation, and decided to "let go" the children's learning management from now on, no longer staring at the children's homework and tasks every day as before, and no longer paying too much attention to her daughter's achievements, only managing her life and thoughts. Gradually, my daughter and I have adapted to this communication mode. Although my daughter's grades are not very good occasionally, I will not criticize her because of her poor grades, nor will I be punished for it. Under the guidance of Teacher Mi, I designed a growth notebook for the class. Every day, I will carefully write down my opinions and suggestions according to my daughter's records, or point out some shortcomings, put forward new suggestions, or write inspiring words. This writing is more than 200 days and nearly 30 thousand words of spiritual dialogue. It is a spur and promotion to myself, an example to my daughter, a broad vision for her, and a big picture for her life. From this, the daughter can see the essence through the phenomenon, and gradually learn to face the relationship between teachers and students with wisdom, face all kinds of challenges with courage, and persist in taking pains with perseverance.

In fact, many times, the abandonment of children first comes from the abandonment of parents. Letting children grow up independently does not mean giving up confidence in children and giving up careful guidance to children; The parents of junior high school students, besides being parents, should also be the children's mentor, the strongest spiritual pillar of the children and the warmest harbor of love.

Life is as plain as water, and everything is as usual. Because education is a slow art, it can't be done overnight. We can't treat children's growth with a utilitarian attitude, but we should discover the beauty of children's growth with an appreciative eye, help them remove "weeds" and trim "side branches" appropriately.

My daughter's grades are improving steadily. Chinese and English are still her dominant subjects. Whether her other subjects are dragging her back or not, I won't stop applauding her merits. Every time I will reward her with the biggest surprise and realize a shopping wish that can't be smaller. In fact, it is to buy some strange and lovely school supplies or romantic toys belonging to little girls.

We didn't help her in the Shengdi exam, and the score of 192 was the result of her own spelling after I let go, which didn't affect other subjects. This small victory strengthened her learning method and made her keep moving forward along her own learning rhythm. Her daughter's study really changed from heteronomy to self-discipline, from passivity to initiative.

What moved me most was the five-subject competition in the last semester of Grade Three. During that time, the children's father and grandmother were hospitalized one after another, "it rained all night", and my grade was "lucky" to take part in the city's academic level sampling test. At that time, I was under great pressure. Several runs and heavy teaching tasks made me breathless, and my home was a mess. I don't know if it proves that "children from poor families have long taken care of themselves", and the sudden difficulties at home have become the driving force for their daughters to grow up. For more than half a month, my daughter didn't need any urging, and she was particularly conscious of learning. When she got home at night, she had to take care of her three-year-old brother. The crow feeds back, the lamb kneels and milks, and the daughter really grows up from this moment!

It's time to get excited After taking care of her mother-in-law, it is already 0: 00 in the morning at 65438+. Looking through her mobile phone before going to bed, I found that her daughter, who has always been at the middle and lower level in mathematics, jumped to the top of the grade with11. The next night, my daughter and I couldn't help crying when we saw the total score hitting the grade. This achievement has come. Although there are still some subjects that are regrettable, such progress and success are the most exciting good news during this period. The whole family is immersed in the joy of sharing joy, and the dark clouds hanging over my head these days are now gone. Looking at the proud and firm eyes on my daughter's face, I believe that in the next high school time, as long as we continue to work hard with each other, the flowers we expect will definitely bloom!

Children's growth is inseparable from their parents' care, patience and careful companionship, and it is also inseparable from the drip training of schools and teachers. I have always been grateful. Every teacher my daughter met along the way was so excellent, dedicated and professional. My daughter has learned excellent Chinese traditional virtues, valuable cultural knowledge and scientific thinking methods from teachers, which have accumulated into the fruits of her daughter's continuous learning and development.

As a parent, I deeply feel the importance of school education and teacher teaching, and the importance of parents' full support and cooperation with schools and teachers. Home and school work together to form a joint force, fully listen to teachers' suggestions, and deeply participate in children's growth, so that home and school can achieve a win-win situation. During the three years of my daughter's junior high school life, I experienced a painful stage of doubting life and anxiety, and also experienced a pleasant stage of growing up and appreciating each other with my daughter. Now and in the future, I will be in a long-term prospect stage of being indifferent and waiting for flowers to bloom.

"Parents study hard and children make progress every day." Children's performance will be different in each period and the guidance they need will be different. This requires parents to constantly explore, constantly improve, and constantly create an environment and atmosphere more suitable for children's growth, so that children can truly grow into unique and valuable themselves!

I look forward to my daughter's dream coming true three years later, and my daughter's return many years later to contribute to our beautiful hometown!