Before getting married, Phoenix let her parents live in her girlfriend's dowry room. Is it right or wrong?

In fact, this matter depends on the attitude of both sides. In many cases, it is impossible to say whether it is right or wrong. In all fairness, it is right, but marriage is not a place to make sense. If both sides can be generous and tolerant and respect each other, there may be no contradiction. ...

Attitude is more important than right and wrong. Many times, it is not the right or wrong of the incident itself that causes family conflicts, but the attitudes of both parties in the incident: one party thinks that this matter is unimportant, while the other party thinks that this matter is very important, so it is easy for both parties to have disputes, and because of disagreement, both parties can't convince each other, and this contradiction and conflict will intensify ... If no one persuades them in time, it will easily lead to marriage conflicts. ...

We can also guess his girlfriend's attitude from "Phoenix Man asked his parents to live in his girlfriend's dowry room before he got married": she thinks that the new house she got married should live with her husband first ... instead of other people living in it before marriage, turning the new house into an "old house" ... But the groom probably thinks that the house is married anyway, and it is not his decision to deal with it, so it is not his decision.

The ceremony is not over, but the emotional bond has been formed. There is nothing wrong with living in it. It is reasonable to say that it has reached the point of giving a dowry room, and there should be a certain emotional foundation ... at this time, Kind of a family. There's nothing wrong with staying early for a while. If the bride is generous, it may be necessary to consider whether the parents of Phoenix Man are not used to housing life in big cities, whether they still need to buy anything, and if they are not suitable, they need help to adapt. ...

However, judging from the content of the topic, this girlfriend still has some small emotions. ...

The couple's dowry room, the couple haven't lived yet, and their parents have lived first. There is a problem. As a woman who is about to get married, she naturally hopes that her dowry room can be used by her husband. Isn't this also her parents' wish for the newlyweds? So in her mind, she may have chosen which room to live in, what to design and decorate, what to buy ... to exercise her power as a "hostess"

But unfortunately, before her wish came true, it was broken by Phoenix Man: the first people who moved in were not herself and her husband, but her parents-in-law ... even the house had been used beyond recognition by them, and she must be very uncomfortable at this time. ...

Phoenix man, as a husband, did not communicate well with his fiancee in advance, which led to such a problem. There is indeed a problem ...

Poor communication is prone to family conflicts. Therefore, at the beginning, if we can discuss and communicate in detail about how to use this dowry room and who will live in it, perhaps there will be no such problem: one party has decided on the treatment of the house without the consent of the other. ...

However, since it has passed, there is no need for this fiancee to react so much. If anything, she can still communicate. If it goes too far, the wedding may be affected. ...