Hengyang Rebellious Juvenile School: Why do teenagers rebel?

Teenagers are in the psychological transition period, and their sense of independence and self-awareness is increasing day by day, and they are eager to get rid of the guardianship of adults (especially parents). They object to parents treating themselves as children and pretending to be adults. In order to show that they are "different", they tend to be critical of everything.

1, traditional thought

China's long-standing paternalism still exists among some parents. Parents lack democratic awareness of their children's education, and always think that their children are immature, so they must obey themselves absolutely and cannot have their own opinions, otherwise they will be "disobedient" and "antagonistic". Therefore, children will not or rarely regard their parents as confidants, fearing that they will be blamed by their parents after doing something wrong.

After many middle school students think that they have done something wrong, what they dislike most is their parents' accusations, and the reason for their disgust is their parents' bullying and stubbornness.

2. Improper education

Some parents lack common psychological knowledge, are eager to achieve success in their children's education, and adopt simple and rude methods, often ignoring their children's self-esteem and psychological endurance. Especially when their children make mistakes, instead of analyzing them and discussing remedies with them, they scold or even beat them, making them feel isolated and rebellious when they make mistakes.

There is also the parents of Xiaojun mentioned earlier. They think that as long as they are subjectively good to their children, they can not pay attention to educational methods.

3. Lack of communication

With the growth of high school students, their sense of independence is getting stronger and stronger, which requires them to have their own way of doing things and do not want to be controlled too much. Some parents do everything for their children's protection, so that children's desire for independence and parents' improper kindness and care will lead to ideological conflicts and contradictions.

Maybe some parents seldom talk to their children because of their busy work, and just make some strict rules to restrain their children's behavior. Therefore, as children, high school students do not have a harmonious and warm family environment, lack communication with their parents, and are prone to rebellious psychology and behavior.

4. Social factors

The educational mode of school teachers is also one of the reasons that lead to students' rebellious psychology. Some teachers don't understand the psychological characteristics of high school students, condescending, guiding students to think and do what they want, and don't communicate with students at all, which is easy to cause students' rebellious psychology. In addition, some improper rendering of mass media is also a factor leading to rebellious psychology.

Some behaviors of children when they were young led to their mental unhealthy, leading to children's autism, distrust of society and the world, cowardice, timidity and even suicide. Small-scale theft at an early age, words and deeds that violate one's conscience, even things that one dare not face, or seeing a tragic death prematurely will all affect a child's life.

Extended data

Parents should see their children grow up, respect their self-esteem, establish close and equal friendship with their children, and let them participate in family management.

Parents should believe that their children have the ability to handle things independently, support them as much as possible, encourage comfort when encountering difficulties and failures, and praise them as much as possible when they succeed.

Parents should have the courage to ask their children and admit their mistakes.

Children understand their parents. Parents need to be respected by their children, and most of them regard their children's happiness as their own life. Their advice is often a summary of their own life experience and has certain reference value. As children, they should often talk to their parents about their thoughts and activities. When your choice is different from your parents' wishes, you should solve it through discussion and present facts to prove that your choice is correct.