How can Wanda Property use such a low-quality and uneducated person as a receptionist?

Cultivation is the foundation of personal charm, from which all other attractive advantages come.

Self-cultivation refers to a person's certain level of theory, knowledge, art and thought, which is usually the embodiment of a person's comprehensive ability and quality.

If the formation and cultivation of personal etiquette need to be achieved through various efforts, then the improvement of personal accomplishment depends on oneself.

Good cultivation can best reflect a person's taste and value. A person with high personal accomplishment has the most personality and charm. Now the market economy has pushed everyone to the market, and the factors driven by interests are increasingly affecting the relationship between people. Nevertheless, non-utilitarian factors are still very important in establishing healthy and harmonious interpersonal relationships. A person's optimism in the face of setbacks, emotional control ability, ability to understand others' emotions and communication ability are all his own.

Maybe there are people who don't know what accomplishment is. Self-cultivation is a virtue displayed by culture, wisdom, kindness and knowledge, and it is an inner strength of noble life. Paying attention to emotional cultivation is a fine tradition of our Chinese nation. In ancient China, there was a saying that "cultivate one's morality, govern the country and level the world".

To enhance one's personality charm, one must start with shaping one's own image.

Why do some people talk, gesture, even smile or greet, and even answer the phone, all give people a wonderful feeling, while others do the opposite? This is related to a person's cultivation. From the bottom of our hearts, each of us appreciates such beauty. This kind of beauty is not necessarily the beauty of appearance; You don't necessarily have a brand-name watch, and you don't necessarily have a good voice. "Golden jade" can't be taken off after all. However, people with high self-cultivation are the easiest to stand out among ordinary people, which is the charm of the individual.

If a person wants to deepen his self-cultivation, he must first start with "transformation", "acceptance" and self-requirement. So how should he "reform" and "accept"? /

1, we should change our words, modify and change our thoughts: the most basic communication between people is language. If we speak without art, or if we don't speak properly, it will be difficult to get others' good opinion of ourselves. In terms of personality, it is difficult for us to have morality and self-cultivation if our habits are heavy and our hearts are vicious, and Jaken, jealousy, stupidity and arrogance in our hearts are not changed.

2, should be taught, suffer, suffer indignities: on the road of life, why can some people keep making progress, while others do not advance but retreat? The problem is that he can't accept it. This is the same as learning to read. Some people make progress easily because they are willing to accept it. Some people tend to regress because they can't accept it. In the process of deepening self-cultivation, we must first learn to be educated. To be educated is to absorb things into your own mind and then digest them into your own thoughts.

We should not only be taught, but also suffer indignities. If a person can only accept compliments from others, it is impossible to give himself strength completely forever. He should also learn to accept criticism, guidance and even harm from others. In a sense, only by suffering and suffering can he make progress.

3, you have to think, think, think: no matter what you do, you must think twice before you act. Thinking is wisdom, and anything that is well thought out will surely get twice the result with half the effort.

4. Dare to speak, dare to do, and dare to be human: Some people dare not express their ideas, and they dare not publish their opinions in public, but only talk privately; Dare not do anything. If you don't take responsibility, you are not responsible. If you don't take responsibility, you can't gain the trust of others and your cultivation will not be improved. Therefore, as long as it is a good thing, we must learn to dare to say and do.

Therefore, if we want to deepen our cultivation, we should:

1. Change your words, modify and change your mind.

2. Be educated, suffer hardships and suffer indignities.

3. Think, think, think again.

4. Dare to speak, dare to do and dare to act.

A person's charm is embodied in cultivation, and cultivation usually comes from details. Behavior forms habit, habit forms quality, and quality determines charm. Start from the things around you, start from the details, learn to know the general idea, start from your own words and deeds, and strive to improve your overall quality, so as to create a harmonious environment and achieve your charming life.

Only by starting from ourselves and not forcing others to reach their imagined standards can we begin to improve our quality and moral cultivation.

No matter how many books you read, nothing will change unless you work hard from the heart. Keep learning and strive to enrich yourself! You can read books (be sure to read useful books), don't read boring magazines and books, listen to music, pay attention to your words and deeds, and it is best to help others unconditionally!

Personal cultivation contains many aspects and contents. A smile, a gesture, and even a change in expression can reflect a person's quality. We all want to be highly cultivated people, but how can we improve our personal cultivation? After reading the discussion on moral cultivation in The Analects of Confucius, combined with the problems exposed in our work, I think that improving personal cultivation should start with dealing with shops and talking on the phone with colleagues.

There is no great difficulty in cultivation. Only if you pay more attention will you become a cultured person.

The first is silence.

Talk less and listen more. Because of people who love to talk, they lose a quiet beauty. What's more, if you talk too much, you will lose. There is a saying, think twice before you act. What I want to say here is, think twice before you speak. Even the network, a platform for language communication, can be very annoying. Tell yourself if you want to, and don't tell others, because almost no one wants to hear it now.

The second is slow.

There is a saying that you should speak slowly, but act quickly. I think, in some cases, you should speak slowly, but act slowly. You do things too fast. Sometimes, when you just do it, the leader doesn't think it is necessary. And you are too enthusiastic, a subtle psychology, he will be uncomfortable and think there is something special in it. Slow, another advantage is that you can take a shortcut to success on the basis of others' failure. But this often misses many opportunities. Anyway, it's not business, so we don't need to grab the market. The key is that people who are too capable will become the object of jealousy and prevention.

The third is forbearance.

In the face of injustice, don't be angry or vent. On the one hand, anger hurts the body, on the other hand, anger can't solve the problem. "There is a stomach that tolerates things that cannot be changed, the courage to change things that may be changed, and a wise man who distinguishes the above two things." These are the three qualities that a successful person should possess. Since some things are beyond our ability, why not look on coldly? Venting discontent will only make others watch the play.

The fourth is to let.

Right and wrong, involving issues of principle, can not give in, it is up to individuals to make decisions; But for small things, listen to others' opinions as much as possible. If you can do what others say, you won't stick to your point of view. Take a step back and broaden the horizon. And if you do it according to other people's opinions, you have to share the mistakes.

The fifth is light.

Look down on everything. For fame and fortune, for money, for feelings. Nothing can survive without it. Gains and losses are also dialectical. If you lose in this respect, your mind will be released and you will have a chance to try other options. Opportunity cost in economics is more appropriate here. The less you watch, the calmer your mind, and the more you can experience ordinary happiness.

Six is flat.

Is ordinary, is plain, is balanced. The disadvantage of angularity is that it is easy to be bitten by others. Ideas exist outside of work. If a person can unify his thoughts and actions at work, he is a leader with decision-making power. There is an online buzzword: "How far your thoughts are, how far you roll." At work, your thoughts can only exist within the scope of your right to make decisions. Although ordinary people have no color, they often live the longest. People should live a wonderful life, but first of all, they should be able to live and not be kicked out. Students with jobs said, "For work, we should believe in materialism; Believe in idealism in life. " Therefore, we need close friends and a safe space to express our ideas. There, we can show our extraordinary.

1, self-influence, 2, influence of others or social conditions at that time. The so-called self-influence means that you don't really know yourself or have personality defects or become rigid in old age. Clearly, we know that to do anything, we must first know ourselves and clearly see what we have. What is missing? What do you want to buy? This is the starting point of a person's career. To do this, we must ask ourselves to take it seriously and analyze it objectively, and we must not allow unrealistic subjective will. A person will be more or less influenced by others or the environment, which is the general situation of society and the main reason for social progress. In the face of these influences, we should be good at screening. We should keep what is in our bones. A person living in this world always has some ideas different from others to support him. Having a firm belief is also one of the essential qualities in life.

Let me introduce some books to you. After reading it, you will feel that you have made a qualitative leap.

1. Read some books on philosophy: There are many books on philosophy at home and abroad, so you can choose one. I suggest reading books such as materialism and simple dialectics. Marx's materialist dialectics, the history of China's philosophy-Confucianism, Legalism, Ming, Debate, Taoism, Scholars and other theories.

Second, books about religion. Such as: the diamond sutra, altar sutra and heart sutra of Buddhism; Laozi's Taoist moral classics. Read more books about Jamise's interpretation of Diamond Sutra and Tao Te Ching. And the bible.

Third, read some books on music theory and world music appreciation. It is best to know some musical instruments, whether they are from China or foreign countries.

Fourth, read some books on science and technology. This is a book about the development of science and technology in the world today.

Read some books on astronomy. Understand the world's understanding of the universe today.

6. Read some books about etiquette and business sales, and learn about the etiquette in today's world and how to communicate with others.

Read some books on history, including Chinese and foreign books. Especially the history of China.

It takes one to one and a half years to finish reading these books.

At that time, I will be impressed.

The improvement of quality cultivation must come from accumulated practice, that is, the continuous improvement of one's beliefs, values and world outlook. To a great extent, the formation of our values is produced and formed when we passively respond to the outside world. Because everyone has a different reaction to the same event, everyone has a different world view. Some people passively understand the outside world and form negative beliefs and values. Some people actively understand the world and form positive values.

To improve one's self-cultivation, one must keep learning. Learning includes learning from books, learning from others and learning from yourself.

Learning books is reading books, haha, there are many popular books in the world now. Don't read negative and decadent things, read more positive books, don't read pure preaching books, but read books that analyze problems from human nature. For example, some books, including some moral education books when we were young, will only tell you simply and rudely that you should do this because it is a moral need. You shouldn't do that, because it violates moral standards. Such a book is not convincing. Moral standards are a very vague thing. Who will set the standards? It's hard to say. Therefore, we should read some books that analyze problems from people's own needs. These books are very objective and neutral, and will not force you to accept some opinions, but everything is based on your own needs. Very convincing. Ha ha.

Learn from others, this is also relatively simple, that is, always pay attention to some behaviors and ways of thinking of people around you who you think are successful and happy, imitate them, and don't imitate those who are negative and not motivated.

Learn from yourself and often reflect on your thoughts and behaviors. Introspection is the most important aspect of one's practice. Practice does not mean that you deliberately suppress yourself, but that you should know yourself clearly, get what you want, what you want to do, what kind of person you want to be, talk to your heart often and understand your needs. Self-discipline is not to rudely prohibit some of your own behaviors, but to know from your heart what you should and should not do. Only when you figure it out and convince yourself, practice and self-discipline will come naturally and simply.

A person is confused and at a loss because he doesn't know his own needs and what he wants. He often lives in other people's world by being led by others' behavior. Read more books, and read books that are conducive to improving your culture, knowledge and quality. People will never be cultivated if they don't study. Second, learn more things that help to improve one's self-cultivation, such as piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, such as tea ceremony, and then learn some fitness and ballroom dancing, which is of great benefit to changing one's external image. Third, practice speaking and improve your ability to communicate and speak with others. This is people showing their self-cultivation to the outside world. It is very important to speak fluently. Whether there is literary talent. Humor or not. Fourth, it is important to learn to dress. Whether a person dresses appropriately or not is an important aspect to show a person's accomplishment. Fifth, it is also important to learn social etiquette. If a person knows nothing in social situations, his self-cultivation image will be greatly reduced. Of course, mainly depends on his own experience. I believe in the role of environment. Self-cultivation is naturally cultivated. If you are among a group of unreasonable people, it is useless to be cultured. But reading is really good. You can read famous works, such as Gone with the Wind, Notre Dame de Paris, Tess, Home, Spring, Autumn, Xu Sanguan Selling Blood, Living and Reciprocity of Love.

The improvement of personal quality may not make you earn a lot of money, but it can ensure that you get people's respect and make real friends.

The first and simplest step is to respect strangers, regardless of social status, all walks of life, in the process of contact, can be modest and calm.

Second, when others infringe on your interests, your reaction. Many people can do superficial work without hurting others, or they can pay as little as blowing off dust. But this is not enough. The real embodiment of people's quality lies in how to deal with others when they infringe on their own interests. Some time ago, a TV channel in Shanghai broadcast a TV news to the effect that a person parked in an office building or hotel and accidentally temporarily occupied another person's parking space according to the instructions of the staff; Then the driver who occupied the parking space stopped, found that the position was occupied, and scratched someone else's car with his own car key. This is a typical example. It is true that the parking space is occupied, which may have caused him some inconvenience, but such revenge and anger are manifestations of low quality. Interestingly, the person whose car was scratched was interviewed later, saying that there was no need to claim compensation, and only hoped that TV could appeal to improve social morality. This is the embodiment of high quality. The car was scratched and the natural interests were damaged, but it is not easy to keep a calm mind. Let's think about our own lives. Examples abound. When you are busy, your colleagues ask you for help, and when you are not rich, your friends ask you for support. When you are tired of taking subway seats, you find that there are old people and children in front of you, and even the boss has criticized you in public regardless of face. You want to rest, but there is a tinkling sound of decoration from the neighbor's house. What will you do when all these things happen? I think people with high quality can get the best experience at this time. Only people with high quality can treat them with peace of mind, not be impatient or furious, and fully respect the interests of others. Even if they can't accept it, they can solve it in an appropriate way. To tell the truth, it's not easy to do.

Third, the extent to which you refuse to disagree with yourself.

If you are a little tired, I won't elaborate. In short, respecting other people's habits and ideas can make your own thoughts more mature.

You don't think it's too vague, do you? Especially the second point, if you didn't realize it before, you can think about it. It's good for you, at least you won't always feel unfair, and your life will be much happier.