What should I do if I raise fish upstairs, grow vegetables downstairs and suffer downstairs?

Many times, when the mother feels the most tired, it is not that she has no rest time with her children, but that the children are always crying when they are disobedient. We often compromise with our children, such as "OK, mom will buy it for you, and it won't happen again", "OK, OK, you can play, and mom won't care about you" and "Mom will agree to your request if you stop crying" ...

But the result is often that children are getting worse and worse.

Children nowadays are born to observe words and deeds. They seem to have grasped where their parents' weaknesses are, and they know what their parents will compromise and what they will not compromise, so they will definitely "search" selectively. So, what should we do when the child is crying? Compromise or ignore?

Even if I don't tell you the answer, most parents know that they can neither compromise endlessly nor ignore it. So what about this degree?

Most children express their emotions by crying. In order to deal with how to deal with a child's crying, we must first find out why the child is crying.

For example, children don't like injections to take medicine, and they cry every time they take blood injections to take medicine. This is a normal phenomenon, not to mention children, adults will also have rejection when they give injections. At this time, it is necessary to fully understand the child's emotions and correctly guide the child's emotions. Tell them, "Mom knows that an injection hurts, but the injection is for treating diseases. Mom doesn't want you to hurt, so mom hugs you and gives you some strength. Mom will tell your aunt to be gentle ...". The wrong way is to always accuse yourself of not taking good care of your children, so you get sick or ignore their crying. Blaming yourself is an act of "paying too much attention to children's emotions", while ignoring it is an act of "paying too little attention to children's emotions". Neither is desirable.

Every child needs to learn to deal with his emotions. From the perspective of evolutionary psychology, emotion is our response to external changes, and it is an ability to remind us how to deal with changes. If you pay close attention to your child's sadness every time, there will certainly be some negative effects. He only knows that sadness is a bargaining tool with his parents, and he doesn't know what consequences this emotion will bring to himself in the real world. Imagine, a child who often gets attention by venting his emotions, goes to kindergarten, elementary school or even enters the society, what impact will it bring to his life?

Therefore, when children are crying, parents must learn to solve their children's problems rationally and don't pay too much attention. Only under the correct guidance of parents can children understand the causes of sadness and how to spend the sad time. In this way, they will not be afraid of future challenges and failures. Only by not challenging and not afraid of failure can children cope with all kinds of problems in the future and adapt to society well.