Personality is the most important factor that determines how far a person can go.

People live all their lives, and sometimes they feel that they have been learning all their lives. Whether it is professional skills or various philosophies of dealing with people, we need to study and study constantly, all in order to make ourselves a better person or a more mature person. Maybe along the way, we will find some phenomena. Some people have good conditions, but they are rejected. Some people choose to betray themselves when they are poor, and some people choose to commit suicide or give up on themselves after suffering a little injustice.

Zeng Guofan once summed up a truth from his own life experience and people he met in life: the more incompetent people are, the more they have these three bad habits.

0 1? Can't stand this goods.

As we said above, some people obviously have many things, such as money, status and so on. , but it happened that these people finally achieved nothing, still down and out, and even suffered retaliation from others because they had no morality. For example, An Lushan and Shi Siming, the two main figures who launched the Anshi Rebellion in the Tang Dynasty, were like this. It can be said that both of them are very sinister people, and they will do whatever it takes to achieve their goals.

In the end, although I tore the Tang Dynasty apart and saw that I was not far from the world, I began to let go of myself, treating courtiers completely without treating them as human beings, and constantly bullying subordinates. Finally, An Lushan was killed by his son An Qingxu and eunuch Li Zhuer, and Shi Siming was directly killed by his son. It is conceivable that even his own son doesn't like you and wants to kill you. This is too unworthy to cause such a tragedy.

Besides such people, there are many similar people in our life. Although their positions are relatively high, they can't stand up and be persuaded, so that they have nothing in the end. When recruiting, I often like to say "talent without virtue, talent without virtue, talent without virtue can be cultivated, and talent without virtue is waste".

In other words, even a simple job in daily life needs to be able to match both ability and moral integrity, otherwise this person will have a great impact on the company and society. Even if you are talented, you will eventually be eliminated because you can't stand the product, because no one knows what you will do without a bottom line.

Therefore, in our life, we need to cultivate our moral quality from an early age, not just focusing on the cultivation of ability. Many times, a person's character is much stronger than his ability. Anyone who has no ability and morality is willing to give you a chance. After all, the world is ultimately competing for the harmonious relationship between people.

02? Can't stand poverty

It is easy to understand that people who can't stand poverty are the most common in society. It is often reported that some college girls sell themselves to buy a luxury item, or some people are desperate because of spending in advance. These are the most obvious examples. When they are poor, it is more difficult for people who can't stand poverty to understand the importance and practical value of money.

Zeng Guofan was relatively ordinary when he was born. After he became an official in Beijing, his annual salary was 125 silver, which was about 25,000 yuan in today's RMB. But he needs to support a whole family and often travels back and forth in officialdom, which is not enough for his own use.

At that time, many Beijing officials chose shortcuts and began to make a living by giving gifts from others, but Zeng Guofan always insisted on his bottom line, even if he borrowed from friends. According to statistics, Zeng Guofan borrowed more than 1000 taels of silver from his friends during his tenure as an official in Beijing, and the money was not paid off until he became governor of Liangjiang.

It is precisely because Zeng Guofan insisted on the bottom line when he was poorest that he was poor, so he got the attention of Daoguang and urged him to move in ten years and seven years. Finally, he founded the Xiang army and became the governor of the two rivers, which laid the foundation for his brilliant career.

Everyone who lives in the real world actually needs money. Without money, we can't move a step, but when everyone starts to live, he has no financial resources, or his ability can't reach the level of making big money, so there will always be times when he is poor.

If you persist in this period of time, you will have a bright future. If you are depressed or betray yourself during this period, you will live in guilt and self-blame, and you will have no courage and confidence to change yourself, let alone face everything you may experience in the future. If a person becomes like this, it is very close to failure.

03? suffer wrong

Grievances and setbacks are things that can never be absent on the road of life. At a very young age, you may feel wronged because your parents didn't buy anything for yourself. Later, when I grow up, I will be wronged because I failed the exam, or even more wronged after being misunderstood by others. To make matters worse, you will be looked down upon. This grievance is serious, but there is nothing you can do. So what should you do in the face of these grievances?

Let's first look at some powerful figures in history, and how they solved their grievances. The earliest one was Gou Jian, the King of Yue. After he was destroyed, he stayed in the enemy country and suffered a lot. All kinds of inhuman life are much worse than we can understand. Perhaps for many people, the best way at this time is to extricate themselves and bid farewell to this world completely.

However, Gou Jian is not like this. He can be humble in grievances, stick to his dream of returning home, and finally find everything he lost. Han Xin, the founding minister of the Han Dynasty, was able to bear the burden of humiliation when he was down and out, and explained "a gentleman can bend and stretch" incisively and vividly. In the face of Xiang Yu's layers of containment, even when he wanted to cook his father off, Liu Bang could endure grievances and find ways to deal with major events. Finally, Xiang Yu was forced to commit suicide in Wujiang River. He founded the Han Dynasty and became Emperor Gaozu.

These are the deeds of the ancients. Maybe at first glance, we can't understand the big grievances, and when we do, we will feel more like the cows of the ancients. Zeng Guofan is also a man familiar with history, but in his life, there were times when he could not be wronged.

At that time, he founded Xiang, waiting for the day when he got ahead. As a result, Zeng Guofan personally led his troops to fight the battle of Jinggang in the first battle of Xiang, and the enemy raided, and Xiang fled everywhere in an instant. Even if Zeng Guofan said with a sword who dares to escape, it is still useless. Seeing that the item he created was so down and out, Zeng Guofan thought of the ugly faces of those who were waiting to see his jokes. He really felt wronged at the moment and jumped into the water. Fortunately, his entourage saw that he saved his life.

After Zeng Guofan made some achievements, it suddenly dawned on him that if he could not stand the injustice at that time and walked away, how could there be hope for everything in the future?

I think everyone's life is like this. We need to hold our breath. In the face of some setbacks and grievances in life, don't make reckless moves on impulse. Those behaviors are a kind of destruction to you and have no influence on others at all. Nothing is more important than being alive.

The more incompetent people are, the more they have these three bad habits. First, I can't stand goods, second, I can't stand poverty, and third, I can't stand grievances. Perhaps after experiencing many things, you will find that people's growth always needs a process. Poverty is the beginning of a normal life, and grievances are the ups and downs of life. Personality is the most important factor that determines how far a person can go.

We should gradually learn to be modest, stick to our original intention and do what we should do when we are poor. I believe this process won't last long. Don't be hot-headed when facing setbacks and grievances in life. You must know that setbacks and difficulties can make your wings stronger. Nothing is difficult except where are you going? In the face of moral quality, we need to be strict with ourselves at all times and not be influenced by others. Only in this way can we get rid of that incompetent life and finally move towards our own glory!