Under what circumstances can people fully understand?

People should have a profound ideological change, which shows that a person has experienced the ups and downs of life, but in real life and work, his inner expectations have not been met, showing a sigh and contrast. The Great Enlightenment is the starting point for everyone to start over, the second choice of life and the beginning of the progress of a better life. As the French writer Bacon said, "failure is the mother of success", fully aware that this is not only reflected in career, but also in life, and often reflected in a family relationship. Mainly manifested in the following aspects of ideological changes:

It is said that only when relatives often live together can they appreciate the preciousness of family affection and the warmth of family. Only after the death of a loved one do we know the essence of life, that is, the beauty of being alive. Let me give an example of my own relative.

Last June 165438+ 10, my mother-in-law was hospitalized due to illness, and she became weaker every day. I cried when I didn't eat for days and could only drink a little water. Although it is said that men don't cry easily, I still can't help but care about my mother-in-law on weekdays. Because when my mother-in-law is not sick, she usually buys me some food I like with the money earned from farming.

She even often buys me discounted clothes at the stall, but sometimes it's not satisfactory. And sometimes I often "scold" her, because my mother-in-law has silently counted my life many times in rural towns. Although my mother-in-law has a low education, it may be a good prayer for me in her heart. But in my opinion at that time, I thought she was a feudal and unscientific practice.

Although I usually give her some change, my mother-in-law is reluctant to use it and buy those expensive daily necessities and clothes. Instead, I quietly earned the money back and said that I would keep it when my granddaughter went to college in the future. Thinking of this, I couldn't restrain my inner sadness, but when the doctor finally failed to save me, he finally announced the moment of death to me and my brother-in-law. I didn't realize that life disappeared in an instant, people's anger disappeared, and past activities no longer reappeared, leaving only her cold body.

My mother-in-law, who is under 70, just left. I hope my mother-in-law is not sick in heaven. That is, from then on, when I saw the traces of my mother-in-law's life disappear little by little, I realized the beauty of living. Because for her mother-in-law, it seems that there are too many regrets and disappointments in the world.

A cousin in the family is born after 70. Because of being young and frivolous, when studying at school, other children hope to get out of the poor and backward mountain village by reading Carp yue longmen. But he often climbs trees to pick up bird's nests and mixes with some "no three no four" people. Because of his stubborn personality since childhood, his parents were honest farmers in the countryside and lacked natural discipline, so that my cousin dropped out of school after only attending a primary school.

After several years of farming at home, he realized the helplessness of being a farmer. Later, he was born at the age of fifteen or sixteen and went to work in the society. According to my cousin, he did a lot of work and had many scandals when he was wandering outside. For example, I worked as a salesman, picked up garbage and sold it, worked as a security guard and worked as a porter coolie. Because he wanted to make money and get ahead, he was cheated into a pyramid scheme. Fortunately, he escaped strangely.

Seeing my childhood playmates around me, many of them now graduated from "Petroleum University", leading a high salary and living a good life. My cousin also decided to go out and look for a job again. He said that he once wanted to find a management position as a factory director with a guaranteed monthly salary of 8,000 yuan. I went to a job fair and was asked what his education was. My cousin said, "Primary school." Asked how many years of management experience he has, my cousin replied, "I don't have any management experience." Finally, the female recruiter took a sip of water and smiled. There is no way, my cousin can only leave with his head down in the laughter of others.

This is the reality, my cousin told me, that is, from that moment on, he realized his own abilities and shortcomings. Later, my cousin worked hard and made unremitting efforts to improve himself. He only studied academic qualifications while working, and successfully participated in the adult college entrance examination step by step from primary school culture, and obtained a junior college degree. Now he is a successful construction engineer, and he is also a peasant born after 70 years who successfully attacked. Of course, after the enlightenment, my cousin's second choice in life, the ups and downs of all the way may only be clear to him.

Well, this is my simple understanding of "under what circumstances can people fully understand", hoping to enlighten and help the subject. Friends who like my answer are welcome to pay attention, comment and leave a message.

The Legend of @ Sannong Xiaotao

202 1.3. 16

/kloc-at the beginning of 0/7, I went to work in the factory opened by my sister and brother-in-law, and my job was to do business. At that time, my salary was 5000 yuan per month plus business commission. In fact, I not only have to take care of things in the factory, but also go to the production line, do logistics procurement, go out for after-sales maintenance, and go to various places to collect accounts. Even if the accounts of other salesmen can't be collected, the collectors should know the difficulties. Sometimes it takes seven or eight hours by car. In order to save the accommodation of the factory, we basically go to the factory on the same day and return to the factory at three or four in the morning. Going out to eat noodles is a common practice, which can save money in all aspects.

/kloc-in the middle of 0/8, due to production needs, the production line was moved to other cities for production, but the original production site could not be left unattended, and the foreign office was also left at the original production site. Finally decided to leave me alone, because I can't cook (when my sister and brother-in-law decided to leave me alone, I never thought I couldn't cook). Eat at most two meals a day, sometimes once, and most of the time go out to eat a bowl of noodles for ten yuan. During this period, the local industrial park management committee saw that I was having a hard time here alone, and offered to let me have dinner in their canteen, with a monthly board fee in 300 yuan. Then my sister and brother-in-law invited me to eat in the canteen and asked them to pay for the food. They didn't respond. I'm too lazy to mention it many times. I spent the New Year there alone. I was still in the factory on the 30th, and I stayed alone until 65438.

From 17 to 19, my salary has not been paid to me. When I settle my salary at the end of each year, I will give you a sentence. After this year's difficulties, my brother-in-law's brother also works in the factory, but his salary has never been in arrears. During the years when I worked there, I also suggested that such a life needed money. At that time, they said to find me another business to do and earn money by myself. 18 in the second half of the year, I was introduced to a business, which was to supply raw materials to a state-owned factory. My brother-in-law used contacts to help me get through, and earned hundreds of thousands in half a year. But every time this business is repaid, my brother-in-law will let me lend it to them first on the grounds that they are temporarily short of money. I lent it to him without thinking much. /kloc-in 0/9, I got a pipeline supply business of sewage project through personal relationship. That's a small project, and there is not much demand for pipelines. At that time, my brother-in-law did this business occasionally, so there was a pipeline supply. I asked him to introduce me to a pipeline factory, and he readily agreed, and then I did contact a good pipeline factory. Then start sending samples, negotiate the price with Party A, and start supplying after everything is settled. After the last batch of goods was delivered, I received the payment smoothly, and this time I earned more than 80 thousand yuan. However, money has not warmed up in my pocket.

/kloc-at the end of 0/9, I didn't want to continue working, but wanted to start my own business, so I resigned and settled my salary with my sister and brother-in-law. As a result, something I never expected happened. They only admitted my salary of 5000 yuan per month, and they didn't admit anything else. They said their own business had nothing to do with me. They totally denied what my brother-in-law said to me before. I don't even admit a commission of more than 5000. My own sister yelled at me and said I blackmailed them. She also went to my parents and said I blackmailed them. I grew up with my parents, who knew me better and knew that I wouldn't do that, but I was helpless because I didn't ask them to write me an iou and there was no written proof such as a contract. After arguing for a few days, I suddenly figured it out. I won't become rich if I spend more than 100 thousand, and I won't be poor if I don't spend more than 100 thousand. I just don't want money. From now on, I will look at them carefully and spend money on classes so that I can learn by myself. Family ties are nothing in front of interests.

This year, my husband and I experienced the most difficult stage in our lives. At the beginning of the year, we were both trapped at home because of the epidemic. I'm seven months pregnant and about to give birth. At that time, we had nearly 400,000 bank deposits and lived a carefree life.

However, life is such a bloody dog. My husband feels that he should do something for the baby who will be born soon at home every day. The less money he has, this is not a problem. It took me a long time to know that my husband had nothing to do at home and made investments like others. Similar to P2P, he put all his money on one platform and said the interest rate was optimistic. But, you guessed it, we were cheated, and my husband began to be afraid. He said he only lost more than 70 thousand. During that time, he was particularly depressed. Because of insomnia, he goes to the living room to smoke every night. I also foolishly comforted him and said that it was only 70,000 yuan. We still have money. If you can go out to work, you can earn it back.

But in fact, I didn't know that he had invested all his money until two months after giving birth. Now, we pay cleaner than anything else. My husband borrowed a lot of money online to appease me and make me feel that we still have money. I took a month off next month to pay for the production and maintenance of my family.

Speaking of which, I believe many people will ask, how did you find that there was no money at home? After giving birth to the baby, my husband gave me a100000 on my card to calm my mood. Usually, our money is put together. I don't care about money when I am pregnant, so I don't worry. I don't know that my husband's company has shrunk because of the epidemic, and I can't make any money at all this year. The online loan he borrowed was about to expire, so he temporarily took 1. 1 ten thousand from me.

At that time, I really felt like dying. We have worked so hard for so many years that our savings are gone, and we are still in debt of hundreds of thousands. At this time, I woke my husband up and we had a good chat.

Later, I learned how stressed my husband was and couldn't sleep every night. His original intention was to make this family better, but it backfired. What should we do?

After this incident, we really realized that many things are not as beautiful as they seem. There is no hurdle in life. If the money is gone, it's gone. Let's try harder, for the children, for our original beauty.

I also want to remind you that there is no free lunch in the world. I also severely criticized my husband. My brain was short-circuited. How can so many good things fall on you? It is the most important thing to do everything well.