The educational mode of restraining men and promoting women in the era of false mothers should be reflected.

Boys are becoming more and more feminine.

"Boys are becoming more and more feminine. Have you noticed? " Recently, Sichuan Daily and Sichuan Online launched a newspaper survey. What is the reason behind the worrying situation of feminization of boys? How to deal with it? What is the relationship between school, family and society? For some time, this topic has attracted great attention from all sides.

Xiao Luan, a netizen from Sichuan, told reporters that some time ago, her son in the sixth grade always had a plush doll in his schoolbag. Her son said that all the boys in the school like to bring this kind of toy, and most of them like to imitate the sissy of Xiao Shenyang. She is very worried about it.

Why are boys feminine? Lu Qin, director of the Center for Mental Health Education of Chengdu University, said, firstly, with the improvement of women's status in China for more than half a century, the male-dominated image gradually disappeared. Secondly, in many one-child families, parents often overprotect boys. In school education, large class teaching makes teachers ask students to be "quiet" and "obedient". The result of paying too much attention to grades can only be to sacrifice exercise time and innovative activities, while receptive learning is suitable for girls' characteristics, but it is seriously in conflict with boys' nature.

In this regard, Sichuan online netizens have a deep understanding. Her son was severely criticized by the teacher when he gestured with his male classmates in the second grade of elementary school. He not only invited the parents, but also asked the children to ensure their control. Otherwise, what would happen? The little boy was too scared to go out, and he lost his courage.

A netizen's view is: it's not that boys have problems, but that the disadvantages of the education system are becoming more and more prominent.

A campus without a masculine atmosphere

In the network survey, in the choice of school factors, the data of "the gap between male and female teachers is wide, lacking male atmosphere" and "the ability to recite and remember, the ability to express and describe, etc." This is highly respected in school education and conflicts with the active characteristics of boys.

The reporter randomly investigated several primary schools in Chengdu. Teachers are mainly women, male teachers are mainly science, information technology and physical education teachers, and male class teachers are rare. The situation in kindergartens is even less optimistic. The director of a provincial model kindergarten told the reporter that the kindergarten also recruited male teachers, which are very popular with children in art and sports, but they are very mobile. "They feel that their development is not good, but they still want to have a higher platform."

Xiaohong, a boy, told reporters that in the sixth grade of primary school, the class teacher was replaced by a male teacher, who often played basketball with his classmates and called them brothers. Boys in other classes are envious of them. "Brother Qiao, cool!" Boys like the new head teacher very much and are naturally obedient.

Some schools have a more conscious understanding of this. For example, Yandao Street Primary School in Chengdu organizes male teachers to be "deputy class teachers", so that all male teachers can participate in class management and increase the contact between male teachers and children as much as possible.

Lu Qin believes that boys are isolated from male education because they are in an all-female atmosphere, and their personality and psychological development will be lacking in the future. Schools, especially primary schools and junior high schools, should change their educational values, let students show their individuality and cultivate their creativity and adaptability. "The boy is active by nature, but he is required to sit up straight and put his hands behind his back. Teachers should clarify the personality differences between boys and girls and give boys more tolerance. "

Educational model of "restraining men and promoting women"

The phenomenon of "false mother" is sought after by netizens. Does it mean that the aesthetic standards of China society have changed? Is the phenomenon of "false mother" the liberation of personality or the deviation of education? Professor Hao Maishou of Tianjin Academy of Social Sciences thinks: "The current educational model shows the characteristics of' restraining men and promoting women'. The static reading and writing mode in class makes active boys have to sit at desks for a long time instead of running and playing freely on the playground, which obliterates boys' nature to some extent. In addition, in many families, parents control boys more strictly than girls, thinking that the more naughty boys are, the stricter they should be. Whether at school or at home, teachers and parents follow the example of smart and obedient girls and teach boys to be as obedient as girls. This kind of teaching method, which is contrary to boys' nature, makes some boys think that only by being as gentle and obedient as girls can they win the love of parents and teachers. This educational model of "restraining men and promoting women" has created a group of boys who are obedient as lambs, and this psychological effect will even affect their adulthood. "