All my colleagues have been promoted, but I am the only one who is still lingering in the same place.

I recently learned that two old colleagues are leaving. One is getting promoted and the other is going to a higher-level unit. In 2008, five of our fledgling peers came to this unit to report on the same day through open recruitment. Now four of them have left, and I am the only one left. After working for more than ten years, their paths have become wider and wider, but I have been walking in circles for ten years. I am sentimental about the changes in things and people, and I am also reflecting on whether the path I have chosen is correct. Will I really not regret it in the future?

Once my direct boss was promoted and he recommended me to take over. The boss also intended to make such an arrangement, but I actively refused. Because I feel that I am introverted, not good at words, and upright, so I am only suitable for purely technical work and not suitable for management positions. Before making a decision, I hesitated for several days, weighing the pros and cons while eating, walking and sleeping.

No one will remain indifferent to the temptation of promotion. The salary increase is the most practical benefit. Every time my colleagues talk about salary, I still feel a little disappointed. With the same length of service, I am more than a thousand yuan less than others. Who would take it seriously? In terms of age, I am already in my early thirties. If I miss this opportunity, there may be no room for advancement in my career in the future.

In today's impetuous society, the standard for measuring a person's success is very utilitarian. Let's see if he has become a high official and holds great power. From ancient times to the present, becoming an official has been the tireless pursuit of many students; secondly, it depends on whether he has made a lot of money, wears famous brands, drives luxury cars, and lives in villas, no matter how he earns the money. After dinner, everyone always shows envy when talking about the fortune history of successful people around them.

Everyone wants to get rich quickly, and the Internet is full of all kinds of money-making courses, such as "New media turns into real combat training camp, start a money-making side business in 30 days", "12 reading monetization courses, turn the books you have read into into money" and so on. The names of these courses generally emphasize short time and high returns, satisfying everyone's desire to make quick money. But honestly speaking, can one really learn a skill in ten days and a half? It’s hard to get started.

"I wrote a novel of 500,000 words", "Has it been published? How much royalties did you earn?", "I just like writing, but I haven't published a book", "Then why are you writing it? ". "I have no money, but I have a considerate husband, a lovely son, a stable job, and my life is ordinary and very happy." "What's the use? I can't afford more expensive clothes. I'll sign up for my child." I have to save two months in hobby classes, how can I live happily?" People never seem to regard talent, happiness, joy, dedication, etc. as the criteria for measuring success.

Living in such an environment, how can I be calm and be alone. Last year, a ten-year college graduation reunion was held. After the reunion, female classmate A drove female classmate B home. While the two were chatting, B learned that A lived in a villa. B shared a dormitory with me, and we were very close to each other for four years in college. She said that later she complained that her husband had no financial sense and was too incompetent to make money.

In fact, I was very envious of classmate A after hearing this, but I complained that I was not good at making money. After all, material wealth also reflects excellent personal abilities. In today's open and free social environment, people with strong abilities are living a good life. If you say that you are knowledgeable and talented, but you live in a rental house, others will definitely suspect that you are bragging.

By popular standards, I should be considered a complete loser. I can't be an official, I can't help my relatives and friends, and I can barely cover the money in my pocket for daily necessities. Even my niece, who is two years younger than me, started from scratch and has become a multi-millionaire. The key is that I have been working for eleven years and I am not very satisfied with my current living situation.

I am also afraid of negative looks. In the future, my husband, sons, relatives and friends may ask, "After working for decades, everyone younger than you in the company has been promoted. Why are you still an ordinary grassroots employee?" ?”, will they think I am incompetent and incompetent? How should I answer this question? The facts are in front of us, and the defense is feeble.

After scratching my head and thinking about it, I decided to listen to my inner voice and stick to the current job. When I am thinking about where to take my son to play on the weekend, others may be racking their brains to complete their work; while I am reading and writing, others may be working overtime; while I am enjoying my paid vacation and traveling around, others may be too busy. There are no holidays at all.

Everything has two sides, and you can’t have your cake and eat it too.

If I choose to be promoted, a salary increase is secondary. What is more important is that my work ability can be effectively improved and my circle will also change. However, it is necessary to spend more time and energy on work and deal with complex interpersonal relationships. And I hope my life can be simpler and easier.

To achieve results, you can also work hard in the direction that interests you. For example, writing, using words to express life insights, various social situations, and wonders of the world, using words to communicate with more like-minded strangers, and using words to warm people's hearts. Prove that although you are ordinary, you are by no means mediocre, and you are still a little bit motivated and different.

There is such a story, the matchmaker is playing matchmaking for the silly eldest sister. The matchmaker asks: "The east family is ugly but the family is rich, and the west family is handsome but the family is poor. Which one do you choose?" The silly eldest sister replied without thinking: "Then let the east family eat and the west family sleep." Although this sounds ridiculous, it expresses what most people feel, but is it actually possible?

Life is about countless choices. Every seemingly insignificant decision will have a major impact on your future life. Unfortunately, any choice has its flaws and it is difficult to have the best of both worlds. If you choose comfort, you may not be able to enjoy success; if you choose bread, you may lose love; if you choose poetry and distance, you may have less time to spend with your family... Therefore, weigh the pros and cons before making a choice, and you will not regret it in the future. This is the most ideal decision. .