Why are there more and more unhappy people in the workplace?

But now there is a growing trend: most people in the workplace are in an "unhappy" state. For a job, the ultimate expression of "unhappiness" should be resignation. Ma Yun once said that there are only two reasons for employees to leave their jobs: 1, money is not given in place; 2, heart, injustice. Is that really the case?

Maslow's hierarchy of needs divides human needs from low to high into five needs: physiological needs, security needs, social needs, respect needs and self-realization needs.

As Freud said, work plays an extremely important role in each of our lives, so we naturally have great expectations for it, and we hope it can meet our needs more comprehensively.

I. Physiological needs and safety needs

The reason why these two needs are put together is related to "bread". Only when the basic needs of survival and food and clothing are guaranteed can we pursue others. The reason why most of us work is to "support our families" in the first place.

Second, social needs.

Even Robinson on a desert island inevitably needs a "Friday". Work is of great significance to every adult. Many people spend far more time with their colleagues at work than with their families. People are social and need friendship, affection and love, and these emotions are inseparable from interaction with people.

Third, respect the needs.

People are eager for recognition and respect from others. If a person feels isolated and excluded at work, and suggestions about work are always rejected and rejected by the leaders for no reason, then his heart must be depressed.

Fourth, the need for self-realization.

Another great significance of work is that it provides a platform for each of us. At this demand level, people's pursuit is to find a suitable stage to realize their own value, or to spread their own ideas and form a unique influence.

Although we have great expectations for work, in fact, under different levels of demand, we often feel that work can't give us good feedback, which is why "daily unhappiness in the workplace" is widespread. In addition, some media's propaganda orientation deviation, workplace news of jumping off a building under pressure and overworking death occasionally appear in newspapers, which will also ignite the depressed "fire of negative energy" in the hearts of workplace people.

How to get rid of the unhappy state, then improve yourself and face the workplace with a smile? The following suggestions are for your reference:

First, do a good job in career planning.

Locate your present job. If you feel unhappy, ask yourself what's wrong. If you feel that you have less money, you might as well ask yourself, with your current ability, is it worth paying a higher salary? If you feel wronged, think about the possibility of improving your way of interacting with others. -Ask yourself more about your inner needs, find out the real problems, and then decide whether to change jobs.

Second, keep learning efficiently.

Without core competitiveness, it will be eliminated sooner or later. Today, with the rapid development of the times, if you don't study, you will definitely regress, if you learn slowly, you will regress, and if you learn ineffectively, you will regress. Only by clarifying the direction of efforts and maintaining efficient promotion can we "sit firmly on the Diaoyutai" in today's rapidly changing world.

Third, pay attention to the beauty of implication.

Fourth, moderate exercise.

Proper brisk walking and jogging not only help to relieve stress, but also help to keep fit and improve sleep quality unconsciously. Stick to it, not only improve your mentality, but also gain a more energetic and healthy self!

1, I am not engaged in the work I am interested in, and I don't like my job. Under the pressure of employment, many people choose a career that is not suitable for their major, which is out of touch with their study and application at work and cannot adapt to their work. One of our units is studying landscape management and is very interested in flowers and plants. Because I didn't find a suitable job, I finally came to the school to teach through competition. Do you think she can be happy when she is faced with a bunch of noisy children, endless classes, endless homework, and jobs that have nothing to do with her major and hobbies? 2. Low salary and heavy workload. I do a lot of work every day, and by the end of the month, there is not much left in the normal expenses of going out, but my life is stressful and I can't quit my present job.

3. I can't live in harmony with leaders and colleagues in the workplace, and I am often isolated and have great psychological pressure.

4. Your ability can't be demonstrated. This is what we often say, "heroes are useless." They feel that they can do some professional work, but they are placed in a post with no technical content, and often complain that their "swift horse" cannot be discovered by Bole.

There are other reasons for unhappiness, such as some hidden rules in the workplace, intrigue for promotion and pressure of life.

These are just my superficial views. In fact, there are many reasons for being unhappy in the workplace, which can't be explained clearly in a few words, but I still think that since I chose to enter the workplace, I should correctly face all kinds of problems I encountered, learn to adjust my emotions, learn to get along well with my superiors, learn to release my pressure and learn to improve my professional skills. In short, if you can't change the working environment, you must learn to change yourself.

Life is less than 100, and I am always worried about my age. You see, unhappiness (let's call it sadness) is not in worldly desires. From one aspect, there were not as many "unhappy" people as there are modern people in the past, including ancient times.

What is the reason? It's not complicated. The Chinese nation has a history of farming or nomadic for thousands of years, and the way to obtain means of subsistence is very simple. Only in modern times, especially after the reform and opening up, have more people entered the workplace, and the workplace is a vanity fair where we support our families, realize the value of life and compete fiercely. As a result, there are more and more unhappy things around the workplace, and then more and more unhappy people.

The ideal is full, but the reality is very skinny. In other words, there is a gap between the actual situation and what we pursue or demand, so there are all kinds of troubles that we can't get.

Xiao Wang and Xiao Zhang are both college graduates. At the same time, they entered a training company to do business, mainly responsible for developing students and recruiting children with artistic interests such as dancing and singing. Originally, they had done social practice in the community for a long time at school and had some basic experience. They are full of confidence, especially Xiao Zhang.

But in practice, it is not so smooth. Hardly had they started working when they met a roadblock. It turns out that what they have to do every day is to keep calling their parents tirelessly.

After a while, the obvious difference between them came out. Xiao Zhang is extroverted, with a sweet voice, charming smile and good comprehensive quality. In everyone's opinion, he should be a master. Xiao Wang, on the other hand, is introverted, with a bad voice and a bit of a duck voice. People don't think highly of her.

However, such a bright person, the final result is surprising. On the contrary, the number of customers developed by Xiao Wang is far ahead, even surpassing many old salesmen. It wasn't long before he became a full member, and within three months, he was promoted to business supervisor and became Xiao Zhang's immediate boss.

This time, Xiao Zhang's face is dead, so he must catch up at one breath. As everyone knows, after six months of unremitting efforts, the result is still not satisfactory. Xiao Zhangcan was only ashamed. He had to admit that his ability was really inferior to that of Xiao Wang. Finally, he eliminated himself. You see, in the workplace, are we often as willing as Xiao Zhang?

This is often closely related to the choice of all aspects of life and the confusion about the unsatisfactory environment.

For example, after you graduate from college, do you choose to take the postgraduate entrance examination, take the civil service exam or join the company? Is it better for state-owned enterprises or private enterprises? Are you going to the factory or the office? Whether to start your own business or work; Are you going to work hard in first-tier cities or going back to your hometown and small town? Without a correct positioning and evaluation of yourself, you don't know what to do, and naturally you are unhappy.

In addition, complicated and embarrassing interpersonal relationships, hidden rules and ubiquitous traps and pits make you miserable, unable to extricate yourself, helpless and unhappy.

I don't know if you feel this way. I worked hard outside for a long time, got a house, bought a car, saved money and became an executive in the company. Even get married and start a family. Either work hard with the person you love, or live apart, and the relationship is still stable. However, it is always difficult to have a sense of stability and security, let alone a sense of belonging, accomplishment and happiness. In short, I am getting more and more unhappy.

In fact, after careful analysis, people's material desires are getting stronger and stronger, even their desires are difficult to fill, and the contradiction between them and the cruel reality is getting farther and farther, which causes people's sudden sense of helplessness and fear in constant fear. Unconsciously, the original pure, sincere and simple emotional comfort of life has been torn, missing, helpless and increasingly unhappy.

In particular, the outbreak of this epidemic, layoffs, salary cuts, unemployment, company closures, short mortgage payments, stretched, worrying future, jittery. You say, how can you be happy in the face of such cruel reality?

Lao Mo is over 50 years old and is the boss of a company. I will retire in a few years. As we all know, the headquarters was adjusted last year, and the branch has been unprofitable. The boss decided to get rid of this burden. When the branch closed down, the boss transferred Lao Mo to the headquarters, and there was no specific arrangement for his work, but he was just idle. Idle is idle, but the salary is not much.

Unexpectedly, when the epidemic broke out, the business of the whole company stopped, and the headquarters could not pay wages, so the establishment could only be hung there in name only. Suddenly, there is no hope that food will return to normal. Waiting at home all the time is really not a problem. When is the end?

You are so old that you have no skills at all. Even if there is, what can you do during the epidemic? Selling vegetables and setting up stalls, doing small business, can do nothing, and it is not what I want to do. What is even more frightening is that, somehow, Lao Mo is unhappy all day, silent and less talkative, and more and more unhappy. It seems that he is not interested in all kinds of fighting, and he has no desire, no desire or even no feeling.

Speaking of this, I suddenly remembered a very philosophical sentence: difficulties are like springs, weak is strong, and strong is weak. Maybe it is because there are too many difficulties. The spring has been pressing, and it may lose its elasticity slowly. Is this the so-called "no feeling" that leads to more and more unhappiness?

There are only two kinds of unhappy situations at work.

1. The salary is not in place, which may be a personal ability problem or a company salary problem.

2. Dissatisfaction with the environment, which involves many things, such as interpersonal relationship, career planning, working environment and so on.

There are many unhappy things at work, so it's very important to straighten your mind, don't have emotions at work, distinguish between work and life areas, and put yourself in your shoes! Start (a disease)

Many people are unhappy at work, especially young people who are new to the workplace, and it is easy to have work emotions. The unhappiness at work comes from several aspects:

First of all, I didn't find the direction.

If the job is what you like and want to do, then you will be very happy and have a sense of accomplishment. This sense of accomplishment will encourage you to do better and form a virtuous circle.

But if you can't find the direction, or do something you don't like and are not good at, it is difficult to stimulate the initiative and desire of inner work. Just for money and killing time, this kind of work is getting more and more unhappy.

Therefore, before the age of 30, we must find the right direction, find the direction we want to develop, break this general direction into small goals, and strive to achieve small goals.

Four years ago, Laomi was transferred to the product promotion department by the company. She is very uncomfortable and unhappy. She felt that she didn't have what she wanted, so she jumped to her present company for training.

Second, the sense of job gap.

Any company, when recruiting a position, will package the position content. Just like we wrap resumes.

Therefore, the specific work is not as tall as expected. Therefore, novices who have just entered the workplace are prone to a sense of gap.

I feel cheated, or feel that the company is not good enough, and I have the idea of changing jobs.

Or the boss agreed to a raise or promotion, but it hasn't been fulfilled for a long time. Or you obviously work harder and better, and the boss did promote another person. ...

This situation will also produce unhappiness.

Third, the team negative energy.

Many teams have some people with negative energy, who shout for resignation every day, secretly entangle company policies every day, and have no spirit all day.

This kind of person will affect the people around him. At first, he had no problem with the company and the leaders, but he talked all day, which made everyone a little unhappy.

Some veterans, in particular, are cynical when they see hard-working colleagues, forcing other colleagues to be lazy with themselves, complain together, and confront leaders and companies together.

Such a negative energy environment will also produce unhappiness.

Finally, the meaning of work.

Lao Mi has always believed that the significance of work lies in improving mind and sharpening skills.

Discover your talents at work and exercise your skills through hard work. Let yourself constantly improve and maintain sufficient competitiveness.

Therefore, we can avoid a lot of unpleasantness by trying to understand our own abilities and positioning and choosing a company with clear business and positive atmosphere.

There are two main reasons for unhappiness:

1, materially unhappy.

2, mentally unhappy.

The most common thing is that you are far from home and have less money. But at least the average person is unhappy because of his meager income.

Low income directly leads to a low standard of living, a bad life, and it is hard to buy something.

Thereby causing psychological discomfort.

So, after all, I am still unhappy.

After all, few people are poor enough to eat a lot. This kind of situation will not happen to the professionals discussed here.

Then, let's talk about why people in the workplace are getting more and more unhappy mentally.

Master Zhang believes that there are three main reasons:

First, psychological imbalance.

Second, the environment is uncomfortable.

Third, I am at a loss about the future.

Let's talk about psychological imbalance first.

For example, a person who has been in the company for about the same time as you, or who has been in the company for a shorter time than you, now has a higher income and a higher level than you, and you will have a comparison in your heart.

Why does she earn more than me? Popular with leaders and colleagues?

What did I miss? Isn't she the one who can talk and kiss up when she comes?

This is a very common psychological imbalance formed by the internal relationship of the company.

In another case, Professor Zhang also gave an example.

I grew up with you, my classmate, next door to Xiaofang.

The job I took part in with you ended up buying a car and a house and marrying a rich man a few years later.

Thousands of dollars a pack of benefits, are you still wondering if it is a bit extravagant to eat mala Tang tomorrow?

At this time, there will also be psychological imbalance.

I'm very upset. Of course I'm unhappy.

Let's talk about the working environment.

Some jobs don't need to face people, which is relatively simple. When it's over, it's over.

But there are some things, we have to face the communication between customers and colleagues.

At this time, the situation becomes complicated. Professor Zhang has a student, and the leader gives her little shoes every day. Colleagues don't like that she can't hold back every day.

There are also some people who form gangs and make the whole company smoke and do nothing.

No one will be happy in such a working environment.

The last point is more common.

I am young now, and I can get thousands of dollars a month to pay my daily expenses, but I always feel that I can't see the future.

It doesn't matter if one person is full and the whole family is not hungry, but in case of illness that day, or the company goes bankrupt, all the accumulation will start again.

Also, if you get 5000 yuan a month now, it seems that the salary will be the same ten years later, and you can't find a personal growth path. Ignorance of the future makes you afraid and anxious. But there is no way.

All of the above are the reasons for getting unhappy. There are not many explanations for the reasons for space, but more about the growing mood and cheats to chat privately with Master Zhang.

People's pursuits and expectations are different at different times and in different environments. Before entering the enterprise, you may be interested in the background strength, salary, learning opportunities and working environment of the enterprise ..... At the beginning of entering the enterprise, you will pay attention to the adaptation and integration of the enterprise and whether the previous expectations are realized one by one. However, with the passage of time, I have also been promoted to a certain extent. I have changed from a newcomer to an old man in the workplace, and my qualifications have improved. My mentality will inevitably change, and I will have new expectations and views on the enterprise. When my expectations are not met, my dissatisfaction will be exposed. If I add setbacks in my life, I will feel more and more unhappy at work.

Unhappiness in the workplace is not more and more, but more people express unhappiness.

Simply answer from the following directions.

1, the workplace is under great pressure.

With the development of economy, there are more and more intelligent, automated, specialized and refined jobs. Traditional manual labor has not adapted to social development and has been eliminated, so it needs to learn new knowledge and content constantly. There is not much time to study and follow up professional knowledge after work, and the company is developing rapidly, which is relatively stressful.

I have no professional ability, and my ability is not enough. Maybe you will be criticized at every meeting. This requires normal study and lifelong study.

Colleagues will not socialize with each other, which is also a major reason for unhappiness. Don't look at things. Unable to communicate with the leader.

2. The family can't take care of it.

Accordingly, if the normal work is not completed, work overtime. There are few families in the world, and it is easy to produce contradictions.

3. Low wages

The company hasn't raised wages for years. The salary is not enough for family expenses. Many negative emotions are brought into the workplace, which is not good and is not conducive to work.

4. Worried about the future, especially after 40 years old, there will be layoffs in the workplace. There is no guarantee for the future. After the age of 40, I can't keep up with my learning ability, so I'm easily laid off and have no social viability. I'm worried.

5, the glamorous life of friends in society, a group of friends, I have a poor life and am not happy.

Anyway, I'm going to wash my hair, or the rain will stop soon.

According to my observation, there are two kinds of unhappy people in the workplace:

1, I feel that my work is worthless.

2. I feel too stressed at work.

solution

1. People who think their work is worthless: You can find a job you like, but if you can't take on your current job, my suggestion is that you make this job that you think is worthless valuable, do it more diligently, and do it well every step. You will become an expert in this job and be valuable.

2. People who feel too much pressure at work: My suggestion is that the only way for you is to do this job well and improve your ability. When your ability exceeds the difficulty of this job, you will feel relaxed and you will become a master and expert in the same kind of work yourself.

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3. So, what kind of jobs do we like?