Why should we break out of the “either/or” thinking circle?

The company is recruiting staff. There is a test question like this:

On a stormy night, you drive past a station and find three people waiting for the bus to arrive: the first one is an old woman who looks like she is on the verge of death. , the second is the doctor who once saved your life, and the third is the lover of your dreams.

Your car can only accommodate one passenger. Who do you choose? Everyone’s answer has his or her own reasons: Choose the old woman because she will die soon and we should save her. Life; choose the doctor because he once saved your life, and now is your best chance to repay him; choose the lover of your dreams because if you miss this opportunity, you may never find her (him) again.

Among the 200 candidates, what is the answer of the one who was finally hired? "I gave the car keys to the doctor and asked him to rush the old woman to the hospital; while I stayed and waited for the bus to arrive with my beloved."

We are often told by We are limited by the "either/or" thinking mode. If we "get off the bus" and put aside the inherent thinking mode, we can gain more.

The famous French soprano Ma Dumeple has a beautiful private garden. Every weekend, there are always people coming to her garden to pick flowers and mushrooms, and some even set up tents and have picnics on the grass. The garden was left in a mess and dirty.

The housekeeper once asked people to put up a fence around the garden and put up wooden signs saying "Private Garden No Entry", but to no avail, the garden continued to be trampled and destroyed.

So, the housekeeper had no choice but to ask the master for instructions.

After listening to the butler’s report, Dimeple asked the butler to make some big signs and put them up at various intersections, with the words eye-catchingly written on them:

If you are bitten by a poisonous snake in the forest , the nearest hospital is 15 kilometers away and can be reached by car in about half an hour.

From then on, no one broke into her garden again.

What is the difference between "No entry into private gardens" and "If you are bitten by a poisonous snake in the forest..."? ——Sometimes success or failure just depends on a change of concept.

Before the writer Maugham became famous, he lived a poor life. In order to gain value for his articles, Maugham once published a marriage notice in a newspaper after finishing a novel:

“I like music and sports, and am a young and educated millionaire. The rich man hopes to marry a woman who is exactly the same as the heroine in Maugham's novel."

A few days later, Maugham's novel was sold out.

It should be said that Maugham pioneered the hype of modern best-sellers. However, today's literati's hype methods are far worse than Maugham's.

You have worn jeans, but do you know the origin of jeans? In the western United States, a rural youth was going to participate in a bullfight, but he was so poor that he had nothing to change except a pair of torn trousers.

He had wanted to borrow a pair of trousers beforehand, but his friends said that he was going to participate in a bullfight, and when he came back, his good trousers might become torn trousers again. So no one would lend it to him.

The young man had no choice but to wear torn pants that exposed his knees to the arena. Unexpectedly, he miraculously won the first place.

When he went on stage to receive the award, his torn pants made him embarrassed. There were more than a dozen photographers in the audience but they took pictures of him regardless. He was completely ashamed.

Who would have thought that after his photo was published in the newspaper, his torn jeans would become a style imitated by many young people at that time. A few days later, the streets and alleys were filled with young people wearing torn pants. This scene has been passed down to this day.

In this era of lack of sex and imitation, everyone can get a pair of torn trousers and wear them, but can they inherit the courage of heroes, the wisdom of wise men, and the thinking of successful people?