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2. Failure is a stepping stone to success (Sun Yunxiao, Sun Hongyan)

Any successful person will almost be regarded as a person who can do things, and people can't help but cast envious eyes on them. However, have you ever thought that almost every one of them has experienced the test of failure?

For anyone who trudges on the road to success, it is inevitable to encounter failures and setbacks. Just as a person has to go through day and night to survive, adversity equals night. If you want to learn to do things, you must first learn to treat setbacks correctly.

The story of the famous Japanese conductor Seiji Ozawa may give you some enlightenment.

On September 1935, Seiji Ozawa was born in Shenyang, China, and returned to Japan with his family at the age of 6. When he was a teenager, Seiji Ozawa showed his musical talent. He likes listening to music, especially symphonies. On one occasion, he followed his parents to a concert of the Japan Broadcasting Association Symphony Orchestra, conducted by the famous Russian conductor Leonid Rudolf Rodolphe Kreutzer. Listening to the beautiful music melody and watching the elegant and enthusiastic conductor, Seiji Ozawa was deeply attracted. I must be a conductor like Leonid Rudolf Rodolphe Kreutzer, he thought.

1951April, Seiji Ozawa was officially admitted to the short-term university command department of Tong Ming College. There, he systematically studied music theory and technology and began to be the conductor of the school orchestra. This laid a solid foundation for him to be a band conductor in the future. After graduating from high school, he went to Europe for further study. From Marseille to Paris, he felt the great charm of the hometown of art. Seiji Ozawa's road to art is smooth sailing. He won the Besancon International Conductor Competition, and won the Berkshire Music Festival and the Conductor Competition hosted by karajan twice in a row. Karajan admired Seiji Ozawa very much and pointed him out personally. Karajan is a world-famous conductor, known as "the master of music magic". So I am really lucky to get karajan's appreciation and enlightenment.

During his two years in Paris, Seiji Ozawa made rapid progress. He has become an outstanding young music conductor and has been hired as a band conductor by Columbia Arts, the largest performance company in New York Philharmonic and the United States.

Seiji Ozawa's road to success is smooth, isn't it? However, like countless successful people, he has also experienced the test of failure.

1962 "Ozawa incident" is really a big blow to Seiji Ozawa, which has been on the smooth road. At that time, Seiji Ozawa had just returned to Japan from Paris and was hired as the permanent conductor of the Japan Broadcasting Corporation Symphony Orchestra. However, some members of the band don't believe in his youth. Comparatively speaking, they appreciate the command style of the famous German conductor Fult Wengler. Therefore, they refused to take part in the performance. In the empty theater, Seiji Ozawa was the only one standing on the podium. Being "hung" on the stage in public, what a blow it has brought to young Seiji Ozawa! He didn't expect that the skills he had learned through hardships abroad were so coldly received when he returned to his motherland, which was a great shame.

Angry Seiji Ozawa resolutely left the motherland, began to live in exile, and vowed never to come back. He doesn't believe that he will be a failure. He is determined to make outstanding achievements and show them to those who look down on him.

He came to America. Besides studying hard, he also served as the conductor of Chicago Symphony Orchestra Wenya Youth Festival. At the same time, he is also the conductor of Toronto Philharmonic Orchestra in Canada. Rich experience has enabled him to accumulate enough experience and command skills have become more exquisite. Five years later, he left America and began to travel around the world, often serving as a guest conductor. His footprints are all over the world, and he has been exposed to various musical genres and artistic styles. Through learning and sorting out others, he has gradually formed his own style. From then on, Seiji Ozawa really became famous. The audience applauded his concert, and the western media called him "a world-famous conductor".

Nevertheless, Seiji Ozawa has not forgotten the shame brought by 1962, and he is still strict with himself: go to bed at about one o'clock every morning and get up at five o'clock. Besides conducting concerts, he spent most of his time studying music.

10 years have passed. From 65438 to 0972, Seiji Ozawa was employed as the permanent commander of Boston Symphony Orchestra. Boston Symphony Orchestra is a world-class symphony orchestra. It is a great honor for a musician to be a conductor in such an orchestra. Seiji Ozawa finally reached the pinnacle of world music through his own efforts. If there were no Ozawa incident, would there be Seiji Ozawa today? If Seiji Ozawa didn't have the courage to face failure, could he still knock on the door of Boston Symphony Orchestra today? Therefore, failure is not terrible, what is terrible is that you can't bear setbacks. Seiji Ozawa has enough mental preparation and endurance. He did not flinch in the face of failure, but stepped on it, creating a myth of a struggler.

I remember that Du Mu, a great poet in the Tang Dynasty, once wrote a magnificent poem: "Winning or losing is the plan of a military strategist by surprise. The children of Jiangdong are brilliant, and it is unknown that they will make a comeback. " People will inevitably encounter setbacks and hardships in their lives. The key question is whether you are defeated by failure or defeated by failure.

You know, ups and downs constitute a colorful life, and there is no unsuccessful life. Therefore, if you want to embrace success, you must take failure as a stepping stone. Only a strong person can not be intimidated by failure and laugh off all bad luck, losses and setbacks. To overcome failure, we must first overcome ourselves and then start all over again. Only action is the most important guarantee of success.

It is not difficult for a person to surpass others, but it is not so easy to surpass himself. Therefore, a person with great psychological endurance has the first condition for success, because failure is the stepping stone to success.

Failure is not terrible, but you should learn from it, otherwise it is a real failure. There is a proverb that says, "No matter how smooth the road is, there will be a few stones" and "After some setbacks, you will gain a lot". Stay optimistic and determined, keep cheering for yourself, and your goals will become a reality.

(Excerpted from Learn to Do Things, Beijing Publishing House, 2000)

3. Being kind to others means being kind to yourself (Sun Yunxiao, Sun Hongyan)

Learning to do things seems to be an individual's pursuit of success, which is his own business and has nothing to do with others, but in fact, in the process of pursuing success, no one can do without cooperation with others. To be a good teacher, teachers must rely on students' learning; Students must rely on the teacher's education to become useful people to society; The boss relies on the work of employees to complete economic activities; Writers rely on readers' reading to become great writers. From this point of view, we can't do things without the support of others. If you want to succeed, you should try your best to get support and help from people around you. So, how can we get the cooperation of others? The answer is to be kind to others. Only when you treat others sincerely will others be willing to cooperate with you and stand up when you encounter difficulties.

Wu Qi, a famous Warring States player, knows very well that being kind to others means being kind to yourself. There is a story about Wu Qi in Historical Records: He loves soldiers like children and is deeply loved by soldiers. Once, a soldier who just joined the army was injured in the war. Due to the lack of medical care and medicine on the battlefield, the soldiers' wounds were festering and gangrenous when they returned to the rear after the war. Wu Qi found it while patrolling the camp. Without saying anything, he immediately squatted down and sucked the wound for the soldier with his mouth to reduce inflammation and heal. Seeing how the general treated himself, the little soldier was moved to tears and couldn't say a word. Other soldiers saw it and were deeply moved. When the soldier's mother heard about it, she burst into tears. Everyone thought she was moved to tears, but she said, "I'm worried about my son's fate!" " You don't know that General Wu was also injured for his father. As a result, his father was grateful for General Wu's kindness, risked his life to kill the enemy bravely, and finally died in battle. "On the other hand, it can be seen that it is precisely because Wuqi is so kind to soldiers that all soldiers are very brave and good at fighting.

It can be seen that being kind to others is a basic principle that we must abide by in the process of seeking success. In today's cooperative society, people are more interactive. Only by being kind to others and sincerely helping others can we handle interpersonal relationships and get happy cooperation from others.

Mencius once said, "A gentleman is nothing more than being kind to others." Those who give generously and expect nothing in return are often easy to succeed. And those who are selfish, stingy and haggle over every ounce can not only find a partner, but may even become lonely. Some students will ask: What is kindness to others? Being kind to others is easy to say, but not easy to do. It covers a wide range of contents. Such as: caring for others, when friends encounter difficulties, take the initiative to lend a hand of friendship; Respect others and don't explore their privacy; Don't talk or criticize others behind their backs; Good at communicating with people; Good at interacting with people with different interests and personalities; Admit each other's value and efforts, and take responsibility for mistakes ... Generally speaking, the most important principle of being kind to others is "don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you", and everything should be considered from each other's perspective. If you can follow this principle, you will get many good friends and partners.

Some people say that good interpersonal relationships are not obtained by actions, but by "flow" from the bottom of my heart. This sentence is very philosophical. It tells us that we should be honest with others in interpersonal communication, take our own heart as the criterion in everything, and communicate with people with "heart". Some middle school students are eager for friendship, but refuse to open their hearts to each other. Wang Rui, a middle school student in Hunan, once wrote to complain about the trouble of having no friends. She said: "After entering middle school, everyone may have grown up and become intrigued and used each other. I hate this situation, so I become deep and indifferent, and I am determined to wrap myself in loneliness and temper myself in inner pain. I am indifferent to the things in my class and take' going my own way' as my motto. Don't talk to classmates after class, make jokes, and don't talk in class ... "This practice of Wang Rui's classmates is inappropriate. When she longed for friendship, she didn't want to open her heart first and communicate with her classmates with her heart. In doing so, she can't get rid of herself, but it is easy to make herself more miserable and lonely. In the letters we received from boys and girls in the past, we often encountered this situation. Some middle school students often hold the psychology of "I won't answer you if you don't answer me" and "I don't want to make friends with you if you don't make friends with me". How can I get the cooperation and help from my friends?

There is a good saying: "Happiness does not depend on wealth, power and appearance, but on how you get along with the people around you." Do you want to be a happy person? Then let's start by being kind to others!

(Excerpted from Learn to Do Things, Beijing Publishing House, 2000)

4. Competition: generosity and elegance (Jin Dalu, Hongji Wong)

Shanghai Meilong Town Square recruits "Young Ambassadors" with an annual salary of 6.5438+0.6 million yuan. When 16 contestants easily passed the three final stages of written test, speech and performance, they entered the last stage-actual combat simulation. The contestants are divided into four groups according to the serial number, with four people in each group. There is only one question: who do you think will be elected as the youth ambassador this time? The topic will be discussed in four groups, and each group must have a clear candidate to tell the judges present.

When the host finished reading the topic requirements, the contestants looked at me and I looked at you, all blindsided. Hundreds of spectators stood with bated breath, waiting for the game to start. First of all, contestant No.1 broke the deadlock: "I think I should be the best candidate for the young ambassador." There is no doubt that the tone is tough and affirmative. The courage and confidence of other players are also surging. For a time, other people's voices became the theme of almost every player's speech on the court.

With the deepening of the event, the smell of gunpowder on the field is getting stronger and stronger. One player seriously told everyone that he was the youngest and deserved to be elected, not to mention his cleverness and wit, "unlike the kind of embroidered pillow with a bag of grass." When this statement came out, it angered other players, so you came and went, and in a rage, you started a language attack. Even, a plain-looking young lady who won by wisdom was retaliated with a quite creative remark-wisdom pig.

The players on the field attacked each other, embellished and slandered their opponents at will. Because of the host's constant juggling, the situation will not be like a quarrel in the street. But the final was so cruel that people broke out in a cold sweat. A reporter said, if this 16 player remembers the three months in the same boat, please do your best. There are also comments from the audience. If these young college students are still like this after entering the society, it is easy to turn against others for their own interests. No matter how beautiful and knowledgeable they are, they will suffer big losses.

The questioner's purpose is to let the contestants increase their psychological endurance through cooperation and show their tolerance and mind. Unexpectedly, there was a surprising scene in the final.

"In order to win the championship, many beautiful women swore at each other on the spot." Shanghai Youth Daily reported an unexpected scene in the final of the Young Ambassador in Meilong Town Square, which aroused strong repercussions from all walks of life.

What we want to ask is, can competition do anything to achieve its goal?

For such questions, contestants can have the following choices:

China's traditional practice is to hold a modest attitude and make rational, fair and objective judgments about others. If others are really better than themselves, he will frankly admit his own shortcomings, sincerely praise others and sincerely congratulate the successful people on their success.

For today's young people, a more eclectic, more modern and more acceptable way is to never give up on yourself, fully show your style, and highlight your strengths in the most perfect way possible, so as to defeat your opponents in external demeanor and connotation temperament. But never lose the objective evaluation of others.

In the final of the Young Ambassador in Meilong Town Square, we saw the last scene we wanted to see. Players attack each other, slander each other, and speak disrespectfully, which is similar to abuse. Some experts pointed out that this unpretentious approach, even as a competition skill, is extremely undesirable.

Competition has only two directions: one is mutual encouragement and the other is mutual destruction.

Competition does not exclude cooperation. In a sense, competition is a kind of cooperation. There is only one laurel in the contest, and there are only a few winners after all, so it is important for most contestants to participate. The purpose of the competition is to improve ourselves, communicate with the players, learn from each other and strive for common development. Thanks to the cooperation of the players, a competitive atmosphere has been created. It is in this competitive process that the contestants constantly develop and improve themselves.

In order to achieve the goal, it is a despicable act to vilify the opponent during the game. It not only shows the moral defects of the contestants, but also exposes their lack of confidence in culture, knowledge and accomplishment. They don't try to improve and show their talents, so as to make themselves stand out. The so-called "a rising tide lifts a boat" means that you can do whatever you want, but they do everything possible to harm others and benefit themselves. It seems that only by belittling others can you expose yourself. The so-called "get to the bottom of it" means that you can't do whatever you want.

What caused these young people's ideas to change so much?

In China, young people have never been so confident, which is undoubtedly a kind of social progress. In such an era of fierce competition, if they don't show themselves, they will be eliminated, and they will only behave themselves in Nuo Nuo, and even become increasingly unable to adapt to today's living environment. But we cannot go to the other extreme. Some young people's understanding of "self-confidence" is one-sided, and many young people's answer to the question "Who do you admire" is always "self", which is unreasonable. At the same time, maintaining full respect for other individuals should be the premise of self-confidence. Otherwise, self-confidence will become selfish. For example, the attitude and arrogance of some players in the "Young Ambassador" finals, besides bluffing, is more important because they only care about themselves.

At present, we don't pay much attention to the education of being kind to others, pay too much attention to personal struggle, and ignore how to cooperate with others to achieve success, and even ignore how not to hurt others in the competition. At present, the values of "jungle philosophy" are popular in society, that is, the so-called law of the jungle, the survival of the fittest. Some people can do whatever it takes to achieve their goals. Some "young ambassadors" players can't wait to use some vulgar language, attack each other, and even hurt people at the expense of exports, which destroys the relaxed and harmonious atmosphere of the competition, and the final result is that both sides lose.

Competition is based on the premise of not hurting others and the principle of common improvement. Competition does not exclude cooperation, and good cooperation promotes competition. This reminds me of a national psychological open class in Shanghai Xingzhi Middle School. The theme is: competition and cooperation.

The teacher led the students to play a very interesting game-"escape from the fire". The teacher put a lot of ping-pong balls in the bottle, revealing only the tied cotton thread. The vase represents the building, the thin bottleneck is the only exit, and seven ping-pong balls are the residents in the building. It is required that all residents can escape safely in a short time when the building suddenly catches fire. Seven students excitedly walked onto the stage. Each of them is holding a cotton thread. When the alarm sounded, they all pulled the rope with the fastest response, but no one could escape from the fire. It turns out that all seven ping-pong balls are stuck in the bottle mouth. These students looked at each other, only to see one of them whisper a few words to his partner and start the second experiment. This time, instead of pulling a rope from each side, everyone pulls it from left to right in turn. Sure enough, before the alarm ended, seven "residents" had left the exit and moved to safety.

As a result, an argument was triggered among students: "Competition is more important than cooperation, or cooperation is more important than competition?" In the end, the students clearly realized that malicious competition is bound to lose both sides, and good cooperation is more important than competition.