What should I do if I feel uneasy before getting married?

1. Why are you upset when you are getting married?

Hehe, your mood is the same as that before I got married. The closer the wedding day is, the more serious your anxiety will be. Although you will be very happy when you are in love, after all, your identity is still single. Others only call you your name or your daughter. You are free to be childish, but after you get married, your address will become your wife. You have to face each other's eating, drinking and sleeping all day. Maybe your shortcomings will be exposed. Maybe * * is absent. You also have to face your husband's parents and his seven aunts and eight aunts. In the face of the right and wrong of some parents, the pillar of the family has suddenly become yourself from the original parents. I think this is a problem that makes every girl who is about to step into marriage very scared, and there are fertility problems to face in the future. But these problems will naturally get used to it after marriage. I wish you happiness.

2. fidgety before marriage

it's no big deal to get married. there are people who have been married for only three days and then divorced.

it's not terrible to have children, as long as both parties recognize the children, and they can live together without a marriage certificate. Just spend some money on a good account for your child. Don't let your child be unable to study without an account and have no ID card in the future.

The marriage certificate is just a piece of paper, which is only a basis of China law. You can have it or not. How many mistresses in China don't have children's certificates, but they have children? Countless.

When two people are together, the feeling is the most important. Don't think that marriage can control everything.

it's no use getting married ten times without feeling. I feel good. I can live a lifetime without a marriage certificate.

3. About the psychological anxiety before marriage

Gambling is not gambling in life. You have to know that there is no way to be satisfactory in the world. The ancestors of China people advocated the golden mean, which is an attempt to minimize the risk. But in today's society, if you don't advance, you will retreat. If you don't gamble, you will lose. Men gamble on their careers and women gamble on their husbands.

I'm telling you, China in your situation is more than Qian Qian. A female colleague in our unit, her husband is a college classmate, has been going through ups and downs for nearly 1 years. At first, her husband had nothing. Later, he was admitted to the civil servant of the Propaganda Department of the city, and she herself was admitted to a public institution. Now the couple are all happy. Her husband is very grateful to his wife for waiting for him when he has nothing. I admire her, too, and dare to make a bet, because she will not hesitate when she sees the right one, so for yourself, you should also face up to this fact. There is no way to be satisfactory. For an excellent, kind, conscientious and upright man, any bet is worth making, and all other materials can be created. Although the process is hard, it is the best teaching material for your children in the future.

4. Fear before marriage

1. Worried that "marriage is the grave of love" Fear reason: Everyone says that "marriage is the grave of love", even if love is beautiful, there will be no * * * and sweetness when entering marriage, only endless trivialities and troubles.

If you don't get married, you won't have so many troubles. You can enjoy life to the fullest, and enjoy the nourishment of love ... Tips: To get rid of the pre-marital phobia, you must first get rid of the illusion of married life, don't have too high expectations and extravagant hopes, and don't think that your lover is perfect and everything is perfect. The honeymoon is really sweeter than honey. It should be clearly recognized that the birth of a new family means an increased burden, which means that both of you should try your best to do your duty for the family. It should be noted that the sweetness of honeymoon is won by oneself willingly for the hardships of one's lover, and it is a mutual dedication and a common creation.

Before marriage, lovers are required to have the determination to be willing to endure hardships and hardships for their loved ones and their small families, and to be tolerant and understanding of their loved ones' shortcomings. Second, arranged marriage, I don't know enough about my future husband. Reasons for fear: He and I were introduced by relatives. Because we work in two cities, we only met three times in half a year. My family said that we are not young, urging us to get married on May 1.

But I still don't know him. His living habits, his circle of friends, and even whether he is single-minded. I don't know whether he has talked about his girlfriend. It's really helpless. Every time I think about it, I really don't want to get married ... Tips: Both men and women need to constantly strengthen mutual understanding and deepen their feelings. This is the most important psychological preparation before marriage. If this preparation is not sufficient, no matter how complete other preparations are, it will not guarantee the happiness of married life. Even if there are all kinds of material preparations before marriage, it will be difficult to make up for the psychological damage and maintain the sincere love between husband and wife.

I suggest you get to know each other better before you get married, or have a long talk before marriage and get to know each other as much as possible, which may eliminate your fear of future marriage. Third, I am worried that I can't get along with my mother-in-law. Reasons for fear: I will live under the same roof with my father-in-law and mother-in-law. Everyone's living habits are exposed, and mutual friction is inevitable.

can his parents tolerate me? Can I have a good time in this home? Tips: Be mentally prepared to adapt to the new life. Before marriage, we should think that there will be significant changes in all aspects of married life, not only for living with our lover, but also for parents, brothers, sisters and relatives and friends of both sides, and we should learn to live in harmony with them.

before marriage and even for a period of time after marriage, we should create conditions to know and be familiar with those who should know, so as to avoid being nervous and making mistakes because many strangers intrude into our lives after marriage, thus hurting the feelings of husband and wife. Fourth, I am worried that the housework can't be finished. Fear reason: I am the only child in my family. My parents regarded me as the apple of my eye since I was a child. I have never done housework, so I have to tidy up my cabin at most.

But after marriage, it's different. You have to learn to cook and wash clothes, mop the floor and clean the room. These alone can take up more than half of your rest time ... I really want to live in the shadow of my parents all my life, so I won't have headaches and housework. Tip: Every woman will become a housewife.

Unfortunately, "housewife" is not a word to be proud of in China at present, because housework related to it has always been ignored or even despised by society and men. We can't let men personally experience the tedious and hard work of housework as in jokes, but the value of housework, like any other work, is tied to the dignity and value of a housewife and must not be lightly taken over.

Respecting housework is not only a breakthrough achievement of the new version of the Law on the Protection of Women's Rights and Interests, but also one of the fundamental prerequisites for equality between men and women. 5. Worried about extramarital affairs, afraid of divorce. Reasons: Now when newspapers and the Internet are opened, there are all kinds of infidelities and affairs. Even after a lover who has been in love for many years gets married, there will be seven-year itch and ten-year itch, which makes people feel flustered.

Especially, many people who grew up in single-parent families are particularly afraid of getting married and getting divorced, so they simply don't get married, fearing that marriage will bring them harm again. Tips: First, this fear comes from the negative "propaganda" of public opinion on marriage life, and some media have "exposed" the dark side of marriage by analyzing various marriage problems, which makes people with "marriage intentions" feel an invisible pressure, resulting in excessive anxiety about the "direction" of married life and fear of marriage failure; Another reason is that one party is not very satisfied with some aspects of the other party, or has doubts about whether some shortcomings of the other party can be changed after getting married and whether they can adapt themselves.

It is suggested to read more reports about happy marriages, and understand that affair and infidelity are only a few cases of marriage. Believe in love and marriage, and at the same time learn more tricks to warm up love. As long as you manage it with your heart, marriage will be really beautiful! Sixth, I am worried that marriage will affect my job and future. Reasons for fear: Who doesn't want someone to love someone and end her single life as soon as possible, but marriage may not be a good thing for women.

Nowadays, the job competition is so fierce that many female undergraduates who just graduated can't find jobs, let alone married women. I have been afraid to get married because I am afraid that my competitiveness will be reduced after marriage. I haven't seen many units directly ask you "Are you married" when recruiting? In order to find a satisfactory job, many women have to hide their married status and become a new urban hidden marriage family ... Tips: Getting married and having children is a necessary stage for a woman. If a 22-year-old woman wins her favor by a little youth and cleverness, a 28-year-old woman needs to be stable and capable.

A while ago, there was a case that a 3-year-old unmarried woman applied for a job in a company, and her ability and experience were recognized by the company. However, the company expressed doubts that she was unmarried at the age of 3, worried that her personality was flawed, and finally refused her.

5. Why did I feel restless and bored some time before I got married

This is a kind of marriage anxiety disorder, a very common anxiety disorder occurs among people who are about to get married, which is a possible symptom for prospective couples when they face marriage.

Treatment:

1. Sit cross-legged on the floor of a warm room at will, with palms up on your knees. Imagine an idea like a silk thread extending from your spinal cord, rising from the top of your head, then slowly raise your head, drive the upper part of your body up to the ceiling, close your eyes and breathe quietly.

2. Light your favorite scented candle in the bathroom, fill the bathtub with hot water, put some Enya music, take a good bath in the bathtub and soak your tired nerves.

3. Do some leisure things with your fiance that have nothing to do with preparing for the wedding. Play the DVD that you want to watch most at home. Watch what you like first, and then watch what he likes. While watching, help each other rub their feet and shoulders, chat and talk, and be very much in love.

4. If you seem to have no leisure at all and feel uncomfortable when you are idle, do something mechanical, effortless and without thinking, such as putting the prepared invitation in the envelope, washing the dishes, tidying the table, sorting out your collection, and reminiscing about the past time. Of course, it's best to be completely idle and do nothing, just stare blankly and daydream.

5. Do something extra with a little wedding budget, buy some aromatherapy oil and a delicate aromatherapy stove, which is elegant! Watch the smell of lavender or rosemary spread in the air with light smoke in the light candlelight. Take a deep breath and let your body and mind dissolve in the air and relax completely.

6. Exercise is also a good way to relieve anxiety. Choose a sport you like and start sweating. If you are sports blind, choose a sport that you don't hate. Running is the best, simplest and most convenient exercise. If you think it is monotonous, listen to music while running. And exercise can not only relax you, but also make you lose weight. Kill two birds with one stone, right?

7. Make a good plan and arrange the things you will prepare for the wedding in the future, and make a list and list everything clearly. Although you are busy and tired, you want a perfect wedding, and you can't help shaking your head and sighing when you look at all the things you have to do but take five minutes to think about the uniqueness in this infinite universe and yourself in the universe! Isn't that what life is like? It's your choice. And you are busy for your most important moment. Is this a full satisfaction and happiness? So always sort out your plans and think about them, and you will gradually calm down and regain your confidence!

8. People with faith always say: Every day, I wake up with gratitude and start my life. This is also advice for the bride. If you take a few minutes to think about all you have got with gratitude, all your troubles and difficulties will disappear without a trace. So, meditate and be grateful!

9. If you find your heart beating faster and faster during busy hours, then you must refuse those things with sex, such as coffee, chocolate or cigarettes, and try to be mature and strong.

1、Stop！ Stop all thinking, you're too busy! Look at your fiance, remind yourself of all the reasons why you decided to love and marry this man at first, then stop thinking and remember, don't think about anything else, just do something well.