Correct explanation of regret

The correct explanation of frustration is chagrin and frustration, and the relevant contents are as follows:

1. Related stories

There used to be an old lady who lived in Nanshanji, Kyoto. She cries on rainy days and sunny days. For years, she looked depressed and sad. The monk in nanzenji asked her, "Why do you always cry?

She cried and replied, "I have two daughters. The eldest daughter married a shoe seller and the youngest daughter married an umbrella seller. On a sunny day, I don't think my little daughter's umbrella can be sold; It's raining. I don't think anyone will buy my eldest daughter's shoes. How can I not cry? "

The monk advised her: "When the weather is fine, you should think that the eldest daughter's shoes must be prosperous;" When it rains, you should think that your little daughter's umbrella must sell a lot. "

The old lady suddenly realized that she was smiling through tears. In fact, the content of her life has not changed, just because the perspective of observing life has changed. She has changed from a "crying woman" to a "laughing woman".

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In real life, there are countless similar cases. Some people live similar lives, but their living conditions are quite different. Some are optimistic, full of joy and satisfaction all day; Some people are pessimistic and world-weary, and they are sad all day, and their hearts are full of gloom and troubles. One of the reasons is that they observe life from different angles.

3. From another angle, get twice the result with half the effort

Different eyes have different views on things; Different realms have different understandings of things; Different positions lead to different ways of thinking in the face of problems. From another angle, you can often get twice the result with half the effort.

Read such a story. A writer advertised for a secretary in the newspaper, and the cover letter came like a snowflake, but most of the contents were the same: "I saw your advertisement for a secretary in the newspaper, and I hope I can apply for this position." How old am I this year? I graduated from a school. If I am lucky enough to be selected by you, I will be conscientious.

However, one of the signal writers was very surprised. The letter reads like this: "The advertisement you published will definitely attract hundreds or even thousands of application letters. I believe that your work must be very busy and you don't have enough time to read it carefully.

So, you just need to dial this number gently, and I'll be happy to come and help you sort out your letters, which will save you precious time. You don't have to doubt my working ability and quality at all, because I have fifteen years of secretarial experience. "

The reason why the person who wrote this letter can stand out from many competitors is because she stood in the employer's perspective, found out the employer's needs and existing problems, and then expounded the methods to solve the problems and her own value.

In life, it is inevitable to meet all kinds of opportunities and challenges. From another angle, try to deal with the problem from the standpoint of others, and the chances of success will be greatly improved.