Doing nothing all day, wasting my youth, doing nothing, having no motivation to do anything, but I really don’t want to be like this, I hate days like this

You have said so much. In the process you described, the problem has actually been exposed. The process you described is itself a contradictory process. Trouble, can't think about it, can't understand, have no solution, no hindrance, trouble. You feel like there is a haze on your head that won't go away. It's like a tight spell on your head, bringing you endless pain and making you feel that your life is gloomy, sunless, and meaningless. This state is a limited state, a state of being trapped in an illusory pain field created by oneself, just like a thin and tight wire wrapped around the body. The more you struggle, the tighter it is, and the more painful it becomes. Because at this time, pain has gained your recognition, you feel that you are pain, and what makes you feel uncomfortable is the consciousness that pain disguises itself as yourself. Have you ever discovered a problem? When we are happy, everything around us is happy, looks so pleasing to the eye, and is so shiny. But when we are in pain, everything around us is so gray. They are all the triggers of pain, and they are all so unhappy. You are the one who feels unhappy, and you are the one who feels happy. The surrounding environment has always been like this, there is something wrong! ? As our consciousness changes, our experience of our surroundings changes as our consciousness changes. The greatest pain for people is to be trapped in the paralyzed ego world created by their own emotions, and mistakenly believe that the ego is themselves, that is, emotions, and cannot get out. You think, you are fine alone, sitting here, that is, at this moment, why are you suffering, who is making you suffer, isn't it strange? When you calm down and listen to the voice in your head and see what information it gives you, you will know what is going on. When you learn to hear the noisy voice in your head, that is, you are not in harmony with When the ego is recognized, that is when you no longer identify with emotions, that is when you build a space in your own soul, that is when you see the true essence of yourself. When your larger-space self appears, you will be very peaceful and joyful! Don’t think that this theory is useless. This is a common problem that everyone will encounter. If you figure it out, it will bring huge motivation to your actions. The biggest enemy in life is ourselves. We are friends and enemies with ourselves all the time. There is too much noise in our heads. These negative emotions have been installed in our heads without our examination. No matter whether they are good or bad, we should accept them all. The reason why some philosophers say that an unexamined life is not worth living. So we should not live in emotions, but try to live in the present, that is, at this moment. The only thing we can grasp is now, the present. The past is past and can never be looked back. The future has not arrived yet, we don’t know what will happen. The only thing that can be grasped is now. The past and the future must pass through the present, and grasping the present means grasping the past and the future. I know that when we decide to overcome ourselves and do something, at the beginning, negative emotions will habitually bombard our positive thoughts. As long as you find negative thoughts coming, it only takes a moment. Hold it in, don't fight, the negative emotions will subside on their own. Never fight against negative emotions, because they rely on fighting to produce pain. Two people who are quarreling are fighting. If one party does not fight, be more generous and rational, and do not be controlled by emotions. Look at the current situation Depending on the other party's mood, the fight will not break out. When you gain inner peace, you will do what you should and want to do consciously, without the help of others, because you have gained self-help.

The best way to help others is to teach them how to save themselves, because others can't help you. At most, others can only give you a guide. The key depends on how you experience and understand. All words and phenomena are guides. The key is whether you can see through these phenomena to see the essence hidden behind them, including ourselves.

Go out of yourself, embrace others, stay with enlightened people, and stay with happy people, because enlightened people see clearly, and negative emotions cannot survive there. You are If you stay in such an aura for long enough, the painful nerves will slowly subside and be gradually forgotten, and the positive thoughts will continue to appear and rise. Once you develop a habit, the habit becomes natural. Thoughts determine behavior, behavior determines habits, habits determine character, and character changes destiny.

Teach you a way to return to yourself when emotions strike, that is to feel your own breathing, because breathing is the most basic way for people to survive. He will teach you to return to yourself, to the most essential thing. Self, the self that exists as a life, not others!