I have already asked to leave my job before I can find my next job. My boss wants me to stay, and I will get a promotion and a salary increase. Do I still need to stay?

Must go.

I have experienced that when I left my job, I gained 1,000 yuan, was promoted, and then I chose to stay. Then my boss fired everyone in the entire department except me, and I was responsible for one department. Things... resources were also deprived... Finally, I stayed for a month and had no choice but to leave. Self-employed Q user: Anonymous user

When we proposed to resign and the boss tried to persuade us to stay, what were your plans? Woolen cloth?

When a gorgeous offer appears in front of you, do you abandon the past and accept it happily? Or will you be hesitant because of the company’s efforts to retain you?

I think most people will assume this:

"If one day I submit my resignation and my boss retains me, it means that the company needs me very much. If I choose If I stay, I will not only get a salary increase but also better reflect my value."

However, this is not necessarily the case in reality. Most of the time, your boss may just be trying to persuade you to stay. It’s just a gantry formation, just to be able to ↓↓↓

First? Stabilize? Live? You

Chinese culture still values ????loyalty very much. You offered to resign, even if you were eventually retained. However, the trust in you in the boss's heart has been greatly reduced. In our Chinese people's concept of the workplace, the taboo for companies is to retain employees who want to leave, while the taboo for employees is to be fickle.

If you are a relatively important core figure in the company, then when you propose to resign, the boss's first reaction is whether there is anyone available in the company who can take over immediately. If there is no one available for the time being, , even if you are retained by your boss, he is probably already thinking about finding someone or training someone internally to replace you. Because no one knows when you will be unhappy again, and your boss is not willing to let the company endure the repeated tossing of employees who have intended to leave. Once your position is backed up, your position becomes awkward even if you stay.

Therefore, many promotions and salary increases are just temporary retention methods. It is purely because the company has not found anyone available at the moment. Once your boss takes over, you have no idea how he will treat you. And know it. You have to know why there was no promotion or salary increase before. Did the company not discover your value before? As soon as you said you were leaving, you were busy doing this and that, wanting to call you brother. Is your boss really worried about losing your talent?

Someone once made a small statistics. Among the company employees who proposed to resign and were finally retained, no matter how important the position was, no more than 1/4 survived in the company for more than one year.

I once met a colleague who worked as a planning director in an Internet company. Once at a friend’s party, I encountered an offer opportunity that was twice as much as my current salary. So I was shaken and thought about it. Ichiban immediately told the company he worked for to resign. The boss at that time immediately gave him a salary increase, promised various temptations, and even had no less than three large drinks together. His boss's various performances could be said to be heartfelt, and he was moved to tears and blurred. We must have sex together. We will fight together until the day when the revolution is victorious. The pie is huge and we must share it together to live up to this life. So this person was moved by his boss's sincerity, so he turned down the opportunity on the other side and focused more hard on his original job.

What he didn't expect was that after only three months, his boss hired a new planning director and persuaded him to resign with ambiguous reasons...

So in the final analysis, when your boss hears that What did he think when you were about to resign?

"He is the one who can kill a thousand swords!"

"He is the best brother I have. If he leaves, I can only wait for others to show off their power to me." !”

“I’m used to bossing him around. Wouldn’t it be different if I changed him?”

“When he leaves, I have to do his job. The holidays are about to begin. It's going to go to waste!"

"I would rather do my best to keep him than do any more work!"

"Who will be the shield when he leaves! The leader may blame me!"

"No matter what, keep him until I find someone who can replace him!"

Then pretend to be very concerned about you! He looked like this, playing the emotional card like this:

"You've hidden it well enough! Yesterday we were discussing future projects. I thought you thought the same as me! Come on, come on, Let's discuss it again!"

"The company has actually included you in the core team. If you want to leave at this time, do you deserve the company's trust?"

"Originally, you The salary increase will not be until next quarter, but I have decided temporarily that you will start to increase it from next month!"

"...Which company are you going to go to?"

Maybe you will? I feel chilling, how could they think like this! It’s human nature, understandable.

Unfortunately, many people unconsciously accept their boss’s retention offer. Here I'm going to tell you. Unless your life is so poor that you will have nothing to eat within a month of leaving your job, once you decide to leave, never look back.

If you are still immersed in the sugar-coated shells of salary increase to retain, please read the following words three times.

Article 1 Why was it that no one paid attention to you when you were offered a salary increase when you were still employed, but when you mentioned your resignation, they rushed to give you a salary increase?

Article 2: As long as you mention your resignation, your boss will no longer treat you as one of their own, but as a time bomb that may explode again at any time.

Article 3: Retention = Temporary stay, find your substitute, and you are out!

A company with complete systems and strict management will not accept bargaining from employees. Any resignation for the purpose of raising salary is extortion!

"We accept your resignation application and wish you a better future in the new company. Good luck, don't give it away!"

This is what a serious company would do. Serious reply to you.

If you continue to cut off, you will be subject to chaos!

So, resigning is not just for you to gain a sense of presence. Before submitting your resignation, you must leave a buffer zone for yourself, your boss and the company.

Let’s take a look at what a standard resignation process looks like:

Feeling unhappy at work

Looking for ways to communicate with the boss, whether it can be optimized, if The answer is Yes, please go back to work. If it’s No, then let’s continue reading

Pay attention to the talent flow in the industry

Get some referral opportunities and recruitment intentions, and estimate the current industry salary level

Weigh the current salary and environment, and determine the salary level that allows you to work with peace of mind (you must be calm when doing this step, and convert all the grievances you have suffered into money)

Strive for interview opportunities, Try to get one or two offers, but of course this is not necessary

Send an application for a salary increase. If the application is approved readily, stay on

The application for a salary increase is not approved or approved. Very reluctantly. That’s the time to start preparing your resignation letter and formally submit your resignation application to your boss. From ZhiQ user: Mr. Chai