Why can you still get married as long as you are divorced?

Why do you get married even after getting divorced?

Because I am divorced, my character and quality remain the same.

Divorce is just an external relationship, while marrying is because of one’s own qualities and inner things.

Happiness or unhappiness has little to do with first or second marriage.

It mainly depends on whether the values ??and personalities of both parties match, and whether they can be considerate and tolerant of each other, and regard each other as a true lover.

Share a story about a friend of my colleague.

Let me describe it in the first person.

Two years ago, at the age of 34, I stayed in this strange yet familiar city for more than ten years. I have nothing, no house, no car, no savings, just a job that can only support me, and I rely on working overtime day after day to earn more pocket money.

By chance, I met my current wife. Frankly speaking, she is not good-looking, but rather a bit slutty and slovenly. Dress modestly. At least until now, my friends don’t think we can live the rest of our lives well. I didn't believe we would be together at first.

She is an ordinary person who cannot be ordinary.

During the meal, we were seated next to each other. Her friend accidentally mentioned that you two are single. Maybe it was a joke, and everyone started to cheer. While chatting, everyone got high and drank some wine.

We went to sing again after dinner. It was too noisy in the box, so I slipped out and smoked a cigarette. As a single person, carnival is the loneliest thing. Coupled with the effect of alcohol, I felt really unhappy.

What I didn’t expect was that she also slipped out. Although we knew each other, she was still quite embarrassed. It was her who spoke first, "Don't listen to them, I'm already divorced, how can I be worthy of you." You and I started chatting.

I roughly learned that she was divorced and still had her daughter. At that time, she followed her ex-husband and broke up with the family regardless of her own safety. After getting married, her ex-husband seemed to have changed and was no longer as considerate as before. She works part-time, while her ex-husband is idle at home and goes out to gamble every day.

I thought that with the birth of his daughter and the title of father, he would change his ways, but unfortunately, not only did he not win back his husband. Instead, he got even worse and disliked her for giving birth to a daughter. He has been clamoring to sell his daughter. Maybe it's a woman's nature, she is strong as a mother and wants to protect her daughter. When her daughter was two years old, she finally filed for divorce.

The moon was particularly round that night, and we later left each other’s contact information. Maybe out of politeness, maybe out of sympathy.

Occasionally everyone would greet each other and keep in touch with each other, just to ask each other for help. One day she left me a message asking me to help. Because the rental house she lives in is a residential building, the rent in that area is very cheap, but the crowd is very chaotic.

It’s not as safe as a community. She invited me to help occasionally visit her place, which would give some illusion to the people next to her and avoid so much trouble.

I was happy to help her with this little favor because I didn’t have much to do in my free time. If you go to her place, you can also get the food she cooks. I never cook, fast food and instant noodles are my life, and there is nothing for cooking in my room.

Although her house is very simple, it is clean and tidy inside without losing the feeling of home. The food she cooks is also delicious. Maybe it’s because I haven’t eaten home-cooked food for a long time, and it feels like I’m eating my mother’s food.

Time flies so fast, and in a blink of an eye, it’s time for the Chinese New Year. My mother is sick and was diagnosed with late-stage gastric cancer. Over the years, I have never known how much grievances they have suffered and how much they have suffered. tired. The first time I felt helpless. At this time, she stepped forward and accompanied me to many hospitals and doctors. The result was that my days were numbered.

I know that my mother’s biggest wish is to see me get married and have children, but I have always been willful and relied on my youth and my mother and father to worry about nothing. Just the day before I was going home, I proposed to her without any ceremony. I just went out for a meal. In that small restaurant, I asked her, can we be together? Let's go home together tomorrow. I've bought the tickets for you.

I won’t let you be wronged in the future. I know it’s not a good time to say it. You also know that my mother doesn’t have much time now. I don’t want her to have any regrets, but I can’t wrong you either. If you don't want to, just do me a favor and let my mother go away happy. She didn't say anything. After a while, she said, let's take the train back together tomorrow. So we both started in a daze.

With her company, my mother passed away and the child was born. Even now, we are still together well. There is no oath of love, only the little things in life. I believe we will also be happy. Go down.

So, meeting the right person at the right time may be love.

Happiness is so simple.

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