Your self-righteous kindness is nothing but pity.

1, this episode in the Indian film "Teacher Hiccup" is impressive:

The little girl Naina unfortunately suffered from a strange disease-Tourette's disease, which is what we often call Tourette's disease. She often makes strange noises out of control.

At school, the students made strange noises to imitate and laugh at her, so the teacher suggested that she transfer to a special school.

Little Naina was in great pain because of her illness. She secretly hid in the bathroom and tried to stop this annoying noise by desperately stuffing paper towels into her mouth, but to no avail.

Naina's mother took her to 12 school, but no school is willing to accept such a special student.

Until one day, Naina came to St. Nott Middle School.

At the campus orientation meeting, Naina's strange voice once again caught everyone's attention. Khan, the principal of the new school, invited Naina to the stage and patiently asked about Naina. The headmaster sincerely asked Naina, "What can we do for you? What can we do for you? "

Little Naina's answer was unexpected: "I don't need any help, I just need to be like other students."

Little Naina said the only thing an imperfect child wants: no need to pay attention to preferential treatment, no need to sympathize with pity, please just make no difference to me.

Deliberate discrimination, like a double-edged sword, can help or hurt people.

It solves the physical difficulties, but it may bring psychological disasters.

Indiscriminate treatment and equal treatment from the heart are the greatest kindness we can give to others.

When he needs it, he will clean it up in time and leave no trace. Just let him be himself quietly when he doesn't need it.

There is a little boy named Qiang Qiang in my daughter's class. He was born with a big red birthmark on his left cheek.

One day, Qiang Qiang had a conflict with another classmate in the class, and the teacher invited his parents. Both little guys are responsible and both need to apologize to each other.

The classmate's mother stood up first, pointed to her child and scolded: "Forget it! How can you bully even the strong? ! "He said he was holding his children to apologize to Qiang Qiang.

Students are not convinced, clamoring for strength and making mistakes. Why can't he apologize?

Qiang Qiang's mother was urging Qiang Qiang to admit her mistake, and her classmates and mothers waved their hands again and again: "Nothing! Nothing! Xx bullies you, go back to your aunt and tidy him up! "

The teacher explained that the two children did not give in to each other and there was a conflict. Neither side is deliberately provocative.

The classmate's mother shook her head: "It must be that XX bullied the strong first. How can a child like Qiang Qiang provoke him first? Hurry and apologize to Qiang Qiang! "

Qiang Qiang's mother stood in situ, looking at her angry classmates, at a loss.

On second thought, the self-righteous kindness of classmates' mothers is obviously accompanied by pity and sympathy, which is a beautified "discrimination".

Obviously, both sides are at fault, but psychological differences make classmates and mothers naturally think that their children bully the strong and put the strong in the position of the weak without thinking.

Qiang Qiang is excellent in homework, cheerful and as naughty as children of the same age. Strong mothers also have obvious rewards and punishments because of their strength, and they have not slackened off in education.

Mother and son don't feel different from others because of birthmarks, and they don't feel that they need extra preferential treatment for this. Besides, birthmarks have been treated and will get better one day.

The accommodation of classmates and mothers to the so-called "weak" broke their cognition that "we are no different from everyone" and clearly reminded them that you are different from everyone.

This kind of pity and sympathy without wisdom, instead of bringing any comfort, has become another kind of harm.

There was once a movie "Out of Reach", which told the story of a white rich man and a black man being employed.

Philip, a rich man, had an accident in a parachute jump, which made him paralyzed from the neck down and became a person who needed lifelong care.

Many applicants came after Philip advertised for high-tech personnel. When Philip's assistant was examining the candidates, "Why did you apply for this position?" Most people show sympathy and pity for Philip and want to pass on their love to Philip who has become a disabled person. There are also some people who are outspoken and aim at high salary.

The results of recruitment are very striking. Those who want to give love and those who only want money lose. In the end, the winner is a black Driss who has a drug abuse record, just got out of prison and has never had a serious career.

Everyone is confused about Philip's choice. Philip explained: "Because he has no pity and sympathy for me, he won't remind me that I am disabled."

Later, Driss did not let Philip down. He took Philip to race cars, date and dance. . . . . . Treat him like a normal person. This indiscriminate treatment made Philip regain his confidence and once again bloom the vitality of life. He took Driscoll to experience the skydiving he thought he would never touch again, and even finally entered the marriage hall smoothly.

When you openly express your pity to others, you are sending a message to others: you are a weak person.

Instead of expressing useless sympathy and pity to others, it is better to give them a heartfelt respect and treat them equally.

The real strong will be inspired by this heartfelt respect, gradually ignore their own shortcomings and become more and more diligent.

Those who have been sympathized and pitied for a long time will only hate their sense of powerlessness more and more and think that they can only appear as the weak in the future.

Please express your sympathy and compassion carefully, show respect to others and keep your heart warm.

We often encounter such a situation: in public places, children point to people who look a little different from us and naively ask him why he is different from us.

The parents who were asked blushed, threatened, covered their children's mouths and shouted "impolite"!

As a result, the child cried, which attracted more attention.

Children's words are not reckless, and it's really embarrassing to say them in person. In contrast, parents' furtive reaction may be more hurtful.

There is a phenomenon called "elephant in the room", which means that people deliberately ignore or deny obvious things. There is an elephant in the room, but everyone chooses not to see it.

Tourette's disease, birthmark, disability ... are all "elephants". If you choose to ignore it, the elephant will not disappear by itself. Only by facing up to the existence of elephants can we really accept them.

Everyone has some imperfections or defects more or less, and it is precisely because of them that this talent is different.

As my sister told Auggie in Miracle Boy, "If others look at you, let them. Because they are born differently, they are not destined to be submerged in the crowd. "

Others are different, which makes him different.

When children offend others, it is also a kind of high-level goodwill to accept others' differences frankly and apologize to each other politely, instead of covering up each other's differences in a hurry.

5.Lady Gaga sings in the song:

You have your own unique beauty, because God never makes mistakes.

You are beautiful in your own way, because God never makes mistakes.

May we add wisdom to kindness, be careful with compassion, achieve others with respect, and silently send a decent love.