If you lose your job, how can you support yourself?

"If you lose your job, how can you support yourself?"

When I typed this sentence, I was shocked. I'm surprised. I never know how to ask myself. Why? Why do you know how to think about this problem today? I felt a cold sweat for my own hindsight.

Some time ago, my cousin came to my house for more than ten days. Every morning, she goes to work early, comes back from work for dinner, and then lazily lies in bed playing with her mobile phone. Every day, she has a good time.

Of course, I am no stranger to such a scene. I know very well how relaxing and sweet it is to relax under the warm bed, watch TV series or chat with friends after a hard day.

Just looking at my cousin's input, I seem to see my own shadow: didn't I do the same before?

02

Friends who know me know that I run a Taobao shop, and I have been selling shoes on Taobao since 20 13. How's business? Of course, it was not bad at first, much better than working.

Most importantly, I found what I like to do: share what I like with others, and it is just right, which can earn me income from life, keep me warm and hungry, and have some savings.

Of course, there is something more important: it gives me independent time. I cherish the free time. I think it is precious and I like it very much, but in fact, how do I cherish it?

It used to be like this: I went to work every day, played by myself after work, watched TV dramas casually, or went shopping for dinner, and strolled happily after work.

Later, it was like this (full-time Taobao): find new styles, put them on shelves, sell shoes, deliver them, watch plays when you are free, or read and write on a whim.

However, everything is casual, just like some people describe me as writing. I can write whatever I want, without purpose or plan. Although I spent time and energy, it didn't work.

03

In this world, there is a kind of life that is planned:

When you are over 10, enjoy yourself and study hard.

When I was in my twenties, I made good friends and fell in love.

When you are in your thirties, manage your marriage well.

In my forties ...;

In my fifties ...;

When I was in my sixties ...; …

Well, every step of them seems to be perfectly planned, step by step, relaxed and quite rhythmic.

And I just don't belong to that kind of person. I don't have much planning for my life.

I always feel that the living environment, such as a house, doesn't matter even if it is rented, just warm and comfortable decoration;

It is enough to have enough food and clothing in life and diet.

It doesn't matter to me what brand, as long as the food is clean and hygienic and the clothes are clean and generous;

There are not many friends, as long as warmth is enough;

And I also call it: contentment, simplicity and simplicity.

I never thought, in case of any change one day, can I still maintain this state of life?

And some things happened recently, just like life gave me a hard slap in the face.

04

First, I spent some money on going to the hospital when I was unwell, and then Taobao's business got worse every day. Seeing that we opened a Taobao shop together, all my friends who are better than me abandoned the shop to do something else, and then I was persuaded by my friends.

"If there is really no business, there is no need to do it. Find a job and do it well. "

Yes, today is the time for Taobao to reshuffle, that is, "survival of the fittest." Strong people stay, and those who don't know how to operate have no place to stand.

Sometimes, if you want to let go, you have to let go, and you can go further if you can bend and stretch. But I am persistent, I don't give up until the last moment, and I don't despair until the last second.

Having said that, people still have to eat. If this road doesn't work, take the next one. When I unfreezed the Taobao deposit, I felt my whole heart was bleeding. My whole four years of hard work ended like this.

It is also equivalent to losing your job to survive and feeling suddenly in chaos. What will I support myself after that?

05

I asked myself:

What do I like to do?

what can I do?

what can I do?

But these questions make me embarrassed.

What do I like to do?-Can I do what I like?

I like writing, but it has been out of fashion for so long. When I desperately wrote three articles to adapt to a certain platform, but my income was only 2 yuan, I felt like crying. It seems impossible to support myself by writing, because I don't know where my problems are and how to solve them.

what can I do? What I can do is not what I like to do.

Once, I was in the bustling Zhuangyuanfang and Shangxiajiu. As a salesman recruited by the owner of Chaoshan clothing store, it is necessary to be proficient in business, "good eloquence, good image and excellent performance", and I have learned a lot from the owner of this store.

The problem is that the current retail entity market is not what it used to be, and it has withered a lot. Almost every store looks after its own stores, and I don't want to go back.

The shoe wholesale market is the same. I stayed there. I went to see the market the other day. It is no longer the prosperity of the past, and many shopkeepers have stopped doing it. And I, more reluctant to go back.

what can I do? -like to do, can't do it; Have the ability to do it, but don't want to do it. So, how can I support myself?

06

Now it's like 16-year-old me coming out of school, standing at the crossroads of my life, with only a few dozen pieces in my pocket and my eyes vacant.

But now, I am not 16 years old. After several years, the problem still exists. How can this not make people feel embarrassed and embarrassed?

The friend said, "How can you have no sense of crisis? Think about how many graduate students come out of school every year, but you are still standing still. Aren't you afraid? "

Yes, social competition is becoming more and more fierce. Younger, smarter and better people than you are entering this market.

And you, a person with only junior high school education, are not enterprising, muddle along and get older every day. Why should you compete with others? !

Thought of here, I feel the whole person is shaking.

07

My friend gave me advice: "Why not learn something?"

"learn what?" I asked.

"For example, a spaceship. There is an aunt in her fifties. In her spare time, she likes to weave some handicrafts and sell them on Taobao one day. I didn't expect them to be very popular. Later, because the business was too good, I couldn't catch up. Now I simply open a training class to teach others. "

"Wow, that's great," I said.

"What do you think is good to learn?"

"First of all, try to do what you like. If not, choose something else. It's not bad to learn manicure On the contrary, it is better to have a skill, because you don't know when your job will be lost, but the skills you have learned will always be yours, and you can live on it. "

A word awakened the dreamer, "Oh, why didn't I think of that?" I patted my head to show my annoyance.

Then I asked myself in my mind: What do I like? Besides writing, don't I like psychology and philosophy very much?

08

I remember that when I was 18 years old, I listened to Radio Television Hong Kong almost every day in Shenzhen, and later formed a habit. After I arrived in Guangzhou, I found a very clever hostess, her name is Qiu Jing, and I like her programs very much. From her mouth, I learned about Zhou, Nietzsche, Freud, Socrates and other celebrities.

Gradually influenced by her, I also like people, like to study people's psychology or think about some philosophical problems.

Every time I have a heart-to-heart talk with my friends, I am good at listening attentively and quietly, understanding the psychology behind every sentence with my heart, giving an understanding and affirmative look in time, and sometimes helping to analyze problems and give a more objective view. My friends joked that I was "the second Qiu Jing".

However, jokes are jokes, so forget it. Although I was very interested in these at that time, I never thought about really contacting and learning.

Time passed in the blink of an eye, and I still stayed at the level of more interest. If I had known how to work and study, I might have written a different article today.

A few days ago, I finished reading Mao Mu's The Moon and Sixpence. His writing techniques also use psychological knowledge for analysis, so that people can gain knowledge after reading the story. I think this is very worth learning.

Moreover, learning psychology well can also be regarded as a career, and it should not be a problem to support yourself.

09

So, is it too late for me to start now?

I don't think so, because the life pressure of modern people is getting bigger and bigger. Studying psychology can help yourself and others. Besides, if you like it, you will have more energy to do it. Whether you can learn well is another matter, at least every day.

I think that no matter what you learn, you must first build on your "like", so that even if you work hard, even if you don't succeed in learning in the end, you will be happy to learn, but at least you are happy in the process.

I heard from a friend that someone has been making shoes for 10 years, but because of the relatively low market economy, he doesn't want to make shoes anymore, but he finds that he can do nothing but make shoes, so he has to struggle.

So no matter what environment or position you are in, whether you are a boss, a civil servant or a job, it is really necessary to learn something after work.

Because no one will know what will happen tomorrow, whether the job you have been living on will be lost overnight, and if you really lose that job, you can still easily find the next one for yourself.

10

The world has changed so much that we can grasp too little.

Set aside some time for yourself every day to learn a skill, so that you will become more valuable after work.

Then in the event of a storm, you can arrange yourself properly, so as not to be at a loss and helpless.

PS: Actually, this is a relatively failed example, but if we learn from it, learn lessons and share experiences, I think this failure will be valuable.

Therefore, I have the cheek to share with you, hoping that everyone can gain something and grow. We may not be perfect, but we can try to be a complete self.

Come on, for you and for myself. Please share it with your friends if you like it. Thank you.