25 years old, why am I so anxious?

Time flies like water. Blink of an eye, I have graduated for two years. Two years ago, I left the campus for the first time and stepped into the society like a chick. After economic independence, I am very novel about everything and want to try everything.

Just entered the company, dreaming of being a senior accountant in the future, with great ambitions to do something big, and plunged into the post of general ledger. Extremely enthusiastic, facing difficulties, joining the company's youth league Committee and organizing various activities can be described as a boom.

I didn't stop after work. I got paid to buy a guitar and signed up for class to make up for my little regret at school. Occasionally, I have dinner with new friends, sing songs and watch movies. Life is wonderful.

But all good things must come to an end. New colleagues have become old colleagues, each with his own future, and all his good friends have left the city, leaving me alone. In this foreign city, I suddenly feel extremely lonely. Eating and entertainment alone are put on hold because there is no one to accompany me. Loneliness is accompanied by great anxiety.

Unconsciously, I was 25 years old and suddenly found myself with nothing but tens of thousands of deposits in the past two years. However, my friends around me are concerned about my career and family, and graduate students have signed high-paying jobs, but I am single, my career is not smooth, my feelings are blank, and I am overwhelmed by great anxiety, and I don't know where the road ahead is.

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In fact, every stage of life has its own anxiety. When I was a child, I was anxious about not having delicious snacks and interesting toys. At school, I was anxious about my homework and academic performance. When I was in college, I was anxious about my future job. When I was working, I had new anxiety.

But why are there these anxieties?

Before graduation, I took the CPA exam, and after work, I became financially independent, and the outside world ate, drank and had fun. I forgot to confirm the exam information for a long time, and suddenly realized that it was two hours after the confirmation deadline, and nothing changed except crying to ease my guilt. The next year, I made up my mind to work hard, and I was sure to get into the exam, and bought a bunch of reference materials. However, the exam is approaching, but I haven't even finished reading the first chapter.

It just means that you have a good interest in learning. You signed up for three or four lessons of guitar practice and never went to class again. You bought a soft-pen calligraphy practice and wrote two or three words, but you haven't touched the guzheng since you signed up for class. You pay attention to oral English practice, play a few cards, and you will be silent. PPT courses purchased online and oral English improvement classes purchased by APP. ..........................................................................

There is no such plan. Draw a stroke here and a piece there. Of course, it is vacant and anxious.

After all, a seemingly wonderful life is just a waste of time. A little taste can't bring self-improvement. People who have no progress will only be full of anxiety in the face of the ever-changing social reality.

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So how to relieve anxiety?

1. Clear self-awareness and clear future planning.

Colleague Xiao B feels that there is no development prospect after managing the list for two years. She pursues a job that is close to home and doesn't have to work overtime, even if the salary is low, it is not bad to be idle. I resigned decisively and found a primary school near my home to teach English. Since then, I have had weekends and winter and summer vacations, and I am satisfied.

Colleague Xiao C entered the company to develop customers aimlessly, doing nothing every day, and knowing nothing about business processes and foreign trade practices. A blank sheet of paper seems to be a fresh graduate. She didn't think it would work, so she started looking for a new job and joined a toy production company. She is too busy to touch the ground every day. After only four months, she was able to operate the order independently, and she also quit relying on her mobile phone.

Personally, because I know that my future development direction is the financial field, and my professional knowledge has not been contacted for a long time, my future planning is divided into two steps: one is to study every day, concentrate on obtaining the certificate of certified public accountant, set goals and organize relevant knowledge. The second is to understand the market recruitment information, at the same time improve their ability to get close to it, and at the same time seize the opportunity to fight for it.

When you are at a loss and anxious, calm down and re-recognize yourself, whether the work is no longer challenging or you have not found the right direction. Seriously think about what you want to do, what kind of person you want to be, and use the reverse method to motivate yourself.

To put it simply, you like a bulging wallet, so you should plan your assets reasonably, save regularly every month, and increase revenue and reduce expenditure; If you want to perform a guzheng at next year's annual meeting, you should practice it every day from now on. If you want to succeed in your career, you must first find the right direction, make a five-year career plan for yourself, and then force yourself now.

2. The courage to do it and the belief to persist.

After my colleague entered the foreign trade industry, he felt that these complicated things were beyond his power, so he began to prepare application materials while taking the IELTS test and prepared to go abroad for postgraduate study. Work during the day and prepare for the exam at night. I cancelled all entertainment activities and studied behind closed doors. I successfully obtained the application of IELTS to the school in half a year, and now I have started my career as an international student in the UK.

Colleague Xiao D is determined to be an excellent foreign trade salesman. She was conscientious when she entered the company, and she was meticulous in everything the leaders told her. She never complains when she works overtime. She can learn everything, and soon stands out from the new group. She followed her leaders on business trips to visit customers in Hong Kong, to receive guests in factories in Southeast Asia, and to attend exhibitions in Europe. She is very chic and wonderful in the circle of friends. Although no one knows the loneliness of fighting alone in the middle of the night, the injustice of being scolded for countless unexpected problems, and the discomfort of being on a business trip, now there is no persistence and no excitement.

"If you don't accumulate steps, how can you take Wan Li Road?" No one can succeed without perseverance. Facing the thick notebook, I know in my heart that this is a long-term struggle, and there will be difficulties and obstacles on this road, but I have made up my mind and will not give up easily. "Since I chose a distant place, I only care about the hardships!"

3. Look for excellent companions and like-minded circles.

A person behind closed doors, it is inevitable that there will be times when they can't persist, and some excellent companions and excellent circles can give themselves great encouragement and help at this time. A newly written article was posted online, but from time to time, I clicked on the details of the article, but it showed that no one read it, which greatly affected my enthusiasm, seriously reduced my desire to write, and even stopped writing again and again.

However, when you are in a like-minded circle, the situation will be very different. Although the writing style is immature, kind group friends not only praise, but also make comments and put forward suggestions for improvement to help them make progress. Writing at this time is not a burden, nor will it be boring. On the contrary, it will stimulate the desire to write in mutual evaluation and greatly enhance the sense of accomplishment. This is the power of excellent companions and like-minded circles.

A person walks faster, and a group of people go further! Since joining the Xue Mei Writing Exchange Group, I have bravely taken the first step from reading and writing. Every experience sharing, mutual comment and encouragement of group friends is a great help. A group of people who have never met before, but feel extremely close.

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"Don't wait for leisure, it's sad for nothing." The long river of time will not stay for anyone. When we realize anxiety, don't feel sorry for yourself, don't complain about others, and face it squarely! Get over it!

Stupid people always regret yesterday and pray for tomorrow, but unfortunately miss today's efforts. May each of us act in accordance with our words and deeds, seize the day, and act from now on to eliminate anxiety in the bud!

Written at the end: Thanks to Sister Xue Mei's comments, and thanks to the friends in the group for their suggestions. If you have any suggestions for the article, you can leave a message. Please feel free to comment. Thank you!