"I love this lively life." Ordinary love and worldly affairs are trivial truths and happy lives!

After reading "I love this lively life", I like a sentence in the book very much: "All good things are hidden in the gap of time, so that life can be a place where light comes in!"

Mr Ye Guangqin talks about life in a relaxed tone. In these ordinary and trivial days, we have seen the colorful life of Mr. Ye Guangqin.

What should life be like? In fact, it should be said: what is life like for us!

Teacher Ye Guangqin has unfolded a vivid picture of life for us with simple and simple words. In this life, everyone is an indispensable part.

What do we feel through this book? What have we learned?

One: Life is a one-way street with no return trip, and we are all brave people who try to walk on this route! No matter what happens, it is hard to go on bravely.

Every choice in life is actually a positive attack on life. Life is like a kaleidoscope, which always surprises us inadvertently.

When Ye Guangqin knew she was pregnant, she didn't flinch because she was an elderly primipara. She was not afraid of the unknown difficulties and obstacles, and finally bravely waited for the arrival of the child.

In the process of waiting, Mr. Ye Guangqin experienced too much pain and hardship!

First of all, the joy and pain of being a new mother!

The joy of being a mother for the first time is always replaced by helplessness and pain without warning! As an elderly primipara, Teacher Ye Guangqin felt deeply painful. Every expectant mother is looking forward to the arrival of the baby and enduring the hardships brought by pregnancy.

Writer Lu Xun said: "Mother is great!"

How many mothers pay not only hard work for their children, but also the pleasure of passing death at any time.

In the book, Mr. Ye Guangqin returned to his birthplace by train alone for the smooth birth of his child.

Another person worked hard to apply for a temporary account and finally decided to make his own decision by the way. All this is a mother's contribution, and these contributions are unilateral acts that don't need to be repaid.

This reminds me of the report I read.

On 20 16, Fu in Hukou, Jiujiang was found pregnant soon after she got married. In order to leave a healthy child, she stopped the treatment of left scapular sarcoma.

When she was seven or eight months pregnant, she felt unwell. She insisted on continuing her pregnancy and finally left a healthy daughter. Because she missed the treatment time, the cancer cells metastasized to the lungs and spread throughout the body. In the days when she was waiting to die, her husband left her and did not show up.

Just before her death, she signed an organ donation agreement.

Finally, she left a letter and a paragraph for the child: "I'm sorry, my child." I wasn't there when you were growing up. It's no use saying sorry. I want to say that I love you and I hope you will come safely. Now that you are in this world, enjoy it! Although you are helpless without your mother, you still have grandparents and dad, who can grow up with you. I hope you can live happily and grow up happily! "

A mother gave up the chance to live, just to feel life for her daughter in her belly.

The story is sad, but Fu optimistically left her hope to her daughter.

The suffering of life did not make this woman's scarred heart lose its light, but she still gave the light of life to her daughter!

Secondly, parents' desire to "expect their children to succeed" collides fiercely with their children's wishes!

Parents always want to give all the good things to their children, but children face the "baby" in the eyes of these parents, but they reject and refuse.

Teacher Ye Guangqin and his lover are both successful intellectuals and representatives of China's traditional thought.

In the education of his daughter, he suffered "rollover" many times. Gu Dayu's small means and inner ideal resistance made the couple and Gu Dayu's grandfather suffer a lot.

This is not the pain of a family. In China, this situation is a pain point for most families.

Since ancient times, China people's idea of "wishing children success" has been closely linked with children's growth. It is undeniable that what parents give their children is mostly the essence of dross. But there is a very realistic question: What do children need?

Children's growth can refer to others, but they should not be copied to live!

Astrid Lindgren, a Swedish children's literature writer, said: "It is true that children need discipline and guidance, but if they are under discipline and guidance all the time, it is impossible to learn self-control and self-guidance."

Every child is a unique individual, and they all have distinct personal characteristics.

As a parent, I am always entangled: Do you want to educate and discipline like so-and-so? Or let children learn to explore by themselves in a relaxed atmosphere?

This question is actually very difficult. We will always be affected by the surrounding environment, and we will hesitate, because we are not sure what impact this will have.

Many times it's not that parents don't know what to do, but that parents don't really know their children, so they don't know what they want.

I also have such anxiety and entanglement, because there are too many hard-working parents around me, as busy as bees, who have broken their hearts for their children's study.

All these make me feel that if I don't work hard, my children will be eliminated. But if we work too hard, do children still need to think and work hard?

Two: Life is often sailing against the current. You should have a strong and brave heart and learn to see the scenery along the way in the wind and rain!

A person's life is a state of ups and downs, there is no hurdle to get through, only a heart that can't get out!

Teacher Ye Guangqin explained the ups and downs of life with her delicate and full words.

These pictures displayed in front of readers make you want to laugh when you are happy and feel strong and optimistic when you are in pain!

When you gain something, you feel happy from the heart, and when you lose it, you find that what you cling to can be put down indifferently!

The first time I met the singer Huang Qishan, I attended the song of I am a singer.

When the 46-year-old middle-aged woman turned on her voice, I was moved by her rich and beautiful singing.

I'm curious about this woman. A person with a completely different singing voice and appearance makes people curious about her. I was deeply impressed by her profile. What will two marriages bring to a woman?

199 1 year, Huang Qishan met and married Tu Huiyuan. From 65438 to 0996, Huang Qishan and Tu Huiyuan divorced because of different musical concepts.

On 20 13, Huang Qishan married her music director Zhang Ying (Zhang Wenzhong). On 20 16, Huang Qishan divorced Zhang Ying.

I was lucky enough to hear her sing again when "Classic Ode" was broadcast.

I like her song "calm the storm, don't listen to the leaves in the forest" best. Every lyric seems to see the transformation of a woman.

After singing the song, she said, "Life is high and low, expensive and cheap. You should thank your past glory and your past sufferings. It is this patchwork of life that makes you more beautiful today. "

Life will always go through many twists and turns. During this journey, we will meet spring, wander in summer, harvest the richness of autumn and experience the cold of winter.

This life, which changes all year round, will not stay in a certain season all the time. But if we can't learn to forget the pain in happiness and the happiness in pain, then life will stay endlessly in the season that destroys you!

Japanese cartoonist Miyazaki Hayao once said:

"Growth is a transaction, and we all exchange simple innocence and impersonal whiteness for the courage to grow up."

When the TV series "Do you know if it should be green, fat, red and thin" was broadcast, I spent two days brushing the drama and watching the heroine's prosperous life at the end of the drama, which suddenly made me understand a truth: life can be countered, but you need to recognize your situation, accept the cost of growth and take every step bravely!

Mother Lin Xiaoniang said to her before she died: "As long as you remember one sentence, everything is alive!"

Sheng realized that life was not easy at the expense of his mother's death and began to keep a low profile. However, in this growing process, she will still do what she wants to do, protect herself and make friends with each other.

Growth is a process of interweaving pain and happiness. In this inevitable and hopeless process, be a person who can "take pleasure in suffering" and "find a rainbow in the cracks"!

Three: All the suffering and beauty of life will eventually be submerged in the long river of time. What we can do is to cherish it when we have it and keep an indifferent heart when we lose it!

Mr. Ye Guangqin was born after Ye He Na's Lahu. When Mr. Ye returned to Beijing to have a baby, he walked west along the hutong of the Opera House every day, brushed the south wall of the Yonghe Palace, walked back to the big archway of imperial academy in Chengxian Street, and finally went home from Berlin Temple.

This time of walking all the way is a leisurely scenery for others, but for Teacher Ye, it is a memory of our ancestors.

All the glorious years have disappeared in the long river of history.

Although Mr Ye Guangqin can't continue to live in the splendor of imperial power like his ancestors, he is also unique.

Life is a one-way street, a movie that can't be replayed. We can cherish the memory of past achievements and bask in the glory of the past from time to time, but we can't immerse ourselves in the past.

You often ask: Who am I? Why am I not someone?

Do you envy others' lives and want to copy others' life experiences?

I want to say don't do this, the uniqueness of life lies in: it is the truest image of an individual!

I like the stories shared by teacher Ye Guangqin in this book, especially about Gu Dayu's growing experience and educational experience.

Through this book, I can't help but reflect on some phenomena today.

Phenomenon 1: study abroad craze!

When I was in high school, I first faced the problem of studying abroad. I don't know if it was a craze at that time. Many parents ran around to apply for visas for their children and so on.

My mother's aunt's son is one year older than me, and my uncle went to study after the college entrance examination. Now Peng Ge has stayed in Germany, and his major is also his favorite automobile manufacturing.

Brother Peng is a good one. After all, he is old enough to cope with life and study alone.

However, when studying abroad becomes popular, international students are getting younger and younger.

I can't be an American, and I have long forgotten what it's like to be from China. "

This is the line of the TV series "Beijingers in new york" in the 1990s, which tells how many people yearn for foreign countries.

As well as the anxiety and loss abroad at that time, today's international students also feel such anxiety.

A 20 19 Survey Report on the Employability of Returnees for New Graduates jointly released by Kai Tak Education and Carefree Future and Job Search Network shows that:

Since 2008, the average growth rate of the number of returned overseas students in China has been 24% in the past decade. In 20 18, the total number of overseas students in China reached 662 1000, and the number of returned students reached 5 19000.

These returnees have encountered employment embarrassment. First of all, the employment recruitment time in China is different from the graduation time of foreign universities.

Secondly, after the college entrance examination in China, the rate of entering universities has increased, which makes the employment rate of graduates saturated. Enterprises have higher requirements for graduates' actual combat ability. Relatively speaking, the advantages of returnees are not as good as a few years ago.

Therefore, it is not advisable for parents to let their children study abroad blindly. Moreover, because the quality of international students is uneven, foreign universities relax the admission system in order to attract domestic students, and the gold content of graduation certificates has shrunk dramatically.

Zheng Qing Guan Ying said in "Warning in the Prosperous Age": "There are different categories; Teach students in accordance with their aptitude. "

Educating children should be based on their specific situation, rather than following the trend, and look at the superficial phenomenon, so that many children will eventually fall into the embarrassing situation of "unable to get up and down".

Phenomenon 2: make up lessons!

Nowadays, no matter at the school gate or waiting for the children to finish class outside the make-up class, the topic that parents talk about is: How much did your child get in this exam? Did you score? This piece doesn't seem to work. We need a better teacher. ...

Now children's parents are more tired than children, and the competition between parents makes children very tired.

Really tired, whether it's primary school or students facing the senior high school entrance examination. There are too few students who have not enrolled in the cram school.

There are two kinds of people who don't report to class now: students who are basically "mixed" in their studies, and those whose families are financially strapped and can't afford high tuition fees.

Parents and teachers are keen on making up lessons, just like the "theatrical effect" of watching movies in the cinema. Originally, it was an easy learning process, but it paid a higher price because of blindly following the trend.

Erik Erikson, an American psychologist, once pointed out that school-age children are in two important stages of their lives:

In the first stage, children are in a period when their self-concept is gradually formed, and the external environment will affect their self-esteem. Making up lessons will make your child lose self-confidence, and he will subconsciously think that he is inferior to others, thus making his child feel inferior.

The second stage is the establishment of their social roles, and children will think about life strategies in the past accumulated experience. However, parents sign up for various cram schools regardless of whether their children are willing or not, which leads to their children being confused about their past efforts. Because a period of hard work has not achieved good results, it will cause their rebellious psychology, leading to withdrawn personality and bad temper.

It's not absolutely bad to make up lessons, but it depends. Children should not be passively instilled with knowledge, and they will get bored in such endless learning, thus rejecting learning.

Life is like walking. When you are tired, you have a rest. Give life a chance to choose itself, instead of being dragged forward by a rope.

As Teacher Ye Guangqin said in the book: Fireworks are common and rare in life! And we are all ordinary people who live by these fireworks.

If we calm down, we will feel the joy of being a toddler, the excitement of distinguishing right from wrong for the first time, and the aftertaste of the years after we get old. These fragmentary life footprints are happiness!

Finally, I want to give you the words of Ye Guangqin: May every ordinary and ordinary day be full of infinite fun and spend many minutes and seconds!