Why do former classmates have little contact with the present?

I remember when I graduated from high school, when the internet was not very developed, my classmates all liked to send cards or notebooks to each other and write some greetings as a souvenir.

When I graduated from college, I became a group photo, a souvenir and a QQ number for future contact.

Whether graduating from high school or college, everyone waved goodbye to the classmates who had been classmates for several years with joy and reluctance. Before embarking on their respective paths, don't forget Doby and tell each other:

Go to your school to play with you during the holiday!

Get rich, don't forget your old classmates!

Remember to treat me to a wedding banquet when you get married!

Looking back, those good old days flashed in front of my eyes like movie clips and were printed in my mind.

Those innocent and sincere classmates' feelings in the past still make people feel warm and grateful.

Appreciate meeting and company.

Unconsciously, I graduated from college for fifteen years and high school for twenty years. The former classmate, who is now nearly 40 years old, has faded from childishness and contracted vicissitudes.

Looking back suddenly, I vaguely remember the past vows and previous agreements. However, it has not been fulfilled after all, and the beauty of the past will always be fixed in that distant memory.

Is it wrong to pay for the old love, or to disappoint the old love and youth?

Is it wishful thinking or perfunctory?

Neither.

However, with the passage of time, the passion is gone. Everyone is in a hurry, busy running around in their own lives, choosing the focus of their struggle and changing the direction of their efforts.

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Looking back on the days in the ivory tower, there was no pressure to support the family and educate the children, only academic tension; There is no interpersonal relationship of intrigue and intrigue, only a competitive relationship of mutual encouragement and common progress.

Everything is so pure and simple.

However, all good things must come to an end, and good days are always short-lived.

After graduation, we will go our separate ways.

After entering the society, with the influence of the surrounding environment and the growth of age, everyone is unconsciously changing:

People who used to be cynical began to obey the rules of society more and more;

People who didn't care so much about money before began to feel the importance of money;

It has been said that distance produces beautiful couples, and they are being tested by long-distance love;

Occasionally, one day, I was surprised to find that my parents were old and began to feel guilty.

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Some problems that have never been considered in my school days are slowly becoming reality, waiting to be faced and solved, which makes people unprepared:

Be prepared to find the other half of life;

We should strive for promotion, work overtime to earn money, buy a house and get married;

Save money to send children to school;

I want to take care of my parents and parents-in-law.

The pressure is slowly coming, which makes people unprepared.

Lin Zhi is a small factory owner. In the eyes of others, he has his own career. Compared with those office workers who work from nine to five, he seems to have free time and abundant economy.

Several times high school students invited Lin Zhi to drink and eat, but he said he was not available.

Once and twice, the students really didn't say anything. More times, the students said that he deliberately lost face and looked down on them.

In fact, only Lin Zhi knows that he is not more relaxed than those students who are mixed in the workplace, and even feels that he can't stand it for several times and almost wants to give up.

However, no one understood his pain.

Every day, he has to consider not only equipment procurement, personnel recruitment, customer resources, order supply, supplier inspection, but also employee social security, factory rent, utilities and so on.

Every day, I feel that time is not enough, eating and sleeping are not practical, and my hair is sparse. Relatives also complain that they spend too little time with their families.

There will never be real empathy, only grit your teeth and move on alone.

What's more, accidents may knock at the door at any time.

Colleague Xiao Xia's second child was born six months ago, and her father was diagnosed with lung cancer. Too late to be sad, she began to worry about the next medical expenses.

The monthly mortgage at home is five or six thousand yuan, the car loan is three thousand yuan, and the eldest daughter kindergarten is nearly three thousand yuan a month. The economic pressure at home is already great, and the sudden medical expenses of more than 200,000 yuan have doubled the pressure on the couple.

Fortunately, there are three brothers and sisters in Xiao Xia, and they can share the expenses equally. In addition, she can get interest-free loans in installments because of this disease, which makes her feel a little comforted.

As luck would have it, this year, Xiao Xia was invited to a party for the 10th anniversary of his graduation from university.

As you can imagine, Xiao Xia can't be in the mood to go. Besides, going back to school, the round-trip fare is also a big expense. At this time, the only thing to do is.

Xiao Xia's three brothers and sisters tried their best to treat their father, but they never overcame the disease. Two and a half years later, my father died.

Then one day, Xiao Xia told his classmates the reason why he didn't attend the party. He said that if there were no accidents at home, he really wanted to attend, meet his classmates and go back to his alma mater.

After all, life has several decades.

The moment I graduated, it was like a watershed in my life.

It seems that I was still on campus yesterday, carefree; It is difficult to step into society nowadays.

Because survival is not easy, so the study career is precious. Because bosom friends are hard to find, the friendship of classmates is precious.

Therefore, we should cherish our student days, study hard when we should study, and make friends bravely.

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With the change of age, everyone's life circle is also changing.

When I was a child, my closest friends were my parents, brothers and sisters, relatives and friends. This is the most carefree day in my memory.

When I was a student, my classmates and teachers spent the most time together. What everyone cares about and talks about is study and grades.

After marriage, friends, family, colleagues and customers come and go, and the content of chatting with each other becomes parents, partners, children, house, car, income and work.

The pace of life is rushing forward, and no one can stop. Childhood and student days soon became the past tense of life, and everyone was greeted by a busy and long working life.

Those who have appeared in life are more or less difficult to have an intersection and become bosom friends. Instead, it will be accompanied by family members and unpredictable colleagues in the future.

Fang Cheng works in a second-tier city. He is an ordinary employee of a company with an average income. But the house was bought early, and there is a small three-bedroom apartment of about 90 square meters, which is still in the monthly payment. I also bought a scooter, and I can get by with my children.

One day, Fang Cheng was told to attend the ten-year reunion of college students. He didn't think much. He thought it was time to get together to commemorate his graduation for ten years, so he attended with great expectation.

Originally thought, classmates and friends I haven't seen for years, everyone will definitely relive those warm times on campus together:

Which male classmate likes which female classmate, who plays the ball well, who plays the game well, who has the best professional performance and so on.

But the final reunion was not what Fang Cheng thought at all. We are talking about who has taken a multi-million-dollar project, who has invested in a suite, who has changed to a luxury car, and whose children are in an international school. The tuition fee is more than 100,000 yuan a year.

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Fang Cheng was also asked about his monthly salary, how many suites he bought, what brand of car he had, and so on, so he could only say hello.

Let's push for a change. On the surface, it's talking and laughing, but in fact it's comparing and showing off. Some business-related students even make friends and make friends.

Imaginary reunion has changed from "reunion" and "exchange meeting" to "comparison meeting", "showing off wealth" and "harmony meeting"

Faced with this reunion, Fang Cheng was a little embarrassed and disgusted, and once regretted coming to this reunion.

Yes, ten years after graduation, which is not short, is not enough to open the distance between people.

Those who mix well, have money, status and power, drive luxury cars, live in luxury houses, go in and out of high-end hotels, and have a double harvest in family and business.

I live a good life, but I often worry about mortgage, car loan, children's tuition and so on.

To make matters worse, starting a business is bankrupt and in debt, single, unmarried, divorced and raising children alone.

As the saying goes:

Nothing is unchangeable. The only constant in the world is change.

After graduation, my former classmates no longer live in the same environment or develop in the same industry. Naturally, they care about different things and pursue different things. What's more, different personal opportunities and differences in quality of life are inevitable.

A former classmate became a familiar stranger.

As the saying goes, no common cause, no common goal.

Different circles doomed former classmates to go further and further.

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People often have a strange feature:

When you make a fool of yourself or encounter unpleasant things, you would rather be seen by strangers around you than known by familiar people.

Because I am unfamiliar, I am not afraid to show my wounds to strangers even if I am injured.

Because I know, I understand, and I'm afraid of secondary injury. Afraid of being laughed at, ridiculed or cared about by classmates or friends.

Akin resigned ten years ago and started a factory to make mobile phone accessories. With the saturation of the mobile phone market and the withdrawal of low-end mobile phones, seven years ago, the factory made ends meet. Ah Jin failed to start a business and owed one or two million.

Considering the survival difficulties of the small factory, coupled with his wife's constant complaints and lack of support for starting a business, A Jincan has to rejoin the workplace and behave himself.

However, the salary of this job is limited and fixed. For the debt owed and high interest, the income from this job is undoubtedly a drop in the bucket.

Great economic pressure and life pressure lead to frequent quarrels between Ah Jin and his wife. To this end, Akin lives a particularly anxious life every day.

As luck would have it, this year is the 15th year for Ajin University to graduate. The students organized a party near the school and visited the campus together.

Ah Jin recalled the party ten years ago. The students showed off, compared with others, made friends and clung to each other intentionally or unintentionally, but it was not too bad at that time, and they felt fine.

Now that five years have passed, the gap between classmates should have widened a lot, and I think that I am so down and out now, and I am worried that if I leave, there will be no language to chat with you. In case people ask themselves what they have been doing and how they have been doing in recent years, what should they answer?

Reasoning, Ah Kin can only make up an excuse with the old class leader who organized the party not to attend the party, and put it off again and again.

Life has ups and downs, high and low, which is normal, and often your inner self-esteem is at work.

In the face of adversity and suffering, it is necessary to cultivate a strong heart to resist all kinds of external voices.

Whether it's questioning, attacking, mocking or satirizing, stick to your own path and believe that after the storm, you will see the rainbow.

Write at the end:

Correctly look at the differences between classmates and take off the burden to attend the meeting.

After graduation, due to the differences in family background, living environment and personal opportunities, the differences between former classmates are inevitable. Homecoming is an important way to establish and maintain interpersonal networks, so it is unnecessary for people who are afraid of partying to avoid homecoming because of the psychological gap caused by poor material living conditions. The most important thing is to adjust your personal mentality and go to the meeting easily. Look at the life differences between classmates with a normal heart, tap their own advantages, and seek and pursue personal happiness.

In addition, the inferiority and jealousy caused by the fear of gathering people, if properly used, can also be transformed into the power of transcendence and success, spur progress and get a better life.