How do I get out of the blind spot of my interpersonal relationship and where will I go?

how can we find the similarities between ourselves and strangers?

1. Look at the face and look for the reasons of the same stranger.

A person's mental state, spiritual pursuit, hobbies, etc. all have to be more or less expressed in their expressions, clothes, speech, manners and so on. As long as you are good at observing, you will find that you have the same points. A veteran met a stranger, right behind the driver. The car broke down soon after it hit the road, and the driver was busy getting on and off the bus and it was still not repaired. The stranger suggested that the driver should check the oil circuit again, and the driver would go through it with suspicion and found the cause. The veteran feels that his unique skill may have been learned from the army. So he tried, "Have you been in the army?" "Well, six or seven years." "Oh, we should be comrades in arms. Where were your troops when you were a soldier? " ...... So the strangers started talking, and it is said that they became friends later. And this is after observing each other, I found that I have been a soldier. This * * * is the same. Of course, this discovery must be combined with your own hobbies, and you are interested in it, so it is possible to break the silent atmosphere. Otherwise, even if we find similarities, we will still have nothing to say, or get stuck after a sentence or two.

2. Try exploring with words, and scout the same points.

In order to break this silence, it is first for two strangers to speak. Some people begin with greeting, asking about each other's place of origin and identity, and getting information from it. Some people spy on each other by listening to their accents and words; Some start with actions, while helping each other do something that is in urgent need of help, while trying to explore with words; Some even smoke by fire, and they can find each other's characteristics and open up the situation of oral communication. Two chronologists got on the bus from a county seat and sat on a bench. One of them asked the other, "Where do I get off?" "After all, what about you?" "Me too. Where did you go to Nanjing?" "I went to a relative's house in Shanxi Road, Nanjing on business. Are you from here?" "No, I'm visiting relatives from Nanjing." After the "fire reconnaissance" of both sides, it is clear that both sides are familiar with the county seat and Nanjing, and they are all relatives. After two people found each other's similarities, they talked very much and invited each other to be guests after getting off the bus. This harmonious effect seems to be accidental, but in fact it also has its inevitable cause: "fire reconnaissance", the discovery of the same point, the effect of tunneling to Shenzhen Special Economic Zone.

3, listen to people's introduction, guess the same point.

when you visit a friend's house and meet a stranger present, as a host who is familiar with both, you will immediately introduce them to both sides, explaining the relationship between the two sides and their hosts, their respective identities, work units, and even personality characteristics, hobbies, etc. A careful person can immediately find out what the other side has in common with himself from the introduction. One is the chief of the county price bureau and a teacher in the "county". They met at a friend's house. The host introduced the strangers. They immediately found that they were all classmates of the host. They immediately talked around the breakthrough of "classmates", got to know each other and became intimate. It is important to analyze and know each other carefully when listening to the introduction, and then extend it in the conversation after discovering the similarities, and constantly discover new topics of common concern.

4, ponder the conversation and explore the similarities.

In order to find the similarities between strangers and themselves, you can pay attention to analyze and ponder when people who need communication talk with others, and you can also ponder each other's words when they talk with yourself, so as to find the similarities. In a department store in Guangzhou, a man in the South China Sea Fleet said to the waiter, "Please show me that thing." He also said "I" was an authentic northern Jiangsu dialect that could not be found in the dictionary. The other is also from Su Beiren, serving in an army unit in Guangzhou. After listening to the former sentence, I also pointed to a commodity on the shelf and said the same thing to the shop assistant. The words between the lines permeated the local flavor of northern Jiangsu, which made the two strangers smile at each other, bought what they wanted, and talked when they left the store. They asked the troops from their hometown, talked about the road they had traveled in the past few years from the current task, and introduced their future plans. The intimacy of a pair of fellow villagers on the edge of a foreign land will never be believed by unsuspecting people because they try to figure out each other's hometown dialect. It can be seen that carefully pondering each other's conversation can really make strange passers-by become acquaintances and develop into friends by finding out the similarities between the two sides.

5, step by step, dig * * * similarities.

it's not too difficult to find * * * similarities, but it can only be needed in the initial stage of conversation. With the deepening of the conversation, there will be more and more similarities. In order to make the conversation more beneficial to each other, we must dig deeper similarities step by step to get what we want. A college student on vacation and a comrade who works in the court had dinner at a friend's house. After being introduced by the host, the stranger started talking. Slowly, both of them found that they had the same views on unhealthy trends in society, and unconsciously discussed them. They talked about the soil and roots of the outrageous social phenomena, the role of democracy and the legal system, and the expectations of the party and the country. The more we talk, the deeper we talk, the shorter the distance between the two sides, and the more we talk about the similarities between the two sides. Afterwards, both sides agreed that this conversation was beneficial to college students' understanding of society, to court comrades' understanding of outside information and the demands of the masses, and to enhance their consciousness of trying their best to correct unhealthy trends.

There are many ways to find similarities, such as the living environment, work tasks, travel directions and living habits of strangers. As long as you find out carefully, it is not difficult to break the situation that strangers have nothing to say.

answer to question 2;

confident.

(I will give a detailed answer when I have time)

Answer the third question;

what is the definition of girlfriend?

A girlfriend is the one who tries her best to make you happy when you are angry, and would rather do everything she could not do for your happiness.

A girlfriend is someone who engraves your promise in her heart, but still keeps asking you with bitterness and never regrets.

A girlfriend is the person who counts the footprints of raindrops with you in the wind and rain, and then seriously says "Don't do it next time" for your health.

A girlfriend is someone who loves you forever but refuses to express it anyway.

A girlfriend is the person who paints your picture and writes your poem with colorful words under the whirling light.

A girlfriend is the person who lets you gently shoulder her on the road, walks at the same pace as you, and lets affectionate footprints be engraved on your heart everywhere.

A girlfriend is someone who is always worried that she is not beautiful or cute enough in front of you.

A girlfriend is the one who keeps reminding you not to be late for work in bed, but can't help but wet your back with tears.

A girlfriend is someone who looks strong in hardships, but then falls like a pear after seeing you.

A girlfriend is the one who makes you drunk with crystal clear singing and laughter.

A girlfriend is the person who can walk with you no matter how dangerous you walk, and always patting your chest in retrospect.

A girlfriend is the person who can accompany you to climb a steep cliff, drill a cave and laugh in your arms when you are childlike.

A girlfriend is the person who tries to find the reason to combine with you from fortune telling and watching, but the result can only be explained as fate.

A girlfriend is the person who writes your name in a dark blue diary.

A girlfriend is someone you can't see for a day, just like a missing rib.

A girlfriend is the person you rack your brains to please.

A girlfriend is the person who feels the sunshine brightening your eyelashes when you are full of fatigue.

A girlfriend is someone you say you don't care. Seeing her with another boy always makes you feel bad.

A girlfriend is the one who tells you to give up your manly airs and bury your head high in her warm chest.

A girlfriend is the one who can't calm love wherever you go, with her eternal warmth on her lips, all her happiness, all her sadness, all her tears and laughter. ■