If everything you experienced was just to prove a mistake, would you still choose to come to this world?

Honey, if you were given another chance, would you make the same choice?

Fifteen years ago, after Tomb-Sweeping Day, I made an appointment with three familiar girls to buy train tickets to Shenzhen that day and prepare to go south.

On the first night of departure, after dinner, I avoided my parents' exhortation and nagging and went back to the small room to confirm my luggage one by one and check whether there were any omissions. With such a big head, a person travels far, the future is unpredictable, and his heart is intertwined with excitement and anxiety.

Suddenly my father asked me to answer the phone.

"Hello, this is XXX editorial department. We have received your resume. Can you come for an interview tomorrow? "

This is an interview call. So-and-so editorial department, I vaguely remember that it is a medical journal sponsored by a big hospital. A month ago, I "passed by" the newsstand every day and bought a stack of newly published daily newspapers, morning papers, evening papers and metropolis newspapers. When I came back, I only looked at the recruitment notice, selected feasible and credible positions and submitted my resume. With the mentality of extensive cultivation and thin harvest, the result is not ideal.

I hesitated for a few seconds with the phone. In these few seconds, my mind was scratching to weigh the pros and cons, and then I politely replied, "OK, I'll be there on time tomorrow!" Thank you! "

Tickets can be returned before you buy them.

Later, I stayed in Wuhan alone. The other three girls went to Shenzhen as promised.

I calmly and simply passed the interview, diligently passed the probation period, and finally was promoted to the official editor of the editorial department of a medical journal. After that, life is like a neat three-stage composition, from nine to five, at two o'clock and one line-work and love, buying a house and decorating, getting married and having children, no suspense.

Of the three girls, Lisa is the tallest. She went to Shenzhen with her boyfriend. Just arrived in this strange city, in order to save money, the two of them moved to a place and soon became the three of them. The two men pulled their cards in a hurry, but they didn't have enough money for a decent wedding. Lisa doesn't mind either. She worked hard with her husband, registered her own company, grew bigger and bigger, managed well, and gradually completed the air ticket, car and house.

Lisa was pregnant with a second child when she was almost forty. It is a boy. Despite the danger of giving birth at an advanced age, she went to America with a big belly to give birth to her son, and bought a house in a foreign country by the way.

Linda is my college classmate, majoring in clinical medicine. I didn't have a good way to get into the third-class hospital in my hometown and didn't find a decent job in Wuhan, so I decided to go south with us. After going to Shenzhen, she gave up her original major and found an office clerk to be a small white-collar worker. I usually go shopping in Hong Kong when I don't have a job, and do purchasing in private. I still don't understand until now. I often dress up as a girl, but I'm still alone. The older you get, the more careful you become emotionally.

Alice was my favorite girl in those days. She is generous and straightforward, and likes to talk and laugh. I went to Shenzhen, quickly changed several sales positions, and finally settled down to be a property consultant. She has a strong affinity and can endure hardships, and soon sold a villa worth 200 million. Needless to say, the boss also rewarded her with two apartments. Later, because the performance was too good, there was a dispute with the boss about sharing rewards. When I resigned again, I was already a little rich woman. I heard that Alice's ex-boyfriend made a prenuptial agreement with her current husband when they got married.

Occasionally think of that day: if I hadn't received that call or refused that interview, I would have gone to Shenzhen with three girls ... that unknown city at that time was trying to prove itself to the world, just like I was confused at that time. And I am in a different place, what will be different?

Recently, a friend who listened to stock trading talked about an economic "reflexive theory".

Soros, a financial tycoon, is a god-like existence in both investment and speculation. He believes that there is a fundamental error in the explanation of market operation in classical economic theory. Because people's understanding of things is inevitably imperfect, and this imperfection comes from incomplete and unreasonable information.

Incompleteness means that no one can handle all the information related to a thing. This is just like people tend to read concise and focused articles when reading articles. Because the human brain is not naturally suitable for processing massive information, in order to prevent overwork, the brain will start a protection mechanism to reduce information. This "lazy" behavior does protect the brain itself, but it also reduces the amount of information, thus creating obstacles for people to identify the truth.

No one is absolutely rational. Logic and emotion are inseparable in the human brain. For example, people naturally feel that it is good to go up and go forward, but it is not good to go down and go back; Clear and bright is good, turbid and dark is not good. This shows that no matter how hard we try to be 100% objective, our physiological structure is not allowed.

Therefore, people's understanding of things must be imperfect and they will make mistakes. The capital market is full of all kinds of mistakes, but some of them are quickly corrected and others are magnified.

In view of the process of making more and more mistakes, Soros founded a set of theories-"reflexive theory".

To put it simply, many people speculate because they hear that others have made money by speculating, so the rise of the stock market is often the reason for everyone to speculate. On the contrary, more people speculate in stocks, more money will enter the stock market, and the stock market will rise better. The rise of the stock market has made more people go to stocks. The result of more people speculating in stocks has become a reason, which makes the stock market continue to rise. Therefore, a "causal cycle" is formed, which leads to the continuous rise of the stock market.

This continuous rise of the stock market caused by the "causal cycle" is called the "self-enhancement" process.

If the process of "self-improvement" is to continue, more and more people must enter the stock market. However, when the person who stocks has been trading stocks and the person who shouldn't have been trading stocks, the process of "self-enhancement" will lose momentum. Then it will enter the completely opposite process.

When the stock market starts to fall, many people will sell their shares for fear of losing money. There are more people selling stocks, and the stock market will fall even more. In other words, the reason for the decline in stocks led many people to sell stocks. The result of selling stocks became the reason, which led to the continuous decline of the stock market.

As a result, another "causal cycle" was formed, which led to the continuous decline of the stock market. This process is called "self-destruction".

"Self-improvement" and "self-destruction" form a complete cycle.

"Reason" cannot explain "stock market". Rational people are usually dissatisfied with the over-inflated or undervalued stock market, and assert that the irrational state will soon end, but this state will last for a long time, and it will get worse and worse, until people become accustomed to it and turn a blind eye.

For the abnormal situation of the market, Soros's starting point is more acceptable: "The market is always wrong."

I don't know when the word began to become popular among the so-called "social elite": from a noble family.

Then all the mistakes, shortcomings and sufferings of children, eldest children, good children, Xiong Haizi and even "old children" have a satisfactory source-family background.

Not long ago, a piece of news broke out on the Internet: a science champion in the college entrance examination, a graduate student studying in the United States in Peking University, did not go home for the New Year for 12 years, and broke up with his parents for six years. He wrote a million-word letter, accusing himself of a "bumpy" life and exposing his parents' "crimes", saying that his work failure, weak personality and psychological problems all originated from his parents' "excessive concern". Even when he was not at home, his parents asked his relatives to "help and take care of him", which became a remote "control" in his eyes.

This is a typical crime of "coming from a family".

I have known a pair of sisters since I was a child. My sister is handsome and generous, and my sister is quiet and elegant. Parents are dual employees, with average economic conditions and simple living environment. When I am busy at work on weekdays, I am often locked at home because I am worried about social security and traffic safety. But for some reason, their relationship is not very close.

As adults, the two sisters got married and got married, each of them added their own children, and the regenerated family gradually improved. However, my sister is increasingly alienated from her parents, and even no longer goes home for the New Year. She almost cut off all contact with her family except the interest. And my sister, as before, takes her children back to her parents' house every weekend and answers everything.

I used to hear that the fathers of the two sisters were short-tempered, sensitive and irritable, while the elder sister had a strong personality and often opposed him, while the younger sister was gentle and less beaten and scolded.

My sister's greatest resentment towards her parents is that she gave birth to a sister who argued with her about everything.

I met my sister in the street a month ago, and when I talked about my children, my words were full of maternal love. I said that I appreciated the educational concept of "tiger mother" very much, laughed at myself for "inheriting" my father's violent temper, and would also beat and scold my children and practice "tyranny" at home.

Perhaps we can push my sister's thoughts and practices to the crime of being born into a family: I didn't do a good job in psychological construction before giving birth to a second child; In the process of growing up, children's psychological needs are ignored and not given enough care; Beat and scold at every turn, leaving irreparable mental trauma to children; Wait, wait, wait.

However, that day, I gave birth to you in pain and spent more than ten years supporting you. Are we wrong?

Kathryn Schulz, an American writer who won the Pulitzer Prize, wrote in Why We Make Mistakes: Making mistakes does not mean that we are ignorant or stupid, nor is it because we are morally bankrupt. Making mistakes is a window to see through ourselves and mankind.

Life is a journey of making mistakes. Sometimes, we even like to repeat the same mistakes. The human world has experienced thousands of years of evolution and evolution of survival of the fittest, and we still stubbornly carry error-prone genes.

In the pursuit of "authority" and "correctness" in the social and cultural environment, facing the "weakness" of human nature, what we can do is to recognize ourselves in the big and small mistakes, and be more calm and far-sighted at the next intersection of life facing multiple choices.

Franklin said that mistakes are "pure and simple products created by the mind, where the soul can stretch freely". The nature of making mistakes makes this wonderful species of human beings suspended between lower animals and God. Although mistakes sometimes make people desperate, they are closer to hope in spirit.

Every day, I make countless decisions and choices. Big enough to make a will: when you are terminally ill, give up meaningless rescue and choose euthanasia; Whether to put a spoonful of salt or half a spoonful of salt in the fried beans with minced olives ... There is no absolute right or wrong in every decision. No matter what you do, it is only the only choice you can make under the local environmental conditions at that time.