What are the methods of kindergarten comparison?

As the saying goes, "One tree doesn't make a forest." Every tree must grow wholeheartedly in order to have its own sunshine. Moderate comparison can promote children's physical and mental health under certain circumstances, but excessive comparison is not conducive to children's physical and mental health. Therefore, parents should face up to their children's comparison psychology, not regard it as a "scourge", but weigh the advantages and disadvantages, turn "blocking" into "sparse", and let comparison become the sunshine for children's growth. Only correct comparison can promote children's development. So, what are the ways to teach children to compare correctly?

First, learn to compare in reverse.

When children compare with others, the most typical theory is "everyone else has it, so I should have it." In the face of such children, it is quick and effective to implement anti-comparison. For example, J.J. has new clothes and you have new shoes.

Second, learn to compare vertically.

Parents should realize the uniqueness of their children. Every child is unique, with different personalities, different levels of development, and there is no comparability between different children. Encourage children to compare themselves. For example, let children compare today and yesterday, this month and last month, this semester and last semester. Through vertical comparison, he will "make further progress" and motivate himself with his achievements.

Third, shift the focus of comparison.

Usually, the comparison between children and others is limited to beautiful clothes, high-end toys and other material aspects, which reflects that children have a sense of competition in their hearts and want to be equal to or even surpass others. Parents can shift their children's focus, change their tendency to compare food and clothing and consumption, guide their children to compare in learning, games, talent, creativity, perseverance and good habits, and combine their comparison with their interests, which is conducive to cultivating their specialties and enhancing their self-confidence.

Fourth, turn comparison into motivation.

When children compare, parents can tell their children that it is not impossible to compare, but to achieve the conditions of comparison through their own efforts, so as to skillfully turn comparison into motivation. For example, if children compare the number and grade of toy cars with others, parents can encourage their children to save pocket money to buy new toy cars, or guide them to look for information and buy parts for assembly, thus forming a good habit of thrift and creativity. Parents should be careful not to put too much pressure on their children, avoid falling into a dead end, set goals suitable for children, decompose them step by step, adhere to the principle of running in small steps, and create more opportunities for children to experience success.

As long as parents teach their children to learn to compare correctly, they will certainly overcome the disadvantages of blind comparison, give play to the positive role of comparative psychology, encourage their children to make progress and promote their healthy physical and mental growth.