After two years of raising a baby full-time, you are faced with obstacles when you return to the workplace. How difficult is it to find a satisfying job?

I recently saw a joke like this on the Internet:

A mother’s life:

Before getting married, everything revolves around yourself, in work, life, and love; after getting married, It revolves around the family. After you have a child and take care of the child full time, you have to revolve around the child.

This situation has almost happened to most women. Before we got married, we were the carefree little girls who didn’t have to worry too much.

After getting married and having children, there is an extra concern.

During this process, many women gave up their jobs and careers to take care of their children full-time at home.

Because nothing can make people more happy and moved than when a little life comes to their side.

Especially for those of us who are first-time mothers, every change of our children is full of infinite fun, and we can’t help but record every detail of our children.

So I will put down everything around me and take care of my baby full time at home.

From the child's learning of language to his first bite of complementary food, we are carefully arranging it. We only hope that the child can grow up healthy and happy.

In this way, during the two or three years that I spent with my children, except that my husband was the child and was busy every day, I had no source of income.

After staying at home for a long time, I rarely communicate with the outside world, and my personality becomes very withdrawn.

Especially when children are disobedient, a sense of loss and helplessness will arise spontaneously. At this time, they can't help but lose their temper at the people closest to them, and they often lose their temper due to anxiety. And suppressed crying secretly in the middle of the night.

During the two or three years of raising children, the most common thing I heard from family members was: Look at what your temper has become now, you look like a shrew...

I didn’t understand the pain and depression of stay-at-home mothers before. After being a stay-at-home mother for two years, I really feel the grievances and bitterness of mothers.

In fact, like many stay-at-home mothers, I hope to wait until the child is three years old to go to kindergarten before looking for a job. Later, due to some reasons, I entered the workplace early and said goodbye to full-time work for the time being. Time with kids.

During the more than two years since I brought up my baby, I have used my spare time to read books, keep writing, and have also achieved some small achievements on self-media platforms. I originally thought that I would not be derailed by society, but again After returning to the workplace, I realized that I was totally wrong. Many jobs are not just what you want.

In March of this year, due to the high pressure of life, the mortgage loan, decoration loan and other loans made our family breathless, so I suddenly wanted to go to work. My husband also supported me very much in going to work, and I hope I can earn more money to support my family.

We hit it off immediately, and we quickly called my mother-in-law who lives in my hometown to help me take care of the baby. The day after my mother-in-law came over, I started to submit my resume to various recruitment websites on the Internet. Every day I open those websites, I can receive them. I received dozens of messages, but very few companies actually called me for interviews.

Since having a child, everything has been centered on the child. When looking for a job this time, I also hope to find a job that works from 8 a.m. to 6 a.m. and allows me to take care of my children on weekends.

At that time, I was thinking that there must be a lot of jobs like this, very easy to find, and I positioned myself in administrative and human resources positions.

Later, after interviewing with several companies, I realized that I was too overestimated. Companies often will not consider people who have no experience in this field. Even if you have a humble mentality, I hope As long as the other party is willing to teach, you can learn well. However, many companies often choose to leave such opportunities to a newly graduated college student, rather than to a mother.

So, in the process, I started to switch careers. As long as it was a clerical job with relatively stable working hours, I finally chose two companies among the many companies.

My first job was as a new media operator in a small hospital. I worked from 9 to 5, with one and a half days off on weekends. The salary was decent.

So after two days of trial work there, except for the people there who were not easy to get along with, everything else was fine. However, I didn’t expect that the personnel there felt that I was not suitable. I hope I can continue to look for suitable ones. own work. It felt very confusing at the time, and I didn’t know what the standards were for their probationary period, so I was persuaded to quit.

That March was Black Friday for me, because many bad things happened at that time, and the first time I was dismissed from my job was also on a Friday.

I still remember that the weather was gloomy that afternoon. Not long after I left the company, it began to drizzle, which made me feel cool and chilled my heart. I felt helpless and inferior, not knowing what I could do. Tears soon filled my eyes.

After being depressed for a while on the street, I returned home with a smile on my face, told my family that the job was not suitable, and then went to look for him.

The next day, I went directly to the second company I was interested in. Similarly, this company also required a trial job. The trial period was 5 days. I never knew how hard it would be to do a job before. I wanted to try out the job, but I only knew that there was a one-month trial period. This time I really experienced the job search.

I couldn't find a suitable job at that time, so I just went for it. When I worked here, I was even more cautious. I did whatever the leader asked me to do without daring to be careless at all. So I stayed at this job for five days and made a lot of reports and materials. Just when I thought I would be able to continue working steadily in this job, misfortune struck again.

It was also Friday, at two o'clock in the afternoon that day, when I had just returned to my job to prepare for work, the leader who hired me said that he wanted to talk to me.

At that time, my heart immediately skipped a beat, and I suddenly felt panicked. Everything was exactly as I expected, but something bad still happened.

The leader of that small company told me that I had been working in their company for four or five days, but I still didn’t understand their company’s business processes... There were many reasons for me to leave.

In the end, he pretended to be a good person again, hoping that I could find a suitable company for myself, and gave me 200 yuan for food, which was equivalent to an explanation for these five days.

Feeling aggrieved but unwilling to complain too much, I had no choice but to leave.

When I went out, the rain outside was pouring heavily. I walked on the street as if I had lost my soul. I couldn't find the direction again and didn't know where the road was.

Within a month, it was the same Friday, it was raining, and I was being persuaded to quit during the trial period. I felt low self-esteem and loss. Am I too bad? Maybe I don’t know anything. I can't do it, I'm not suitable for the workplace at all...

I thought a lot that night and cried all my tears. I still had to get up the next day and go find a job. The adult world doesn't allow you to be pretentious. , you have to be strong and keep moving forward.

Since I couldn’t find a suitable job, I lowered my expectations again and wanted to work in a kindergarten because I could enjoy weekends and weekends there. In addition, I could understand the life there in advance for my child, who will go to kindergarten in the future. I can always stay with him.

Suddenly I had a direction in my mind, so I submitted a lot of resumes online and quickly selected a kindergarten. Since I had no experience, I could only start as a childcare worker. I heard that the monthly salary was 2,500. Right and left, so I entered the kindergarten in a hurry.

In the beginning, I was in very good shape, but after working for a while, I realized that this profession is not as simple as I thought. It involves providing children with three meals a day, eating, drinking, and teaching. You have to worry about everything. You run dozens of times up and down every day. You can't stretch your legs due to standing for a long time. You are also nervous and have endless chores to do. Every day is like being a full-time nanny who needs to manage everything about the children.

During this period, I wanted to give up countless times, but when I saw those childish smiling faces, I couldn’t help but think of my son, so I persisted for a while.

After working for a month, the final factor that ultimately decided my departure was that I was dumbfounded when it came time to pay my salary.

I originally thought my salary would be 2,500 yuan a month, but when I signed the salary slip, I discovered that the basic salary was 1,500 yuan. Plus safety, teaching and other subsidies, the maximum monthly salary was 2,000 yuan. Moreover, wages are not paid on time, and wages are often in arrears.

I immediately felt ashamed. I worked hard for 2,000 yuan a month, which was not even enough to pay for my children’s schooling, let alone improve my life.

So I finally made up my mind to resign. When I asked the principal to resign many times, the principal repeatedly found reasons to refuse and asked me to sign a two-year contract, claiming that he was helping with the process. Insurance.

Even if you have to leave, you must complete one semester before you can sign the resignation letter. Only then did I realize that this was all a trick. Since there were not enough teachers in the kindergarten, they used this method to retain teachers.

After working for a month and a half, I basically recovered. My family saw that I was working so hard and my salary could not make ends meet, so they persuaded me to resign. There was no need to waste time there, but the garden did not allow me to sign. I received a resignation letter, so I could only choose to resign myself. The 12 days of salary were wasted. Although it hurts, the reality is so cruel.

I started looking for a job again, constantly refreshing my resume and submitting my resume. I was on the road to interviews every day. At most, I would interview with three or four companies a day.

So I kept looking for a job for a week, but I still didn’t find a suitable one. In fact, the biggest reason was that the other party didn’t interview me. They felt that I was not capable or experienced enough, and I didn’t have enough time to take care of my children. I can't keep up with the pace of society.

Just when I wanted to give up and plan to quit working and become a freelancer, I finally found a suitable job.

This job is of the same nature as my job before I had my baby, and the benefits are pretty good. The most important thing is working with words, which I like very much. After passing the interview, I cried with joy. My hard work during this period was not in vain. Finally, someone was willing to appreciate my talent and give me a chance.

This time, I must seize the opportunity steadily and work hard to settle myself in this company, learn more, constantly cultivate my abilities, and make myself more professional and stronger.

Now, I have been working in this company for a month, and everything is going smoothly. There are people to guide me at work, and the working atmosphere is very relaxed. I am very happy that I did not give up.

In 2021, I have been raising my children full-time for more than two years and returned to the workplace. I have experienced countless ups and downs and bitterness. Now I have summarized some experiences for those who need to find a job:

①Be sure to optimize your resume when submitting your resume

I interviewed for many jobs at that time. The reason why I failed in the interview was that my resume was not optimized enough because I had a two-year gap period in which I took care of my children full-time. Many interviewers felt that I was not qualified for that job at all and that I could not keep up with social trends...

At the beginning, I did not realize its importance. After many interviews, many people's first sentence The question is whether you are married, whether you have children, whether you want a second child...and whether you can keep up with your work ability after not working for so long...

I later began to reflect on myself, and I wrote down all the things I have done in the two years since I was not at work, and filled in all the rewards and achievements of the self-media account I ran during the period when I was not at work. Only then did I feel more confident during the interview process. When appropriate, I will also show my work to let them recognize my abilities.

②Be sure to go to a large company during the interview and ask in advance whether there is a trial period

There are many small companies now, which are very confusing. For example, they only recruit one person for this position. people, but they will write on the recruitment website that they need 5 people, and then let many people try out the job at the same time through a trial period. In this process, you need to do a lot of work for them, and finally fire you for various reasons. , leaving only the best in his mind.

In addition, in small companies, there are few people and many things to do, and the management is particularly chaotic. Just like the company I went to before, there were only a few people in the company. They were all bosses, and there were only one or two employees, which made people feel very depressed.

Small companies don’t have much protection either. They will always keep an eye on your work when they have nothing to do. Moreover, such small companies are often family businesses, so you can’t afford to offend them.

Large companies don’t have so many things to do. As long as you apply for the job, there will be no trial period. The probation period is one month at most. It is relatively formal and user-friendly. If you find a job in a suitable position, it is relatively stable in all aspects and can be suitable for long-term work.

Finally, during the interview, be sure to ask whether there is a trial period, if so how many days, and what are the standards for the trial period, and whether there will be any salary if you fail... Reasonably protect your rights and interests, don't Being ripped off like I was.

③When looking for a job, you must have clear goals and don’t be too impatient

First of all, you must understand what kind of job you want, and then go to a suitable company to submit your resume. Here During the process, don't be impatient, and don't give up on yourself and think you're not good because you failed to pass the interview with several companies.

In fact, the process of looking for a job is a two-way choice. When you choose a company, the company is also choosing you, so you must be calm.

If you stick to your bottom line, understand what you want, and continue to get closer to it, you will surely find a job that suits you soon.

The above are the lessons I learned from returning to the workplace after raising a baby full-time for 2 years. I hope it can be useful to you and avoid falling into the trap like me again.