You may never know what your gift is.

I have a friend named Xiao Sheng. Big chest, big waist and long legs. The family is good. Now studying in Hong Kong.

Once in a chat, she suddenly told me that she felt very unhappy. I was suddenly at a loss. At an early age, family harmony has never been changed. How can there be such feelings?

At the end of the conversation, she said, because people, an animal, are too complicated. I have been working with people before, and I am very unhappy. I feel a little distressed and want to see her.

Return to reason, I know, because she hasn't found anything she likes and has talent. To put it simply, I don't know myself well enough. This is also the origin of my writing this article.

I also have a friend named Nuannuan. Face, small nose and thin legs are now HRD of a well-known company.

We have a group called mouth to mouth, which means mouth to mouth. She is our goddess of positive energy. Emotional intelligence is extremely high.

Goddess's professional experience is like this, editing, administration, HR, marketing, two years ago, she transformed into HRD. Core clues, based on the pursuit of professional height, are increasingly turning to more fields to play emotional intelligence.

This is an excellent case of my friends' emotional intelligence talents. Subtle, cultivate interest into ability, exchange ability for value, strengthen interest with value, perfect cycle.

And more people don't know what their talents are all their lives.

The last one, my sister said, was too brain-burning. No way, don't think about it, it's not dry goods. I try to talk to as many people as possible. ?

My interest in talent theory stems from attending an industry summit held by HRoot a few years ago, and then I will pay attention to it when I meet it, including voices that sound different.

For example, it is clearly stated in Alien that the real difference in life lies not in extraordinary talents, but in extraordinary opportunities. Deliberate practice also says: no progress, not because of lack of talent, but because the practice method is wrong. Even Scott Kaufman, a famous American psychologist, wrote a book called Unnatural.

In my opinion, it is better to believe in books than no books, and everything is under control. In this era, there are so many things to learn, and the cost of trial and error is relatively low. It is not a bad thing to have a theory that gives you a direction to test.

Talent is English, and talent is usually translated into talent (my classical brother prefers to call it talent). Knowledge is a gift, not a genius. When I decided to understand the theory of learning talent, I asked myself three questions. Yes, I am now in problem control and system control.

1. What is talent? Does it matter? Did I?

2. How do I discover my talents? Is it accurate?

3. What about after discovery? How can we become awesome as soon as possible?

Talent is an expert in this field, and many people in the industry are recommending Dr. Liu Jia, Doctor of Beauty (Ben Shuobo, Tsinghua). I read her articles carefully, and I also learned from my classical brothers and sisters Liu Jia's courses. This article can be regarded as the internalization and output of learning. ?

There are many contents, so this paper discusses the first two questions first.

Answer the first question above: What is talent? Does it matter? Did I?

What is talent? The famous Gallup Advantage Identifier 2.0 defines talent as: talent is a thinking mode, feeling or behavior that each individual naturally repeats and can be used efficiently. Feynman, the so-called talent, literally means that it is given by God, and it is the thoughts, feelings and behaviors that you use repeatedly in your subconscious. I think you can pay attention to the moment when you are often praised by others or fascinated by yourself!

Talent comes from our unique spiritual network, which is formed by synaptic connections in the brain and is the common result of heredity and early formation (3-15 years old). Once a person's talent is formed, it is difficult to change. In other words, on the one hand, talent is born by parents, on the other hand, it is made when you are young.

The scientific team behind Gallup spent 50 years studying 2 million people and found that although individuals and organizations have thousands of paths to success, most of these successful individuals follow one principle: to maximize their talents.

At the same time, the top managers in the world have been following the idea of managing teams, that is, deliberately looking for and cultivating talents with special talents, and turning these talents into advantages to create value for the team.

Actually, there are two points:

1. For individuals, the biggest room for growth is in your talent field. So, don't try to be a good student. I used to practice standing long jump hard, but I got thousands of jumps or 1.2 meters. This short board is also quite short (I feel that the little secret hidden in my heart for so many years has been exposed). Now think about it, on my wall, it seems that there are more awards for outstanding class cadres than for miyoshi students.

2. For organizations, when recruiting and developing employees, they should pay more attention to the advantages of employees and think more about how to maximize their advantages and form teams with complementary advantages. This is what peter drucker said in Effective Managers: The task of managers is not to change people, but to use everyone's talents.

Does everyone have a gift? The theory of multiple intelligences divides human intelligence into eight categories (as shown below).

This picture can be subdivided, so I believe that everyone has an advantage over a large part of people in the world in some aspects. It's just not easy to find and confirm

Many people think that they have no talent, or that their talent cannot create value, or that the research results are limited. Well, at this time, Father Ma's chicken soup should appear, that is, I saw it because I believed it.

Reflecting on myself, if I can put more energy into testing and verifying my talent earlier, my life will be more efficient and concise.

Answer the second question: How do I discover my talent? Is it accurate?

This part, Liu Jia summed it up very well. There are two ways to explore talents, self-exploration inward and seeking feedback outward.

First, review the talent clues.

In the book "Now, Discover Your Professional Advantage", the author Marcus Buckingham is the founder of the advantage theory. A symbolic model for finding advantages is proposed. Classically mentioned in Super Personal.

1. Success: You have a strong sense of self-efficacy, and you think you will succeed. For example, when I saw some variety shows, I thought, I can also host such shows; When I am a trainer outside the company, I think, I seem to be able to speak. Of course, these instincts may not be all right, but they are a very important clue. Therefore, it is important to broaden your horizons. I don't know what occupations and scenes there are in this world, how can I think of my own possibilities?

2. Instinct: You can't wait to try. For example, every time my husband sees that kind of intellectual building block toy, he wants to try it. When we went out to travel, the only thing he clamored for was the beauty's building blocks. On my birthday, he gave me a puzzle of the wisdom castle (God, I want to say that my hands-on ability is comparable to my standing long jump, and my Holland test score is 0).

3. Growth: You find yourself learning quickly. This is easy to understand. Many people paint, dance, swim, dive and play drums. Once they learn, they can get started quickly. It is said that Ding Junhui played table tennis for the first time, which was even better than his father.

4. Need: I am full of satisfaction and happiness afterwards, and I have a feeling that doing this is a reward in the process. For example, Brother Classical said that he especially likes listening to lectures. Every time he finishes recording a class, he talks in the office, shaking his head and being very happy. Others may think he is nervous, but he enjoys it and thinks that lectures are the best reward. When I was listening to his class, I could really feel the enthusiasm and sincerity behind his voice.

Come on, try it according to the specific steps mentioned by Classical Brother.

1. Find a quiet place, find a piece of white paper, fold it twice and divide it into four parts. Each square corresponds to a letter and a symbol.

2. If time permits, take about 7 years as a stage. Memories after memories, looking for signals in your life.

3. Find common ground from the events and try to extract it. For example: public speaking, communication with people, concentration.

Second, recall the peak moment

? There are two criteria for rush hour:

1. You like the feeling you experienced when you did it;

You are proud of the result.

The core vocabulary is that you like it and the result makes you proud.

Four elements of writing a peak story (STAR):

1. The situation at that time

2. Task/Target

3. Action taken (action)

4. Results obtained (results)

Did you find it? Isn't this the question that the interviewer has been asking you during the interview? When I do HR interviews, I often ask the interviewer to give examples of the most difficult and proud moments. I personally recalled and combed several peak moments during my school days, early and late work, and magically found that many used abilities were really ordinary.

The older we get (those of us in our early 30 s who were born after 1995 have been called grandparents), the more we find it best to prepare some in advance, such as self-introduction and peak stories, which may be needed anytime and anywhere.

Third, free writing.

The literal meaning is clear, that is, writing nonsense. Of course not. It is written in the way of theme. You can start with "I am a very talented person" as the first sentence, and write whatever comes to mind. After writing, circle the words that touch you most as the starting point of your next writing. ?

How to find your goal in life in 20 minutes? -Steve Pavlina "is also a typical freelance writing, you can study it if you are interested. It is said that many people find their goals in life in this way.

Self-exploration is actually a very interesting process, and you will feel particularly awesome and self-effective! This is also a very special life experience.

First of all, please praise me.

The title itself is already very Feynman. You can ask someone who knows you well to answer, "What is my best place in your eyes? In order to help me understand myself better, please give an example. " If you don't want to take up too much time, just score directly.

Wechat, email, open interview, or design a form yourself. Don't be shy, especially when you don't have any direction about your talents. Try it quickly.

By inserting a knowledge point, you can also take this opportunity to sort out your Johari window, that is, the talent reflection map, and adopt different management strategies for different areas in the four quadrants.

The area in the upper left corner is called the open area and needs to be further consolidated and strengthened.

The area in the upper right corner is called a blind spot. Do you know that I don't know, but I don't know that I have special awesome ability? What the hell? So we need to reflect and self-discipline and manage it well.

The area in the lower left corner is called the hidden area. I know you don't know. Do you think the ability is martial arts? I'm trying something big. Seize the time, need to externalize, need to constantly advocate.

The area in the lower right corner is called the unknown area, and we all don't know it, so pay more attention. Maybe someone will give you a hint and you will have a new trick.

Second, the use of evaluation tools

There are generally two kinds of talent evaluation tools recommended by experts:

1.VIA test (free): VIA personality strength test was developed by positive psychologists Martin seligman and christopher peterson, and also mentioned in the famous Harvard happiness class. This test advocates recognizing people's virtues, strengths and strengths, and using these personality strengths to gain a positive attitude and achieve self-harmony.

2. Gallup Power finder2.0 (paid): Gallup spent 50 years interviewing 2 million people in dozens of countries and developed a very convincing tool called CLIFTON STRNGTHSFINDER? ), this tool has helped more than 654.38+05 million people around the world find the source of talents. Apple has a special APP called Strengths, and Android doesn't know if there is one.

Is it accurate?

Evaluating this method, when I saw Gallup's results, I really felt "Wow, it seems quite accurate".

For example, my first talent is "learning", and several clues of my own talent at various stages of my life and memories of my peak moments are all related to exams and learning.

For example, preparing for the exam for half a month, passing Grade 8; 50 days to review the high scores of the postgraduate entrance examination and be admitted to China Communication University (this topic will be written in a single article, which is Yang Ge's propositional composition); 1 week to complete the master's thesis and obtain excellent graduates.

For another example, after work, I independently completed the first book publishing project with 1 1 interns; Later, I switched from business to HR, and I was basically responsible for independent projects at the beginning, such as training projects, post system projects, talent inventory and cadre management projects. I studied it and got a general idea before communicating with my colleagues.

I can't learn and do things quickly. I seldom review the whole book before the exam and rarely answer the last few questions on the test paper. It is also a wonderful flower. But I can basically guarantee that the content I reviewed will not lose points.

This combing process is actually comparing yourself with yourself, how about it, and whether there is a sense of self-efficacy! Of course, I really enjoy the learning process itself for what I really want to learn. Especially when I feel that I have been hit by dimensionality reduction at the conceptual level, it is simply awesome.

I'm thinking, 10 days can't see my handsome husband 10 days can't learn new knowledge. If I had to choose one, I should choose the former. Yes, I'm sure.

On the other hand, this view is still the same. Evaluation can help us to have a comprehensive understanding of our talents from a certain assumption, rather than being at a loss or ambiguous. These evaluations have been tested by millions of samples for decades and have certain reliability and validity.

Compare the results of internal self-exploration and external feedback to confirm each other. Talents with the same direction must be worthy of your verification and promotion. As for whether you can become awesome as soon as possible after discovering your talent and make yourself a winner in life, the rest will be discussed in the next article.