The sadness of the 35-year-old leftover woman: why did she lose to the post-95 s with a monthly income of 3000 when she had a house and a car?

It has been said before that men are dumped because of poor conditions and women are dumped because of good conditions. In the marriage relationship, women are weak and men are strong, which is considered to be the most suitable match. In China's traditional thought, a woman who is too strong appears guilty, and it is difficult to get happiness. Although we have been liberated now and advocate equality between men and women, women should be independent, but when women are really strong, they will still suffer in marriage and love. Zhang Ying is 35 years old and still single. She is a real old woman.

As for the reason why she was left behind, it is because she has devoted her time and energy to her study and work for so many years, and has no time to take care of her personal life. When I was 35 years old, I had a house and a car, and I did a good job. I only thought about marriage and love. In retrospect, most people around me got married and gave birth to babies. She was a little anxious, too, and started dating.

She is more confident and confident, but often the man will feel unworthy of her. Some time ago, she took a fancy to a blind date, who was the same age as her and had a gentle personality, but her work was not as good as her and she didn't have a house. But Zhang Ying doesn't mind. She thinks that as long as one person can make money and the other person has time to take care of the family, it is a good match. Zhang Ying finally met the right person. She volunteered to cook and give gifts to each other. It's an adult Everyone knows what she wants.

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The other side is also very enthusiastic about Zhang Ying's reaction. In fact, the two people have already looked at each other, except for one floor. One day, Zhang Ying and his partner came out after watching a movie. She tentatively asked each other, "Why aren't we together?" The other person held her hand tightly. Zhang Ying smiled shyly. She felt very happy. After so many years, she finally waited for her own person.

But less than a month later, the other party broke up, which surprised Zhang Ying: "Zhang Ying, I think you are very good, you are kind and gentle, and you have done well, but I don't think I deserve you. I always feel weak in front of you. We are really not suitable, and I don't want to delay you. "

Zhang Ying cried and said, "I don't hate you. You can use my house and car together. When we get married, won't mine be yours? " You are a self-motivated and capable person. I believe you will do better than me in the future. Don't feel inferior, okay? "The other party said," I'm sorry. I'm really sorry. I can't accept my incompetence You deserve better. " Say that finish, the other party left without looking back, and deleted Zhang Ying's contact information.

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Zhang Ying was hurt. Obviously, he didn't mind this. Why did the other party let go when he said let go? It took her so long to become better and stronger, but unexpectedly, she became weak in the marriage and love market. She even began to wonder if all her efforts for so many years were in vain. Strong twist of the melon is not sweet, Zhang Ying returned to single, continue to rush about for their own career.

Not long after, Zhang Ying found out that the other party had a new girlfriend, born in 1995, with a monthly salary of 3,000 yuan. Zhang Ying was very angry. Where did he lose? She ran to the other side and asked, "What do you mean, you dislike that I am better than you? What is it to find a little girl now? " The other party said timidly, "Although she has a low income and is young, I have a sense of superiority and confidence in front of her. I think I can control her.

I still like women who are weaker than me and won't make me feel inferior. "After hearing these words, Zhang Ying felt ridiculous that a big man should take face so seriously. She suddenly thought of all the things that two people used to be together. She once thought it was love, but in fact it was just pride. Such a man has no confidence and confidence, and even if he is together, it is difficult to be happy. What women are looking for is not small saplings, but big trees in the sky, which can shelter you from the wind and rain and protect you in an all-round way.

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The sadness of the 35-year-old leftover woman: having a house and a car, but losing to the post-95 s with a monthly income of 3000. The marriage between a strong woman and a weak man has always been discussed. It is always easy to be ignored that women are strong and men are poor. In fact, this is all caused by male chauvinism. Men are animals who like to conquer and love face. They want to show a stronger side in front of women.

When a woman is too strong, she loses confidence and confidence. However, for a family, it is also possible if the man is outside and the woman is inside. This society stresses equality between men and women, so what if men are as strong as women? This family belongs to two people. Who will make money differently? If a woman doesn't dislike that you don't have a house or a car and is willing to support your shortcomings, you should cherish it.

Marriage requires two people to work together. Marry a wife, don't marry a woman who needs to support herself, marry a woman who can bear the wind and rain with herself. Only when two people rely on each other and work together to get better can such a marriage be happy and long-lasting.