How to plan a teenager well?

1. If you compare life to a boat, leaving the harbor and heading for the sea, life begins the process of integrating into society in a real sense. Therefore, from the perspective of career planning, it is precisely for young people to leave the care of their families and go to study in distant places. At the beginning of his career planning, we take this opportunity to penetrate into the psychological world of some young people and jointly explore the laws of career planning, which may allow more people to find themselves in this era full of uncertainty. The determinable inner reliance makes life richer and richer in quality. 2. In 2002, 1.43 million college graduates were "airdropped" into society. They want to find jobs, they want to eat, they want to accumulate love, start a family, and have a life. Children’s material capital. They are full of confusion in the process of completing the above-mentioned choices. Because I have participated in many recruitment fairs for college graduates, and hundreds of young people passed in front of me. Among them, there are The eyes of too many people flash with confusion, doubt, uncertainty, and luck. Many of them do not know how to package themselves, showing their vagueness and lack of preparation for self-evaluation. There are many outstanding students among them. However, apart from academic studies, it is difficult for them to put forward their personal career aspirations and value standards. Through the eyes of graduates, I have asked many times with sighs and sympathy: How do these young people plan and spend their college years? What about? There is a famous saying: A sail without direction is always against the wind. A college student who just started working this year described his college life to me: He worked too hard in high school, and he just wanted to do well when he was admitted to college. Relax. I had to run every day in high school. When I got to college, everyone slept in. No one cared about you anyway. There was no class in the morning, so you got up later. When there was no class, everyone went to play ball, go shopping, or stay in We played poker in the dormitory, and the classmates who were in love went out to play in pairs and came back very late. I think the state of the university above is pretty good. There are so many great things that I have seen with my own eyes and what is reported in the newspapers. Technical secondary school students are dealing with their studies and concentrate on chatting, playing games, gambling in Internet cafes, and some go to social entertainment venues to eat youthful meals and pay attention to enjoyment. In short, youth that has not been carefully planned is always a bit wasted. Taiwan conducted a psychological survey on the self-worth of college students 20 years ago and found that many college students are faced with the confusion of "self-integration". Regarding sex, the future, and choices, the vast majority of college students have difficulty giving themselves a A complete and coordinated explanation system and value standards. Those college students who are older and participate in more social or club activities have a relatively higher rate of finding themselves. Therefore, Taiwanese psychologists believe that the most important thing about college is One of its functions is to help college students find themselves when they are lost. Our current living standards are exactly the same as those in Taiwan more than 10 years ago. Our current only-child college students are also facing the same difficulties in psychological integration. And many visible and sensible things are The performance of college students also proves to a certain extent: lack of self-discipline is due to lack of positioning, disordered behavior, and confusion of inner values. How to plan carefully and chart a beautiful course in life? 3. College Planning: Make a Sharp "Arrow" If you understand the manpower information of the United States, it will not be difficult for you to understand why the United States is a world power. More than 60% of the country's population has a college degree. How can this country be uncivilized? Can you not be arrogant without being advanced? In contrast, China's college enrollment rate in the mid-1990s was still 45% of that of its peers. Only in recent years has college enrollment begun to expand. Based on this calculation, the national university culture The population of China probably accounts for less than 10% of the total population of the country. This is the national situation: the land is vast but the resources are not abundant, and the quality of life is not high due to the large number of people. Based on such worries and considerations, there is an urgent expectation to improve the quality of life of the population. With thinking about career planning and examination of the university stage. After all, it is not easy to go to a university in China. It would be a pity not to make a good plan at the university stage to develop yourself more constructively.

Manpower planning during college should have a "cost" awareness. The youngest and most energetic years of life are spent on the college campus. Tens of thousands of dollars of parents' hard-earned money are given to the school. Many innocence in high school Friendships are separated and alienated because of going to school. These are the "costs" of going to college. If you pay such a large cost, you have to consider how much "return" you will get. The returns include: in the future, when you enter the society The freedom and satisfaction of work in exchange for ability, the ability to make money in society, the ability to actively and sustainably develop emotionally (family, friends, colleagues), the foundation and confidence to realize one's wishes, etc. With cost-return Awareness, college students have a lot of disposable time, and there are standards for using it. What is the help of chatting and playing games online? How much should you invest? It is all up to you, others will not care about you. Love, opposite-sex cohabitation, intimacy, Is it possible? No one will tell you a lesson. You decide for yourself whether to invest or not, whether enough is enough or long live love. You can decide everything by yourself. Only you can learn to rationally arrange your life according to your own development needs and make your college life regular. Only with plans and balance can college students arrange their future social life well. Being aware of "cost" is not enough. To plan your college years reasonably, you must also have the awareness of "backward calculation". When I was a freshman, I went to the autumn talent exchange meeting to see how demanding the employers were for talents, and how many college graduates there were who were looking for jobs and had digital certificates. The unit does not want female graduates. This is reality. See this side first and return to campus. You will not "dream" and you will know how precious time is. Finally, the content of the plan that turns into daily actions is: work hard. Build yourself into a sharp arrow. "Borrowing arrows from a straw boat" won Zhuge Liang the reputation of a wise man, and at the same time, he obtained sufficient "munitions" to defeat his opponents. Back in modern society, every employer with development has I hope that my employees will be sharp arrows so that the unit can be invincible. As future professionals, modern college students should first make themselves "sharp", that is, professional, able to communicate, good at collaboration, strict with self-discipline, and strong-willed. These They all need time to cultivate, they need to seize the opportunity to exercise, and they need to spare their energy to reflect. Then, college students should try to find their own "arrow", that is, the direction of development. Physics talks about "vectors", which have directions, lengths, and can be used for reference. Experience. If you are good at investing, you can study Buffett. If you are interested in business, you should carefully study economic phenomena. If you are interested in machines, make friends with machines. If you are interested in people, you can read novels and study psychology. If you are interested in speeches, If you are very good at it, you can listen to Chen Anzhi’s lecture on success. If you are interested in organizational growth, you can study management and so on. If you are good at, interested in, and have understanding of something, college students will study it and explore their career. The direction may not be right at once, but as long as you explore, you will make discoveries and breakthroughs, which will make you different. Don’t forget that the more advanced the society is, the more professional, personalized and characteristic living space it will be. It will become wider and wider. If you are not sharp enough, polish it. If you don’t have an arrow yet, go find it. 4.

Find a light in life. We see many people who have graduated from college working hard and working in the society. We will always inadvertently discover the difficulties and confusion between their brows and eyes. Walking in the fog, drifting in the sea, these philosophical descriptions can be summarized. The actual mental state of some new and old college graduates. From such a backward perspective, we kindly discuss career planning during college with young people who are about to enter college. One of the rules worth sharing is: The value of university is to help you find a light in life. First of all, college students should establish a sense of openness, tolerance, and exploration, and strive to make friends who are smarter than you. In the university public education class, I met two A good friend. One of my friends studied physics and won a national Olympic physics medal. This friend from a poor family reminded me: If you spend too much time dating in college, it would be a pity for the university’s resources. Less than two years after graduation, this friend I was sent to Japan due to my performance and became a Chinese software engineer who was highly regarded by the Japanese. When he called me from Tokyo to greet me, I was moved by a warm current of encouragement and secretly vowed: I must be on the land of China. Make achievements that are praised by your friends. High-level friends are a light in your life, inspiring you to never be satisfied. Another college friend of mine studied economics and was the top liberal arts student in the college entrance examination in Yunnan Province. It was this guy A friend who studied economics recommended that I, a Chinese student, read a number of classic works on economic management, and took me into Mr. Li Yining’s class. Soon, I changed my pen name to Li Lai, because that person made people Impressed economists told me that as long as you persist in your studies, you will always become your own. Mr. Li does not have a graduate degree and has never studied abroad. He became a doctoral tutor based on self-study and became an expert in corporate law. Be an advocate and become a great scholar who changes the direction of China's economy. High-level friends are a light in your life. Under their guidance, you will find many famous teachers who can open up your life. And famous teachers are a light in your life. , whether they are alive or not, their works and life trajectories will guide you to value yourself, pay attention to people's livelihood, and create the future. College students should look for good media and then choose good information. Good information will activate the deeper information in your life. , and then help you find the light of your professional life. Back then, I often paid attention to the China Youth Daily. It was this newspaper that made me get acquainted with the Beijing Economic Radio Station and listened to Professor Ye, a psychology professor from Taiwan. The hotline consultation and the exchange of wisdom like the sound of nature made me finally find the light of my career. Under the guidance of this light, I have been persistently and calmly trekking in the field of social psychology and developmental psychology for ten years. I feel that I have a clear mind and a bright eye. No regrets. The university period is the quietest. You can stay in the all-night classroom for 24 hours and find the core of life in silent conversations with famous teachers. The university period is the most free. You can spread your tentacles of knowledge. , absorb the resources of friends, media resources, emotional resources, and wisdom resources that belong to your future social struggle, and finally find the light of your life.