What should I do if I really want to work alone in a strange city?

As someone who has been there, I would like to share my experience for your reference. When I graduated from college, I felt that I was young and willing to endure hardships. I should be able to eat anywhere and wanted to try my abilities. I applied for a job in Guangdong online. I had never been to Guangdong before, and I had no friends or relatives there. This experience was very hard and can indeed make people grow. However, because there was no one to supervise me and I was young, it was difficult for me to do so. I have indeed taken some wrongdoings. The following is provided for your reference.

1. Make a plan: I had no concept of money when I graduated. I applied for a job online, borrowed 4,000 yuan from my mother and bought a plane ticket, and went to Dongguan with my simple luggage. I reported to the factory. Fortunately, the company at that time included food and accommodation. Otherwise, I would not have known where I would live. The money left after buying the air ticket would not be enough to rent a house and meet daily needs. It is recommended that before going, in addition to finding a job, you should also have a certain understanding of accommodation and transportation, make plans, and prepare your daily necessities for a few months, otherwise you will not know who to ask for a loan.

2. Self-growth: When I was in college, I relied on myself to get into a good undergraduate and major department, but I was addicted to online games, ranked last in the department, and delayed my graduation for a year. After passing the exam, in order to prove myself, I applied for a foreign trade company in Guangdong. The first stage is to go to the factory to learn professional knowledge and learn how a pair of women's shoes are made. It was then that I began to let go of myself and work with my master in the workshop every day, from cutting the uppers, sewing, bottoming and molding, from 8:00 to 6:00 every day, working six days a week. It took me half a year to complete each step. Process Society. I learned to communicate with people. There were people from all provinces in the workshop at that time. I also learned the importance of rigor and professionalism in work. Later I started running a business, and I learned from the boss how to negotiate with customers and how to deal with advances and retreats. Now that I think about it, I am very grateful to everyone I met at that time who taught me; I am also grateful to myself, because that period was really very exciting. Tired, but fortunately I didn’t give up.

3. Know how to manage money, especially savings: After young people have a stable job, it is easy to spend money carelessly and lavishly, especially when they are in a foreign land, they are afraid of loneliness and always follow their friends for fun. . Especially when I first became a business manager, I also imitated senior managers in ordering suits, smoking, drinking, and socializing. I didn’t save much money in the first few years. Thinking about it now, it was really a waste. In fact, one of the elder brothers at that time had I was reminded, but it took me a few years to understand this.

4. Pay attention to health and invest in yourself: At that time, I was working alone in other places. Due to my youth, irregular meal times, tobacco and alcohol, my originally good health began to decline. Later I realized , I quit smoking and drinking, which is actually a bit late; after I got on track at work, I was like a wild horse that had escaped from get off work in the first few years. I only knew how to have fun and didn’t know how to spend time investing in myself to make my professional career even better. If you don’t understand this truth until you are thirty years old, you will be wasting the years when your learning ability is best!

You are young and there are still many possibilities. Think carefully and make a comprehensive plan before taking action. As long as you can endure the pain and loneliness, I believe you will grow by leaps and bounds. Come on!

First, in today's big cities, apart from the expensive houses, they are actually very tolerant, so if you want to develop alone, it is a good thing. Many articles have talked about it After returning to a small place, the circle of people is different. The smaller the place, the less emphasis is placed on ability, and the more emphasis is placed on the relationship between three aunts and six wives. In my opinion, this is indeed the case in small cities and small places, except of course for some gameplay on the Internet. ~In addition, when it comes to top consulting and good opportunities in various industries, there are naturally more outside.

Second, the other thing is that you have to analyze yourself and don’t rush into things blindly. As the saying goes, everything will be done if you are prepared, and if you are not prepared, it will be ruined, so you must be prepared for everything. Analyze which industry is suitable for you, analyze where your advantages are, and analyze what connections can help you.

Third, the last thing is to get the house in order before leaving, and settle down and comfort the parents.

Finally, I wish you all the best.

This is a good idea, let’s find a job first! Find a workplace and nip problems in the bud. "Men are ambitious in all directions." If you have strong enough ability to withstand pressure, you can make a difference!

"Reading thousands of books is not as good as traveling thousands of miles." Only when you leave the arms of your parents, can you endure hardships and endure fatigue, can you appreciate the true taste of life.

Just act, watch and look for opportunities. No one can develop in one place without moving. "If people move, they will live, and the trees will die." Only when people have more experience can they be experienced in dealing with things, be generous and know how to make choices.

Only by "being able to endure hardships and being wronged" can we face everything more calmly and cherish what we have more.

When everyone is confused, ask yourself clearly and do what you want to do!

If you think about living in a strange city, maybe you have encountered something now, or maybe you just yearn to live in a strange city.

Before doing this, you need to think carefully. Your own economic situation, your life skills, and whether you have the ability to live in a strange city alone.

When you go to live in a strange city, you have no friends, no relatives, and even the surrounding environment is unfamiliar. You have to start to adapt to living alone.

During normal breaks, other friends will go to drink and have fun together. Can you bear all this?

If you can bear all this, then I think that through your own efforts, dedication, struggle, and your own personality charm, you will definitely have a new beginning, a new life, and a new life. circle. At this time, you will also be stronger.

This question is neither right nor wrong! It depends on what you really think in your heart! Others can only give you advice, it’s up to you to decide how to do it!

Analyze it; judging from your description, you are an introverted personality type, honest and humble, relatively comfortable, not very active, and yearn for a stable life.

Competition in today's society is fierce. If you don't have any skills, survival is a problem. You don't have enough food and clothing, and you live a homeless life. The outside world is not as beautiful as you imagined. Just an impulsive thought on your part.

To sum up; everything has two sides. Some people think that they can only know how capable they are by going out for a try. Some people have no fighting spirit. When they reach the age to get married and have children, they find a girl to marry and live a stable life.

Personal suggestion; according to your personality, it is better to stay at home, go to work in telecommunications, marry a wife, and live a stable life. The outside world is not so beautiful. When you have difficulties outside, it is not just asking your family for money or going to work outside, it is just your impulsive idea.

You are still young, and there is nothing wrong with wanting to go out and explore, but you need to assess the situation first and analyze the pros and cons, otherwise the difficulties you encounter in a strange city may be more difficult to overcome than what you are facing now. The following questions must be considered first:

Suppose you arrive in a strange city, accommodation is the first problem to be solved. If you don’t know a person, you have to rent a house by yourself. Do you have enough money? Do I still have to ask my family for it?

What is the minimum monthly living standard in the city you are going to, what kind of job are you looking for, and how much can you earn? Do you have a budget? If your family can provide some funds, how many months can you support yourself while looking for a job? The first few months of a new job involve issues such as the probation period and salary deferment, which all need to be considered.

It can be said that no one in this world understands you better than your parents. Sometimes their angry words are hurtful, but behind some of their comments are true portrayals of you.

A friend of mine has always wanted to work in a sales job, but her family objected that she was not suitable, but she went for it and persisted for a year, and finally returned to an office job.

It’s not that you can’t act according to your own ideas. There are many reasons for failure, but if you can’t overcome your own shortcomings, you won’t be able to escape the disastrous outcome no matter how many times you try.

Suppose you now go back to your hometown to work in the telecommunications bureau. What are you dissatisfied about?

If you don’t follow your parents’ wishes, what are your plans for the future?

Do you really want to make it on your own, or do you just want to stay away from your parents’ preaching and the reality of your inability to change?

Only by truly understanding yourself can you solve problems better. Otherwise, the temporary escape will be useless, and there will be greater anxiety in the future.

If you want to get rid of your parents’ preaching, you must make some achievements on your own. At the very least, you must be independent and no longer rely on your parents financially and psychologically.

This cannot be achieved by staying away from your parents. You need to be truly independent and have your own abilities and thoughts. Of course, you do not need to be emotionally alienated from your parents. No matter how much they preach, We all wish you well.

Let me analyze it from my personal perspective first, and then give you some suggestions and ideas.

You are 23 this year. At this age, you usually have graduated from a normal college or bachelor's degree. You are just starting out in society, which is also the time when you feel frustrated and anxious. In fact, it's nothing. This is a state that most people will have. Even the so-called top students and top talents do not have smooth sailing at the beginning. But it feels like you have been working for a long time, so I will judge it based on whether you are a junior college student or a technical secondary school student. If you don’t have any savings, it means you haven’t worked long hours, you don’t have the awareness to save money, and you are introverted. These are all minor problems. First of all, there is nothing wrong with being introverted. Being introverted does not mean that you will be introverted your whole life. Even if you are introverted, you will be outstanding in some aspects. For example, if you are careful, conscientious, and able to withstand pressure, many things are waiting for you to discover. You can also train yourself in the days to come to make your personality a little more active so that you can no longer shrink when talking to others.

This is a simple example to illustrate. For example, when you are on the phone with a courier, or when calling for some advertisements, you can say a few more words. In this situation where you don't see anyone, you will feel more comfortable and speak more easily. Then, for example, when you go out to buy something or eat, etc., when you can communicate with the salesperson, boss, etc., you can also try to say one more sentence each time. These words can be, you tell the courier or food delivery person that you are so busy today and that you have worked hard today. When you eat, you can ask the waiter to help me get a pair of chopsticks or bowls, or ask more questions when ordering, or ask where the bathroom is, and tell the boss when you check out that your restaurant always tastes good, etc. These can increase your proficiency in communication. Look at the other person to show respect. If you communicate more with these people in daily life, you will subconsciously be less afraid of communicating with strangers, and your introversion will change. You will find that your temperament will also change. When you talk to your family, you will gradually change slightly and become more energetic and sunny.

Friends, this word is actually very important. Classmates, playmates, and colleagues may not all become friends. Even if we become friends, they may be fair-weather friends, fame and wealth friends, or ordinary friends. But to truly become friends recognized in the heart, what may be needed is mutual help and support, the accumulation of time, and the same three views, although it is not absolute. But I need you to work hard and take your time, and then you may find some people who can become true friends. Believe that others are not wrong. When you enter society, a company or a new environment, you must maintain 70% truth and 30% falsehood. This sentence means that you should be sincere to people and things, but you should not throw away your life and blood. You should know how to keep some limits for yourself, just in case you are "hurt", and you have enough strength to protect yourself. As time goes by, there may be someone you care about and can integrate with your life. We won’t worry too much about small monetary gains and losses, but will play and talk and consult together. This is good, keep it up.

Even if you don't have those precious real friends in the end, it's okay. It's also good to have a group of ordinary friends who are not too involved in interests. You can have dinner together and play together, which is also an essential spice in life.

Let me mention here that your hometown is in the village, which is understood as a scene in the suburbs or countryside. So, relatively speaking, people are a little simpler in life, materially and spiritually. The surrounding cities may also be small towns, so the scope is relatively limited. There may be many industry companies and many people that everyone will be familiar with. So, what do you need to know. First of all, in my hometown, housing prices, etc. are definitely much cheaper than in big cities. Maybe you can think about what the future will be like in your hometown. Although it may be stable, the development prospects will be slightly smaller. However, if you change your mind, in your hometown, you can be more conservative and follow the ideas of the older generation, find a decent job, get married and have children, and that's it. In fact, this idea is not too bad. In your hometown, let alone buying a house, there must be a place for you to live in the village. Then, you can try to buy a house in the city, or renovate it in your hometown village. The blind date you found for you is also from the next village, which means that you don't want to go to a big city and want to live a stable life in your hometown. Let's think about it this way, it may be that the strength is worse than the appearance, but this depends on the result of your blind date and your thoughts. If you were in your hometown, you might buy a house, a car, get married, or maybe take a loan or other means, and the amount could be paid off in half your lifetime. If you put it in a big city, in fact, many white-collar workers in high-end office buildings may spend their entire lives just to repay their loans. This is the case for most people. Those elites are always in the minority. You have to know a truth. If it is not absolute, the rich will either lose all their money or get richer and richer, while the poor will either get rich overnight or increase their wealth steadily and slowly. This is the roadblock that basic capital gives people. .

In fact, you need to communicate more with your parents, not necessarily the kind of heart-to-heart talk, even just a few casual conversations about home affairs. It’s okay to talk about some news hot spots and a few words about people and things at work. You will find that the surrounding environment will have different colors in your eyes.

The telecommunications company is actually pretty good, both in terms of customer service and operation and maintenance personnel. Either dealing with people or technology will be useful to you. Moreover, if you do well, you will still be competitive even if you change jobs in the future.

It’s not easy for your parents either. As for you, no matter what happens in the future, don’t spend money lavishly. If you have some money, you need to know how to save it. Don’t touch some of the money no matter what. Treat some of the money as really needed and then use it. The remaining part is for daily expenses. Don't spend money where you shouldn't. When you can't make money, your parents are also working hard. In a few years, they will also be physically tired.

If you want to go out and have a career, I support it. You are 23 now, so you still have time. If you understand what I have said above, but still want to try harder, then you should tell your parents and give them peace of mind. After all, you are here for the rest of your life. Don’t just leave without saying a word, remember! You can give yourself a period of time, for example, three years. Generally speaking, within three to five years, you can basically define your job. Otherwise, when you are almost thirty, your career and relationship will become a little more difficult. If you have the opportunity, improve your academic qualifications, or find a job in a relatively large industry, accumulate skills and work experience, and give yourself a place wherever you go. If you think about it differently, if you go back one day and have skills, that would be a good thing.

If you go to a big city to work alone, you need to have a plan, such as what kind of job you plan to do. You can find out more about it in advance on recruitment apps and the like. It will be hard in the early stage, so be frugal. This society is very cruel. In fact, it is not easy for everyone. Therefore, there will be a lot of intrigues. You have to learn to be "smarter", protect yourself, work hard to enrich yourself, and make yourself a creative person. material. Don’t be discouraged even if you keep failing. You need to know in your heart that you actually have a way out, and that is to go home.

Therefore, we must also fight for our reputation, fight for ourselves, strive for a good development, and even find a wife in the city. You still have to think for the best, you may not necessarily fail, but you have to make a plan in your mind for good or bad, and don’t get too confused. Decide how you will take this step in the future and have a rough plan.

Finally, I wish you success, whether you go out or stay in your hometown, I wish you a successful career and a happy family in the future! come on! No matter where you go, value can be realized.

Let me tell you the experience of people who have been there! This is a naive idea. Our psychology is like this. Whether it is psychological factors or family factors, they all have an impact on us. They are contradictory but not conflicting. The two are closely related. As long as we work hard and endure hardship, we will be successful no matter where we work. It doesn't matter, even if you arrive in a strange place, what can you do? You are not familiar with the place, you are helpless, and you don't even have any familiar relatives or friends. Although you can experience and grow yourself, it depends on your own courage. Moreover, our parents’ nagging is for our own good. As young people, we have to think carefully before doing anything, and we should not blindly follow the trend.

Especially now that living standards have improved, we are in a very bad situation where we can only find a way out by spending all the money we spent last month and getting paid next month. As the saying goes, everything depends on the soil and water. The consumption level of each city is different for us. As freshmen, we don’t know much about the ways of the world, so I suggest you communicate with your parents more often. Nothing can’t be solved.

Think twice before you act, do it and cherish it!

Then go! Pack your backpack and go!

If you feel stable, you can go. If you are unstable, I still don’t recommend you go. After all, it is difficult to solve any problem if you encounter no familiar people or friends in a strange city