Don't waste your talent.

The title of this film comes from Robert De Niro's film The Story of the Bronx, which tells the story of Italians gathering in the Bronx of new york in the 1960s.

Sinny, the mafia boss, is a famous local gangster. At a murder scene, the hero of the story, the nine-year-old boy Anu, witnessed all this.

For the sake of the reputation of the block, Anu refused to give up that the murderer was Sinni, which prompted them to start a friendship like a father and son.

Anu's father Robertson (played by Robert De Niro) is an ordinary bus driver with a low income and a simple life. He opposed his son's association with Sinny, fearing that his son would go astray.

Eight years later, seventeen-year-old Anu has grown into a handsome boy. Sinny's influence is gradually expanding. Anu worships Sinni more and more and yearns for gangster life. Honest and upright Roland is more and more worried about his son.

This is the main line of the whole story, showing the growth of Anu's son in two different "father" teachings in the process of advancing the main line. In these teachings, especially his father Robertson, always told him not to waste his talent.

Anu heard this sentence from his father when he was a child, but he didn't understand it. Just like watching a movie. No one knows what will happen until the movie tells the whole story.

Many problems can not be solved by imagination, but can only be found by summing up in life. Don't waste talents, but ask how not to waste talents.

On this question, many people will first ask, do I have talent?

About talent, we will think of Mozart. When he 14 years old, he listened to a classic song in the church and could write it all from memory. The song lasted about two minutes and had several parts.

If I/kloc-started learning music at the age of 0/4, I'm not even a musical idiot compared with Mozart.

Is this completely natural? Not exactly. Because Mozart had completed 3500 hours of practice at the age of 6, and it was under the guidance of his father.

What does this mean? Explain that talent is not the result of hard work, that is to say, talent is not equal to ability, it is just a potential, and you need more things to play this potential.

From this, we can recall that in the movie "The Story of the Bronx", the father said to his son, Don't waste your talent, the son will be confused that he has nothing special, but what the father wants to say is that you have it, but you need to find it and play it yourself.

So, everyone has the potential of talent, but why didn't I perform very well?

The answer is will, that is, whether we are willing to do it. Many people will wonder, of course I am willing to do it, because I really want to be an excellent person.

But that's just thinking, it represents only a will, not all.

If we regard will as a gift, it consists of three parts, one is personality, the other is motivation, and the third is values.

These three things can be combined into a will, which my father said in the movie.

But for Anu in the movie, this sentence may be just a question of whether I want it or not, but for my father, he may want to say more.

Looking back at the whole movie, every time the contradiction between Anu and his father, most of their contradictions are that Sinni is rich and respected, and his father has no money and is unknown. The son doubted the meaning and value of his father, but his father told him that it takes courage to stick to one thing for 20 years and not be tempted by money and lose yourself. In his father's view, this is his gift, because it is something he is willing to do.

This will is based on personality, motivation and values.

In terms of values, the two "fathers" conveyed different contents to Anu. One is that people who hang out with Sinny love Sinny, and people who often take his father's bus love his father, but these two kinds of love are different, one is based on fear and the other is based on gratitude.

Therefore, here, if you want to make a summary of your wishes, it is to find something that conforms to your values and can persist in doing it according to your own personality.

It seems simple, but in fact, when we talk about "will", most of us don't think so much. In the end, we always have no way to stick to it and give up. If our life is always going back and forth in this process, it must be difficult to find our own talent.

Based on this cognition, we can find that there is a distance between talent and becoming an excellent person (result), and this distance is the three cores of will: knowing yourself, being able to do it and liking to do it.

Sinny knows himself and knows that he has the ability to do it. He enjoys being feared. Father Robertson also knows his own personality. He also knows that driving a good car is within his power, and he enjoys providing such services to others.

Our poor performance is mainly because we wasted our talents.

Why do you say that? There are five reasons:

1. Is the talent used in the right place?

In the movie, Sinny, the mafia boss, and the bus driver are the people who maximize their talents and make achievements, so from this perspective, both characters are excellent. And this Excellence is based on their use of talent in the right place.

If it were changed, Sinny would drive a bus and his father Robertson would be the boss of the mafia. Their final result would be failure, because with Sinny's personality and values, he could not stand the plain life of a bus driver. Roland can't accept the superiority brought by fear.

2. Ways to give full play to talents correctly

The way to drive a good car is to drive a good car every day and serve every passenger attentively. To be the mafia boss, Sinny said in the movie, I need to be here every day so that everyone can see me and feel at ease. If you are at ease, you will have courage. If you have courage, others will not dare to bully you.

Another concept to be mentioned here is "deliberate practice". There is a theory that a genius has 10,000 hours. Many people will pay too much attention to "10,000 hours" and ignore the intention. In fact, if you just do time without deliberate efforts, you can't give full play to your talents and you can't get results.

Sidney stood there every day not to stand for 10 thousand hours, but on purpose.

Step 3 be enthusiastic

Passion is not a hobby. Sinny stands in the street every day, not because he has this hobby, but because of his sense of autonomy, ability and belonging.

The sense of autonomy is the degree of self-control over things, just like treating work. Some people do it to finish what the boss tells them, while others do it to realize their own value.

Ability is whether you can do it well. Before listening to Liang Ning, a well-known product manager, talking about products, she said that many entrepreneurs are suffering now. Why? Because they are doing things that are difficult for themselves, it takes a lot of efforts to achieve general results, which is undoubtedly a great consumption of their entrepreneurial enthusiasm.

The sense of belonging mainly comes from the feelings brought by the environment and people around us. It refers to the feeling that individuals feel recognized and accepted by others or groups, which will make us full of enthusiasm and responsibility for our work.

As far as Sinny is concerned, becoming the mafia boss is his own choice, but what is important is that this choice is under his control, not at the mercy of others. And he can do it with ease, at the same time, he has been recognized by others and felt his own value.

As he said, standing here every day can make others feel safe, which is a responsibility and a part of the source of enthusiasm.

4. Find yourself and be yourself.

Anu's partner is a group of street hooligans. They always take Anu to do bad things. Anu didn't want to go, but because of his face, he was afraid of being called a soft egg and went with him.

In the movie, a group of them are going to burn down a black shop. He sat in the car and said:

Anu is surrounded by so-called "loyalty" and "courage". He can't make his own choices according to his own heart. If he can, he should tell others. I'm afraid I'm going to resign.

Imagine, have you ever had such an experience?

Many times we will imitate others and be ourselves according to others' requirements, but is that really you? If not, the result you made is not what you want. This is a tragedy, but many people can't escape the fate of this tragedy.

Anu in the movie was lucky, because he was stopped by Sinni on the way, and four other friends went, and the last four friends were burned to death.

Verb (abbreviation for verb) stifles the environment of talent.

Many people have worked in government agencies. You will find that many shop assistants always give you a cold and negative feeling. Why? Were you born this way?

I believe that for this position, there must be service awareness and service attitude requirements when recruiting, so why do we still meet them? The reason is the influence of the environment.

People around you have such an attitude, and they will be assimilated unconsciously; Coupled with doing the same thing every day, people's energy and passion are easily consumed.

The work with single content and repeated every day will lead to the decline of active thinking ability; Working with a very standardized and standard process will lead to the loss of spirit to challenge and overcome difficulties; Dealing with machines every day will weaken your social skills. ...

These are the effects of environment on talent.

Speaking of which, let's sum up Robert De Niro's film The Bronx Story and what he often said to his son, "Don't waste your talent".

The ending of the film is that Sinni is killed by his enemy, and Anu returns to his ordinary family, away from the mafia. This ending reminds me of the question Anu asked Sinny: If you choose between being loved and being afraid, do you want others to be afraid of you or love you?

Sinny's answer is that if I have to choose one, I will choose to be afraid of me.

Father always tells his son that Sinny is not worthy of your worship, because this worship is based on fear, not love.

Sinny's death seems to give us an answer: Sinny is wrong. But in Sinny's mourning hall, my father said to Sinny, I have never hated you.

This is a kind of reconciliation. But judging from the theme of this article, Sinny and his father Roland are actually the same person. They have not wasted their talents, but they may both be wasted geniuses.