Immigrant families object

The Kite Runner tells the story of an Afghan immigrant to the United States. He betrayed his childhood friendship and redeemed him as an adult. The author delicately outlined a story about family friendship and betrayal and redemption of human nature, which brought great spiritual shock to readers.

This book focuses on the affection and friendship of the protagonist Amir, but it does not describe much about his love, but it is also an indispensable part, because his love is actually a part of his spiritual salvation.

Amir's wife, Suraya, is the daughter of an Afghan general. /kloc-when she was 0/8 years old, she eloped with an Afghan drug addict and lived together for nearly a month because of rebellion and stupidity. Then he was forcibly brought back by his father, and soon his family immigrated to the United States because of the war.

Suraya is unfortunate, because she was born into a noble family, and she is a pure Pashtun. Just because she made that mistake, everyone talked about her innocence and dignity, forcing her to bear the crime. Even though times have changed, she can still hear these words in the United States, which is three thousand miles away. Since then, no matchmaker has ever knocked on her door.

Suraya was lucky again, because she met Amir and his father. His father is an extraordinary Afghan father. He is a free man who lives according to his own rules. He always looks at whether social norms are reasonable first, and then decides whether to obey or refuse. Amir doesn't care about her past, largely because he has a past himself. Although he admitted that his dignity was hurt after knowing her experience, he always thought of a question: why should I blame others for my past?

This is indeed a question that makes people (especially men) think deeply. Although the present society is a society of equality between men and women, it is still a society dominated by men. Influenced by thousands of years of feudal society in China, many men still have the idea that men are superior to women. Perhaps it is self-esteem, and every man always wants to be a woman's first man. But who doesn't have the past? Besides, in love, who can guarantee that you haven't met many love rat?

And men, how many people can guarantee that they will not become love rat. As Suraya said, "Their sons hang out in bars at night, have fun, get pregnant with their big girlfriend, and have children out of wedlock. No one will gossip. Oh, they are just men having fun. "

So, why should women take responsibility for the mistakes made by men? Why can't a woman with a past have love? Perhaps the answer can be found in Amir's original words: "After all, I have never taken a woman to bed."

But Amir decided to marry Suraya. It turned out that his choice was right. Suraya is so gentle and kind. It was her support and encouragement that finally made Amir embark on the road of spiritual redemption and found his lost personality.

After reading this story, I can't help thinking of a friend who came to see me the other day.

He fell in love with a divorced woman with children. He is going to take it home to meet his parents. He is going to marry her. But he knew that his parents wouldn't agree, and his friends hardly thought highly of them. A marriage without the blessing of family and friends will not be happy, but he is so firm to her.

He came to me and asked me to give him some advice. I know that the real purpose of his coming to me is not to suggest, but to find supporters.

I said, I have no better advice for you, but I want to hear your story and give you my blessing.

He smiled and said that her past was unfortunate, which made her feel very sad and guilty. And she is very considerate. I have never met anyone so sincere to me. I am sad because I didn't appear in her life earlier, which made her suffer so much less. I'm also glad that it's because that man doesn't cherish it that I have the opportunity to meet such a good woman. Everyone's past deserves respect. We can't stand at the highest point of morality and blame anyone. We have no right! She loves me, and I love her! We will be happy!

Later, as I expected, he was strongly opposed by his family, but he pushed his way through the crowd and finally persuaded his family to accept them.

I think a man with love in his heart will not care about others' past. Respecting others' past is actually a kind of self-tolerance and spiritual redemption!

shachihoko