After Li Yong died, Havin insisted on not remarrying, and gave her in-laws living expenses regularly. Why?

Ha Wen has moved to the United States to take care of her daughter Famaitu, who was born to Li Yong. She has always regarded herself as Li's daughter-in-law and will come back to visit her parents whenever she has time. From this perspective, she didn't break her promise to her parents after Li Yong's death.

First, Li Yong did not break her promise to her parents after her death. If she has a bad relationship with her in-laws, it makes sense not to let her in-laws attend Li Yong's funeral. But if the relationship is not good, why should she give her in-laws living expenses regularly? Havin, who has always been strong and brave, panicked when he learned that her husband had cancer. She thought to herself, "Her husband is only 49 years old. What should she do if her husband is gone? " What should my husband's 70-year-old parents and daughter who is only 10 do? "

However, worry comes to worry, but Havin didn't show her worries and anxieties, because she knew that her husband had been plagued by illness and she had to shoulder the responsibility of the family. Seeing that Li Yong was worried about his health and illness, Havin comforted him helplessly: "Don't think blindly. Now that medicine is so advanced, cancer is no big deal. Many people have been cured. We must have confidence! " In order to treat the disease with more peace of mind, the two decided to go to the United States for treatment after discussion.

There are two reasons for not getting treatment in China. First, their daughter Famaitu was studying abroad. Second, if she was treated in China, once she was discovered by the media, Li Yong's elderly parents would definitely know about it, which they did not want to see. Before going to America, Li Yong, accompanied by his wife Ha Wen, went back to his hometown in Xinjiang to meet his parents. When his parents asked him why he suddenly wanted to go abroad, he said, "Go abroad to spend some time with his daughter." Even he didn't expect that this would be his last meeting with his parents.

After settling everything at home, Li Yong followed Havin's company to the United States. Because I didn't explain why I suddenly went abroad, I was questioned by many netizens and the media after going abroad. Some people say that Li Yong emigrated, others say that he earned enough money and began to enjoy life. Before he died, Li Yong told Havin not to transport the body back to China for burial for two reasons. First, the distance is too far, and it will cost a lot of money to transport it back. He wants to save money and leave it to his family. Second, his daughter Famaitu was studying abroad, and he wanted to stay there with her. At the same time, he also said to Havin, "Mom and Dad are old, so don't let them come over."

Ha Wen helps her husband Li Yong take care of her in-laws and pays them living expenses regularly every month. So before Li Yong's funeral, when Li Yong's parents asked to come and attend their son's funeral, Havin declined them. Ha Wen said, "Mom and Dad, he is afraid that you will be too tired. He told me not to come before he died, so don't come. " After Li Yong's funeral, she was probably afraid of what Li Yong's parents would think. Havin called her in-laws again. She said, "Mom and Dad, although Li Yong is gone, you still have me and Fametu." "You will always be my parents-in-law, I will always be the daughter-in-law of the Li family, and I will always be the Li family!"

After hearing Ha Wen's words, Li Yong's parents were saddened by the death of their son Li Yong, but at the same time they were pleased to have this good daughter-in-law. Parents, accompanied by their daughter-in-law, finally accepted this fact slowly after a period of pain. It has been four years since Li Yong died. Havin has shouldered the responsibility of taking care of this family since her husband died of illness. Not only does she insist on not remarrying, but in order to help her husband Li Yong take care of her in-laws, she also gives her in-laws living expenses regularly every month, so that they can have food, clothing, housing and transportation.

Usually, every once in a while, she will call and chat with her parents-in-law, spend time with them and let them enjoy their old age. Under her care, my in-laws are now living well and in good health, although they are old. The only thing that makes my in-laws feel sorry is that it has been four years since their son died of illness, and they have not been able to visit Li Yong's grave. But with the healing of time and the care of their daughters, they also understood the intentions of their sons and daughters-in-law, and they have already let go.