Sometimes, perhaps "escape" is also a solution.

Many years ago, I believed in one thing: if there is a problem, we should face it directly and then solve it. This is the key to cultivating solving ability. But then I found that the more I faced some problems, especially some big problems that I couldn't directly control (such as immigration, career bottleneck, promotion/transfer), the more I couldn't change. During that time, I was particularly sad. I think my life has reached a dead end. I don't talk to the same group of people about the same topic every day. I can't find the exit, and I can't see the light.

So, I "flinched" and chose "escape", too lazy to think about it.

I turned my attention away from these major events and put more thoughts on reading, attending book clubs, studying, making other friends and other unimportant things. At the beginning, I also labeled myself as "escape". However, it was later discovered that it was because I "escaped" that the big problem mentioned above was solved. Maybe it was then that I really understood why reading is a safe haven, and we seek comfort in books. But I not only found comfort, but also my mentality and ability are quietly changing.

During that time on the run, I really had no choice. Attending or organizing a book club on weekends has actually become a kind of interest in my life, bringing a glimmer of light. As a result, the book club was ok later. I have been known by some friends, and our reading water has also been paid attention to by some media themes. Get familiar with my little friend, and you will know the story behind it. But there is a plot I want to share with you: we will always live in the world of mortals, we still need a grounded life, and we still need to live a life of indulging in oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea. But paying attention to myself and developing myself did bring a turn for the better to my objective world.

At that time, I wrote a letter to the Singapore Immigration Bureau and talked about my "great achievements". As a result, I got a green card. But it may also be a coincidence, because we really waited a long time for our green card, so I couldn't help but go to the immigration office. But there is no suitable reason and it is not suitable, so I wrote a very unique letter to them. Brother Yang praised me for this trick and praised me for writing well. But it was after I sent this special letter that our green card was approved on the third day. I can't do it without feeling my initiative.

I didn't really do many other things during the two years when I avoided facing "immigration", "green card" and "promotion". Most of the time, I just read books and hold book clubs. Because at that time, I didn't know what I could do to change or work hard. But two years later, because of the change of thinking brought by reading and the social circle brought back by reading, my life has actually changed a lot. I saw the long-awaited light.

It was also at that time that I seemed to realize what "letting go" was. At first, facing the problems of the big environment, "letting go" is actually more helpless. But looking back on this period, it is also a temporary strategy to seek truth. It's just that during this period, we have studied and explored a lot, which may be a process of breaking the wall in a dead end.

So now I especially believe that when we are in adversity, we can "escape" temporarily. You can think of it as a "dormant period" and "hide your strength and bide your time". Don't be bound by superficial needs. Although stubbornness and confrontation are valuable, so many roads can lead to the same goal, so we must analyze specific problems. In the face of some big objective problems, or things that we can't change for the time being, escaping may be the best policy. Also, we avoid doing some small things in life, which shows that they may not be important at all. What I want to say today is that the word escape may not be so annoying.