The real feeling of immigrating to Japan

Everyone says that Japanese people live too tired, and so do China people living in Japan. I only listen to China people living abroad about their life experiences, but no one knows whether they are tired or not without personal experience. Lily is a China native who successfully immigrated to Japan. She's always been among pure Japanese? Latent? 10 years, recently cashed in? A promotion? The deputy director of the neighborhood Committee successfully integrated into Japanese society. The following is her real feelings about living in Japan 10. Please follow the immigration network to find out.

Let's draw a conclusion first. Compared with living in China, living in Japan is much more tiring. As far as my experience is concerned, there are only two kinds of people who are not tired of living in Japan: one is people who don't have to bear any responsibility and only enjoy ready-made convenience; The other is a person who is very capable and takes pleasure in dedication. In the first five years or so of living in Japan, I was not tired of living in Japanese society except taking care of my two children myself. On the contrary, I think Japanese society is very convenient and warm for women and children.

When the boss first entered kindergarten, I asked other mothers if I didn't understand anything. Japanese mothers are like big sisters to little sisters. Everyone is patient and cares about me. I started working in a high school in the sixth year after I settled in Japan. I have to work and take care of my children, which makes me feel that time is not enough, but I am not tired of work and interpersonal relationships. I think I am good at getting along with my colleagues, and the leaders never blame me for a little mistake. He is always cheerful to me, and his colleagues are willing to help me clean up the mess. I'm really tired of living in Japan since the past two years. Feel the coldness in the eyes of some people around you, feel the Japanese? Equality? The cruelty of consciousness, began to feel heavy responsibility, interpersonal relationships are tired.

At first, I wondered why people were not as warm and friendly to me as before. It took me a long time to understand why. It turns out that I have always been in the first person position, that is? People who don't have to bear any responsibility and only enjoy ready-made convenience? .

Because I am a foreigner and have two very young children to take care of, I have been taken care of silently by others. I just gave birth to a baby for a month, and my aunt in town came to the door and said it was your turn to build a garbage net every day last month to prevent animals from hurting me. We changed it on our own initiative, and it will be your turn next month. If it's inconvenient for you, don't use it this time. It doesn't matter if we do more. I said I couldn't help it. I thanked them for taking the initiative to help me adjust for a month. The mayor also sent a gift and a newspaper to congratulate him. There are news and cartoons in the newspaper with the theme of congratulating Momo on his birth. It is said that he asked his daughter to draw it for me herself. Kindergarten mother also takes care of me. I don't understand, there is something wrong with the rules of kindergarten, and everyone takes the initiative to help me out. A child had to take pictures while rehearsing a performance. Because I didn't bring clothes for Xiaoya, I couldn't drive right away. Other mothers specially drove to my house to pick it up. When white pantyhose need to be dressed, some mothers will ask me before buying them for their children, do you want to buy them for you together?

A few years ago, I became accustomed to the selfless care of people around me and unconsciously took it for granted. With the increase of years of living in Japan, children have grown up, their Japanese level has improved, they have taken care of themselves completely, they have a job, they have lived a completely different life from those around them, and they have gradually fully integrated into Japanese society, and their attitudes have also changed. When children go to kindergarten and mothers elect parents' meeting members, I said I lacked the ability and time, so you can forgive me. When the children go to primary school, I find that if I find another reason to refuse my responsibility, it will only attract the cold eyes of people around me.

In the past, the Japanese around me were very enthusiastic and concerned about me, not because the Japanese themselves were so kind to everyone, but because they thought I really needed help, so they helped me a lot silently, even though many people still couldn't remember their names. However, with the enhancement of their own ability, they regard me as a completely equal person with them, which inevitably requires me to bear the same responsibility. It would be ridiculous to expect special treatment and hope that people around me can lend me a helping hand as enthusiastically as before.

A few days ago, the chairman of the town council (equivalent to China's neighborhood committee) came to me and told me that there was still a lack of a deputy head of the town this year. He thought about me, and then asked me if I could be a deputy district chief for a year. I am really embarrassed. I have two children and a home. I have to look after everything by myself. I have a job. Moreover, I plan to be a parent-teacher conference member in children's primary school for another year this year, and there are many things to do. The rule of children's primary school is that a child must be a Committee member for two years. Xiaoya will become a fourth-grade student in April. If I don't hurry to be a member for the second time this year, the workload of the Committee will suddenly increase when the children enter the fifth and sixth grades. Besides, we are renting a house now and will move to other places in a few years. I can completely shirk the responsibility of the deputy district chief.

But on second thought, the warden came to me and said he respected me. If she thinks I can't do it at all, she won't think of me at all. Although I'm terribly busy, who doesn't have his own problems? No one who helped me silently before complained about how busy he was. Everyone tries to make others feel comfortable. In Japan, responsibility belongs to everyone, and everyone should take turns to take responsibility.

Living in Japan is tiring because we have never received such meticulous self-control education from the details of life to social rules as in Japan, and we do not have such a strong sense of social responsibility. For example, Japan's health environment, food safety, product quality, etc., without strict management and a high degree of consciousness, can not be so reassuring and trustworthy. Even in ordinary families, everyone has his own responsibility to society. For example, there are two garbage cans stacked in my kitchen, one for raw garbage and the other for plastic products. There are three garbage cans for cans, steel cans, plastic bottles and so on outside. Children are used to washing milk boxes, cutting them open and drying them after drinking milk. Such children will not feel that garbage sorting is a very troublesome thing when they grow up, but should do it. In the future, they will bring this awareness to their work and naturally think about the environment and the future.

When I have done all these little things at home and no longer feel troublesome and tired, it is my turn to do things for the society and take care of people who need help more than me. In addition to sweeping the snow in front of the door, local residents should take turns to clean the garbage dropped from the garbage station, sprinkle disinfectant to prevent pests and diseases, and cover the garbage with nets every day to prevent animals such as cats and crows. Twice a year, everyone should send someone to clean the sanitation in the town, so that the garbage station will always be clean and tasteless, and the small park where children play will not be overgrown with weeds. In addition to ensuring basic living conditions, there are various sports games and temple fairs in the community. From organization, planning to specific preparation, each family took turns to go into battle. If you want to enjoy it, you have to pay the same amount, or enjoy it this time and pay wholeheartedly next time. Only when the social environment and atmosphere are good can children grow up healthier and happier.

In Japan, everyone is instilled with a sense of responsibility from an early age, and older people learn to take care of the weak. Children in the sixth grade should take care of children in the first grade, accompany them to eat and play, and teach them how to clean the toilet. Even kindergarten children who are five or six years old in large classes should learn to take care of children in small classes and help them put on and take off their clothes one by one. Therefore, a person who lives in society is not tired when it is not his turn to take responsibility and just enjoy it. You will feel tired when it's your turn to pay. Especially when I have a lot of things to do and I'm not good at it, I feel more tired. If you want to live in Japan, you have to work hard to improve your ability and enhance your sense of dedication. This is exactly the direction I intend to work hard in the future.