Ageless life and women’s self-management

I saw an article on a blog a few days ago about ageless living. The content was about a couple applying for immigration. The author was very curious because they had no children and no elderly people. Well, families who immigrate abroad generally do so to create a good learning environment for their children, but they do apply to immigrate abroad when they are old. Why is this? This is the answer of the old couple: "We want to live an ageless life, but the social environment in China is not good. After retirement, most of the elderly in China help take care of their children, and they gather together to raise things in their free time. When the family is short, the grandchildren of each family chat about what they are doing. All the elderly pursue is to help their children. When they are unable to help anymore, they can only sigh and wait for death all day long. We don’t want to live such an old life, and the elderly abroad People all have their pursuits after retirement. Some play roller skating like young people, and some travel around the world. They live an ageless life. The two old people are walking tremblingly, but they still support each other when traveling. We cannot integrate into their old life at home and have to live abroad."

Since my child got married, many people now ask me when they see me: "Has my son retired? Will I have to help my children take care of their grandchildren in the future? "If I answer: "I won't help them take care of their children," some will say that I am a fake person and don't tell the truth. Say that is what you are saying now, and when you see how cute your grandson is after you retreat, you will rush to take him.

I have also mentioned in my blog before a professor Yang from my college. She was confident and hard-working when she was young and her ideas were different from those in China. Because she is a returnee from studying abroad, I have always been very fond of her. Appreciating her and chatting with her is a kind of reward, because she has a different life philosophy and values ????from Chinese people for me to learn from. I learned a lot of knowledge from her, so I always love to socialize and chat with her.

But time is really a butcher's knife. Now she has changed a lot. In terms of thinking, since she had her grandson, she has become the same as the old lady in China. She loves to talk about her grandson. He never talks about his grandson. He always shows his photo to everyone and keeps showing it to you. I looked at it once and showed it to you again the next time we meet again. He keeps talking about his grandson. After I change the topic, she I don’t want to talk anymore. In terms of women's self-management, she no longer does beauticians. She introduced me to beauticians when I started doing beauties. She told me how Japanese women take care of their skin and body shape, and how women wear clothes. She would dress more appropriately, but she has stopped doing beauty treatments for ten years now, and her face is aging very badly. One time when she was talking about her grandson in my office again, I sighed bluntly: "Teacher Yang, your current performance has disappointed me." She didn't understand at first, and I later said: "I just met him." How beautiful were you when you were there? You were well dressed and took me for a beauty treatment, but now I don’t want to look at your face! (I’m really too blunt). Naturally, she wasn’t happy after hearing what I said. I can only say that I am six years older than you. When you are six years old, you can look at yourself again. I replied: "I will still be the same in six years as I am now. I will not change much. I will always take care of myself." of".

The above topics lead to another topic I want to talk about today: women’s self-management.

Foreign women will still dress themselves up when they are old, and the clothes they wear are very bright, but domestic women will no longer dress themselves up after they reach a certain age. Sometimes I will ask them why they don’t dress up. When she touches her face, she will say: "I'm not going to look for you anymore, so why bother?". No wonder the ancients said: "A woman likes her beauty." Chinese women dress up and put on a lot of makeup to find a good one. Men (and the good men in the eyes of this type of woman are also rich men or men with good family conditions), once she finds the ideal man and gets married, she will no longer manage herself, and her goals will be her children and husband. , so I have been unable to communicate with this type of woman, resulting in me not having many friends, and I am very aloof in the eyes of others.

A few days ago I met a teacher from the School of Science on my way to work. Teacher Zhao and I often met her on our way to get off work. Teacher Zhao lived in the same building with her, so we were very familiar with her, so occasionally I would I would chat with her for a few words. I have been in poor health recently and often wake up in the middle of the night and can't sleep anymore, so I am always late for work. She also went to work very late that day, so we met her on the road. I was a little embarrassed because I was late. So I naturally wanted to explain. I subconsciously didn't want to leave a bad impression on her who was unfamiliar with her. Then I sighed to her: "It's true that age is not forgiving. As we age, we have more and more physical problems." I feel so uncomfortable lately.” After hearing what I said, she replied: “How old are you!” Because I look very young, people often say this to me, and when I said I will be next year. After she retired, she was so surprised that she opened her mouth: "How old are you? I always thought you were only in your forties." After hearing this, I said: "We administrative staff are not like you who retire at fifty-five. Teachers and associate professors can retire at the age of sixty!" After hearing what I said, she explained: "I am not a teacher, I am also an office worker, and I also retire at the age of fifty-five!" I looked at her fat figure and that face. The nearly sixty-year-old face asked: "Huh? How old are you?" She explained sheepishly: "I am only fifty years old, but I look much older than you. How do you stay so young? ", I said: "I have been doing skin care since I was in my thirties, and I basically do facial masks once or twice a week." After hearing this, she said: "No wonder you look young, I have been doing skin care since I was a child. I have never done a facial mask, and I rarely use cosmetics. I just put some cream on my face after washing my face.”

Every good habit can only be fully proven through the baptism of time. I have always been very strict with my face and figure. Although I was not pretty among my peers when I was young, but now Among my peers, I am already considered the most beautiful, because they no longer manage themselves after getting married and having children, but after I got married and had children, I have always paid attention to taking care of my body and face. When I was young, my family always bought a scale. , I will weigh myself every once in a while, and if I am overweight, I will lose weight, so when I was 46 years old, I still maintained a weight of about 95 pounds. Wherever I go, I will be praised and praised by everyone, only my now remarried husband He doesn’t like my figure and always says I’m too thin, especially that I don’t look good with no fat on my face (his eyes are always different from others, and all my advantages become shortcomings in his eyes), just because He always said this maliciously in front of me, which made me relax my self-control, so in the few years after remarrying him, my weight increased to 118 pounds. At that time, I found that many of my clothes could no longer be worn and my own My belly was protruding and ugly, and then my husband started making fun of my belly (only then did I realize his bad intentions when he said those words. She was afraid that I would take good care of myself and be too proud in front of him, right? ).

I have been trying to lose weight since last year, but it is easier to gain weight than to lose weight. I have tried every means and so far I have only lost a few kilograms, which is 112 kilograms. I want to reduce it to 104. It’s just a pound, so I recently ordered winter melon and lotus leaf tea online. After drinking it for a week, although I haven’t lost any weight, my stomach has begun to soften. In the past, when my belly protruded, it would make a loud sound, like the sound of a ripe watermelon. This is no longer the case. It seems to have started to have results, and my constipation has improved after drinking it. I used to have a bowel movement only once every three days or five days, but now I have a bowel movement once a day. I don’t feel any discomfort after drinking it. I have a big appetite and always feel hungry, but I control my diet and don’t eat too much. If I’m really hungry, I’ll eat an apple. I’ve been eating an apple for breakfast every day for a month, and I’ll eat another apple when I’m hungry. I also try to eat more vegetables and less meat. Although I haven't lost much weight, my belly has obviously become much smaller, and my waistline has become visible when I wear skirts.

Because of my good appearance, I am particularly confident in front of outsiders. Now wherever I go, people will involuntarily praise me for my youth when they know my actual age. So I have always believed that women’s self-management is the same. An investment that invests your time and energy in return to give you a good mental outlook and self-confidence.