Those dreams you risked having.

I spent a night watching the original book "My First Half Life", which was hearty. Instead, I went to see a TV series. After only ten minutes, I decided to give up the drama. In the play, Zijun is full of domineering, red and purple, and overexerts himself. He called his friend Tang Jing and asked about her husband's suspicious mistress. This is by no means the female image written by the teacher. No wonder every hot article criticizes housewives for their lack of initiative. I don't know the future direction of Zijun's role in TV series. In the original book, although Zijun lived a luxurious life, he didn't make a fuss when he met life changes, but talked calmly with Juansheng. In the thick line, she did not find that her husband had been cheating for more than a year. She is like a spoiled little girl, who only cares about her own needs and ignores her husband's work. She firmly believes that a loyal dog husband will never betray herself. When all this happened, she had to choose to accept it. Throughout the novel, she only chose to accept it. She can accept the impermanence of life and be more self-reliant. She likes things, but she is not obsessed. She depends on men to some extent, which is my favorite female appearance. Those experiences and lessons condensed from life are still talked about by people even 35 years after the novel was published.

Zijun had afternoon tea with his best friend Tang Jing, and was called home by her husband Juansheng, but she was divorced. She never imagined that her honest and even cowardly husband had another woman outside. As if suddenly abandoned by her obedient and spoiled father, Zijun panicked. For thirteen years, she has been well fed, cared for by a nanny at home, picked up by a driver when going out, and her daily pastime is shopping for clothes. This life was suddenly broken, and she was even asked by Juansheng to leave home. As she herself said, "A woman with a good husband suddenly becomes worth a hundred times. As soon as her husband left, she immediately returned to her original shape. " She suddenly didn't know where to go. Fortunately, Tang Jing, who is self-reliant and independent, gave me direction. If people can live to be 70 years old, they are now 35 years old, and they have finished the first half of their lives, but you still have the second half of your life waiting for you. Your life span is so long that no one died of divorce. You must plan for the future.

Zijun finally moved out of the big house and bought a remote apartment with the divorce compensation given by Juansheng. He went to work, read books and learned pottery. She has never lived alone, but she still managed to spend a lonely night. The hobby she developed after work finally made her successful. She makes creative products with the pottery master and earns a lot of money. Even such a career gave Zijun confidence. When she met her second spring, she mentioned her own spring. After all, she was hit and lived flexibly. When everyone praised Zijun for breaking into a new situation after his divorce, she felt that people looked down on themselves too much. She thought Zijun would commit suicide or starve to death, but neither happened as she expected, which made others sit up and take notice.

In fact, the blow Zijun encountered is common to ordinary women, not necessarily divorce, but must have a variety of trivial and complicated lives. My mother always said that people live all their lives and plan to struggle for a thousand years. You must make a plan for your future. Under her influence, I became a special person who was prepared for danger in times of peace. My short-term and long-term plans for three years a year are constantly being refurbished. After making a long-term plan, people become calm, and even if changes come, they will not panic.

Encouraged by Tang Jing, Zijun began to look for a job. She couldn't believe her eyes when she saw the employment column in the newspaper. The salary is so low that college students only have a basic salary of more than 3000. Although she said that the opportunity was promising and rose quickly, it was a history of blood and tears from the bottom to the promotion, and Zijun's heart immediately panicked. "If you don't want to teach, the personnel are relatively simple." Tang Jing threw cold water on her. There is no heaven in the world, and everything is equally difficult. For Tang Jing, who has worked hard in the workplace for more than ten years, what kind of suffering has not been experienced, just as she laughed at herself: "Who is born to work hard?" The world is like a Malaysian troupe, whose squad leader is called' Life', standing behind us with a whip and beating us hard, forcing us to jump into the ring of fire and climb up the mountain. Are you afraid to go? As soon as the whip sounded, he gritted his teeth and got on the bus. "

Just like the current articles and public opinion are one-sided, thinking that staying in a big city has a future, and returning to a small town will not make progress. Under such "brainwashing", I once wrote in an article that a colleague left the comfortable and comfortable Chengdu to work in Shanghai, and some readers unfairly said that Chengdu is very comfortable, but in fact no city is necessarily comfortable. The comfort of Chengdu is the comfort of natural conditions, which does not mean that everyone working in Chengdu is comfortable. Although I only touched on it in the article and didn't exaggerate the advantages of big cities in great length, I immediately apologized to this reader, with no intention of offending. Nowadays, many articles from the media are extreme. When an opinion comes out, many people immediately follow the trend from the media and then evolve into mainstream values. It is really biased to let yourself unconsciously live in a chain of contempt. Since then, I have been reflecting on myself. There is really no easy life. No matter where you are, even if you are in the poem and in the distance, you still can't escape diesel, rice and salt. Big cities are no better than small cities, and civil servants are no more leisurely than white-collar office workers. We have chosen a way of life, and we all need to strive to upgrade and constantly break through ourselves.

In the novel, I envy Zijun most for having Tang Jing, a smart, capable and extremely transparent girlfriend. No matter what problems Zijun encounters, Tang Jing is always the first to stand up and help her. However, once we are inseparable, we are still far apart. One day, Zijun made an appointment with her younger sister. Ziqun said that Tang Jing has a boyfriend and has lived together. Zijun, who was kept in the dark, was first stunned and then very angry. After more than 30 years of friendship, he will tell Tang Jing big and small things. Why did Tang Jing hide such a big thing from himself? The more zijun thinks about it, the angrier he gets. He went to the apartment to find Tang Jing, only to find Zijun's apartment in a mess. Zijun thought that Tang Jing was going to decorate the house, but he never imagined that Zijun would immigrate to Australia with her fiance. Tang Jing sighed deeply and said, "Zijun, your trouble is that no one will ever support you." Juansheng left, you caught me, and now I have to go, and you are equally sad. Zijun, how can you adapt to being so naive? "Like a bolt from the blue, friends separated for many years, I don't know when I can meet again. Zijun is in great pain.

Seeing this paragraph, I feel the same way. Losing a good friend is much more painful than being lovelorn. When I was in my mid-twenties, all my close friends got married and had children. It's like for a moment, suddenly it's just me. I want to see them during the holiday, ask A, and A tells her husband to go out to play. Ask B, B said to go back to her parents' house, C said to take care of the baby. A friend even bluntly said, I think we all have our own lives, so don't bother us often in the future. My once inseparable friend suddenly left like this. I panicked. All good things must come to an end. Everyone has his own family and life. It seems that I am a lost property, and I haven't waited for the owner to claim it. I'm always running around disturbing others. I'm sad to be back in my life. Now we have contact occasionally, but I know we can never go back. As Zijun's ceramic master said to Zijun, the population is mobile, and no one can accompany you for a lifetime. Cultivate personal interests early, and you can arrange flowers and raise fish when you are old. I think many girls will break up in friendship, and then learn to live alone, learn to please themselves and go on.

Zijun's salary in the first month after work is 4200. Her hands were shaking, and she thought it was real hard-earned money. There was a trickle before, and she spent money like water. Now she has only herself, and she has to pay the mortgage every month. It's really hard. She can't even afford a dress. Finally, she realized the hardships of ordinary women's self-reliance.

The female author read many articles and wrote thousands of words to explain why she loves money and why women want money. At first glance, I think these articles are particularly funny. Who doesn't love money? Why should they talk about it everywhere? I have never seen a man explain to everyone why he loves money and why he tries to make money, because the benefits that money brings to men are obvious, and men themselves have been instilled with universal social values: men should make money to support their families. But women, in the past, women have been taught to be husbands and children. Nowadays, with the progress of society, more and more women enter the workplace and play an increasingly important role. These women live a wonderful life and lead their own lives, which is the growth brought to them after economic independence. Interestingly, under the influence of a large number of inspirational articles, modern women become more independent and support their lives on their own.

Take myself for example. When I was in college, the hardest thing every month was asking my parents for living expenses. Although I try my best to save some pocket money, I always make ends meet. So I have been eager to graduate early and achieve economic independence. It was not until I graduated that I realized that "economic independence" could not be achieved by shouting slogans casually. When you make your life better by your own efforts and have disposable cash to buy things you like, people's confidence is accumulated step by step, which makes people confident from the inside out. To put it bluntly, these are all piles of money. As Zhang Ailing said, I like money. One of my female colleagues, who just turned 30 this year, paid a down payment for a house with her savings, which made me envious. She said, you know what? Making money is addictive.

Yes, when money brings you into a more comfortable life, can you not be addicted?

At the end of the novel, Zijun's career and love are fruitful, and even her daughter who once disliked her for not contributing to her family is sincerely appreciated. Mom, I like you now. You are getting more and more lively.

I like this story, everyone can find their own shadow, and we are not lucky enough to have a smooth life. JJ Lin sang, "Those dreams make you take risks, and I will go crazy with you. When the origami plane encounters rainy days, it will eventually fall. " In the real world of reinforced concrete, after all, we still need live ammunition to resist the test of this life. I think this is not only a girl's story, but also tells all of us that after being slapped by life, we still have to move forward bravely. The scenery is so good, our life still has a long way to go, and the road is indeed a bit crooked, but what does it matter? We will eventually arrive in Rome.

Luck is an adventurous dream. What you earn is the most precious and emboldened.